I Still Feel So Sad Options

[audreyj]

my 13yr old cat..buddy died end of july....he threw a clot to his lower limbs and the vet said he could treat buddy, but it would be painful and he may end up lame or paralyzed and he did not recommend treatment ,but to have buddy put down. the vet was very good...he made a house call and buddy was cuddled up in his favorite blanket on my lap when the vet administered the injection. i know it was the right thing to do...but i still feel so sad and miss buddy every day. we still have his brother...smudge, but i feel so lost and sad.

[moon_beam]

Hi, audrey, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Buddy. Losing a companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company. Euthanasia is the last gift of love we can give to our companions at great sacrifice to ourselves so that they can be restored to their former youthfulness in the company of the angels.

Audrey, this grief journey is one of the hardest experiences you will know on this side of eternity. It is a journey filled with many different emotions that can overwhelm us all at one time which is one of the many reasons why it is frequently referred to as a horror roller coaster ride. It is a journey that can only be traveled one day at a time sometimes one moment at a time in your own way as you are now on a journey that is filled with all the first withouts and the memories that can be all too painful right now that include this time yesterday, last week, last month, last year to endure. And with the holidays approaching it is very normal for the grief to feel more intense.

One of the many things you need to remember is that love is eternal - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. The love bond you and your beloved Buddy share is eternal, and your beloved Buddy's sweet Living Spirit continues to share your earthly journey as he always has and always will - - for he is always and forever a part of your heart and memories - - he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you.

I know all too well from first hand experience that when our hearts are entrenched in deep grief there are no adequate words in any language that can soothe the searing pain of sorrow. Still I hope the words I share with you will offer you some measure of comfort, support, encouragement, and hope as you travel your grief adjustment journey.

Thank you so much for honoring us in sharing your beloved Buddy with us, audrey. Perhaps sometime you will feel up to sharing a picture of him with us - - but only when / if you want to. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[Remembering Dais...]

A thought that helped me and might help you was that my dog was born on this earth with the life expectancy of a dog. I didn't cause that. That's just how it is. But, while she was here, I tried to give her the best possible life, filled with love, affection and care. And when her life was over, I let the Vet help her leave without pain or fear (although I feel that I should have done it two days earlier). If I had never known Daisy, she would have still lived and died, but maybe she wouldn't have had such a wonderful life and I would not have felt such grief. So, the question for me was - Was Daisy worth the pain that I felt? Would it have been better if I had never known her?

The answer is clear. There is no doubt - Daisy was worth it and more. I would have not missed a minute of my time with her, no matter how much grief I felt when she left us.

Buddy lived a long life and I'm sure it was filled with love and joy. If you had not known him, you would not be feeling grief now, but he almost certainly wouldn't have had the wonderful life he did with you. So, when the grief is particularly bad, remind yourself that your grief is the price for the wonderful life you gave Buddy.


Daisy's mom