It Has Only Been 2 Days But..., this may make you feel good Options

[Darebaby]

I lost my baby girl just 2 days ago. I already feel as if those around me are thinking "okay, now start gettin over it" But I feel as if the grieving has just started. I also feel that it will get worse before it gets better. I am trying to fill my mind with these pictures of her young and energetic and in Heaven waiting for me. I feel that once I can believe that with 100% faith I will better be able to pick myself up when I start to break down. I am handling this all surprisingly well, although I haven't left the house. But I finally showered and changed my clothes. I feel that writing and talking about it really helps. I have also been looking at old pictures and reminiscing about the times we have shared and it keeps things in prospective for me. I can see that she lived her life till there was no more. Not to mention that she lived 4 years past what the average life span for a dalmatian is. It gives me a feeling of completion and pride. I have no kids and I feel that she is by far the greatest accomplishment of my life. I kept her safe and raised her well. Not bad for a kid. Actually we raised eachother. She was there through all of my teenage years. My parents weren't really parents at that time and I believe she was put on this earth to watch over me. She was my Jiminy Cricket, my angle baby. We were here for eachother...until the end. I know that it wont be easy. She is all I know. But one thing is for sure and I know anybody who has ever loved an "animal" knows that there is nothing like that kind of love. I believe Pox has taught me how to love. How does that saying go "it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all". I feel so sorry for people who have never really had the love of a pet. They are missing out on one of the simplest joys of life. Although I am mourning the loss of my baby girl, I know that our love will never die.

[Stymy's Mom]

Dear Darebaby,

Your baby girl is beautiful. I am so sorry for your loss but you came to the right place to heal. The people here at LS are caring and understand if takes and few days or a few decades to get over your greif. Your days will get better. My little boy Stymy has been gone for two months now and I still miss him but the tears are few. I like being here because I have met allot of very nice people.

I just said to someone yesterday that very same thing you just said. I feel sorry for people have never experience unconditional love from an animal companion. Maybe the world would be a better place to live in.

Just know your bad days will get fewer and fewer as time goes by. Cry as many tears as you need and talk to us here we understand.

Warm Wishes,
Vicki (Stymy's Mom)

[beachgirl]

Hello DareBaby,
I can so relate and appreciate what you shared about those of us who understand the love of a pet. I also have no children so my kitties are my kids. The do give such unconditional love that I wish everyone can have in their life. We are blessed.
I send you my prayers for your healing..i too am grieving the death of my Maix..last Friday..hard but I am learning to shut out those who think I should be over it. It is my grief, Thank you ,I tell them.
Wish I could write more....I understand your pain and let yourself cry a thousand tears...and then more. I do believe that our babies have spirits, and one day, as someone wrote to me, we will all be together again.
Love,
Suzanne..Maxi's girl

[4theluvofdgs]

Darebaby,

So sorry for the loss of your baby. I just lost my guy 1 week ago today. Its so very hard and I didnt go out of the house for a few days. I cried harder and longer then with any of my relatives deaths. Just yesterday I was thinking how I just couldnt cry anymore tears because I felt completely drained, then someone said something about Dakota and I started bawling again. I guess its just a process. I feel that I couldnt have grieved the right way if I didnt have this place to come to. So many people just dont understand the pain. Its unfortunate that not everyone gets to experience such unconditional love that a pet brings to a home.

Those pictures help so much with grieving. I look at Dakotas everyday and talk to him as if he is still here. Makes me feel like he can hear my loving thoughts up in heaven. Just keep looking at your baby and know that she is healthy and happy where she is now and will be waiting for you someday !

Thinking about you !
colleen