Isnt It Supposed To Get A Little Easier?, As time goes on? Options

[MyJack]

It's been 16 days since I lost my wonderful fur-baby, Jack. Of course, in the beginning, I was a miserable wreck and didnt do too well. I thought as some time would go on, I'd start to feel at least a *little* better.

Well, I dont. In fact, I was telling my husband last night that I feel worse every day. It's not the same intense physical pain I had when we first lost him, but it's more a constant depressed state. I've been remembering some good but also sad parts of his passing, like when I watched him take his last breath, I looked at the vet who listened with his telescope and he looked at me and nodded and confirmed Jack was gone. I canNOT get that image out of my mind the last two days.

I know it's been such a short time, but honestly I (stupidly) thought I'd be feeling a little better by now. I'm still finding his hair around the house and everytime I see some, I break down because I cant bring myself to clean it...it's like he'll really be gone forever once his hair is out of the house....am I making sense?

I'm not sure what I'm asking, or if I'm asking anything...I guess I just needed to vent a little.

Dawn

[QorquisDad]

Hi Dawn,

I've read here that it takes about a month for each year your furbaby was in your life before you start to feel basically "normal" again. It's only been 2 weeks, and Jack was just shy of 11 years old, so it's not unusual at all that you're still feeling really strong emotions.

It's been 4 months and 20 days since Qorqui was killed, and I still have bad days. They're nowhere near as bad as the first 3 or 4 weeks were, and not all that often anymore, but I do still have them.

As time goes on you will feel better, but you have to give it some time. Jack was a key part of your life for lots of years. It's going to take a while to adjust to life without him. Even though you may have the physical routines worked out, the mental and emotional adjustment takes a lot longer.

Be patient, it will get better. In the mean time, be good to yourself.

Tim