My Dog Died, And I Feel Dead Inside Please Help Options

[gingerspal]

Hi Amber,
In order for you to handle this properly you need to write a letter to contest the fees to the veternarian. It needs to outline precisely how and why you are objecting to the costs. This is alot of work but necessary for you to do if you do not intend to pay part of the bill. Tell them in the letter what if anything you are willing to pay and send it registered mail. You could also tell them you are thinking of complaining to the medical examiners office for what you believe was incorrect handling of the emergency. After they have time to digest this they might send you an amended bill or keep on asking for the same amount. If you have a copy of the registered letter with the receipt you are protected. If they turn you over to a collection agency you must write to the collection agency a cease and desist letter* (again sending it registered) if you do all this you are protected and they can't ruin your credit.
* a cease and desist letter is a specific letter/form to inform collection agencies that you dispute the charges and will not deal with anyone but the veternarian's office.

[crazycatwoman]

hi

thanks for the info on the official way to go about this. i will get right on it .

i have another question for you guys.....

i had a weird experience , i went into a bead store with my cousin valerie, i do not bead, i was just with her, there were rows and rows of beads, there has to be millions....... well i started walking around and my eye caught a bead....

so i went over , it was the first thing i looked at ....... it was a pink shaped heart bead with brown around the edges....... and then i looked at the name ....it was called "Picasso's Heart" .......now i think my dog sent me to that bead, so i bought two of them and my mom is going to make me earrings out of them ......

i mean maybe its a coinincidence......but ..... i think that would be hard to believe since there were millions of beads, and the name Picasso is fairly rare , atleast i think it is ...... not that widely used........

anyways my family thinks im crazy ....they say the dead know nothing........and my dad does not even believe animals have souls......... just humans do he says......... so i got into this huge arguement because it was just too random not to be contact from my dog ........

have you guys had any thing like that happen to you ......? do you believe animals can contact you ? Also tomorrow in my town a woman is coming ....she claims to be a witch/psychic........do you think she could possibly contact Picasso if i went ........

I told david i wanted to go but he said its a scam and they just lie to you and asked me not to go because they would just upset me . but i dont see how it could be a scam as the woman is coming into town to give a free educational talk, and is not charging anything ......so why would she lie ? Do you guys think i should go?

ok

thanks

amber

[LittleGirl's...]

Amber,
First I want to say that I really feel for all you've been through. I'm so sorry!

You did all the right things, and Picasso knows that. You did the right things for him and for your Dad. You are truly a wonderful person, and very very mature to be able to treat your Dad with such compassion even though you're naturally angry and have every right to be. I'm glad you have each other to get through this. And as others have said here, Picasso took great comfort that you were with him. He felt it, I know.

Animals have souls, I have no doubts. Picasso is still with you because his soul is very much alive, and there is no time and space in the realm he's in. Also, as Patti said, he's 100% in bliss---no emotional or physical pain. When it's your time, you'll be fully reunited. And the same when it's your Dad's time (then he'll find out that animals have souls! ).

I definitely believe that Picasso led you to that heart. I have had several things like that happen since my Little Girl passed on in March (I think I wrote about one or two of them in a thread entitled "Pain and Comfort").

I believe he will help lead you to the "right" furdog to adopt, and your eventual love for this new soul will be in honor of your forever love for Picasso. Picasso knows the new one isn't a replacement; he or she will be another needy soul to be rescued and will comfort your Dad immensely.

As far as your experiences with the vet go, try what Patti has advised. I have had a couple of horrible experiences with vets (lack of compassion toward me and my pet, and downright cruel billing incidents) and I really empathize with what you're dealing with.

We are all here for you!! Keep writing.

Love and prayers coming your way,

Kathy

[dietersmom]

Hi Amber,
I hope you are feeling better. I think getting a new dog for your father is a wonderful idea, he really needs a little buddy to spend his days with. I love Jack Russells, which I believe you said Picasso was. They are so full of energy and so very smart. We had a Miniature Schnauzer, which has many of the same traits as Jack Russells, so if you come across one at your local shelter, have a look, I promise you won't be disappointed

About animals having souls, I too had been struggling with this. I am a Christian and belive in God and the teachings of the Bible, but just wasn't sure where animals stood in the grand plan. After much searching and talking with friends and family, who truly believe that animals were sent from heaven in the first place, I believe they are in heaven and will be waiting on us when we journey from this life!! I also purchased a book, through a link on this website to Amazon.com, called "Cold noses at the Pearly Gates". I've only begun reading it, but can recommend to anyone having doubts about this very thing.

I KNOW that your Picasso sent you to those beads and love that you are having earrings made. I had a strange and comforting thing happen which I posted under the Memorial thread called "Comfort in strange places". I know it was a specific sign, since I've been struggling with the "do dogs go to heaven" question. Keep posting, it really helps to talk about your feelings with people who understand.

Thinking of you!
Libby

[crazycatwoman]

hi all

im sorry i have not responded in several days, ive been really missing Picasso, and the thought of coming here and being reminded of him was too much for me. He was already on my mind so much, and reading of all the other losses, i just couldnt do it for a few days

i dont feel much better about the whole Picasso Death issue, i am actually probably doing worse. I cant get over feeling he was cheated, my anger and basic attitude has caused me problems with my fiance david.

David does not believe in god, so trying to speak to him about picasso having a soul, or being in heaven is pretty impossible, although to his defense he always says to me Picasso is in doggy heaven , and has a soul, but i know he does not believe it deep down so as greatful as i am for his trying to help me, it feels fake and empty

i feel completely empty, i have since the moment Picasso died, i feel im not the same person .....

Ive been really argumentative, and we did not get along very well the last week, because i just pick fights, and yesterday while i was on the phone with david i figured out what my problem is

i think i am pushing david away , because i felt god would kill him too , just to be nasty to me ........ ive told david this, and he's been great, says there is no god, so that will never happen ...... then he said......even if there was a all powerful being, would he be that petty , i dont think so.......

which makes good sense, you would think god would have better things to do, but if that was the case, and god decides when you die, he should have known it was not Picasso's time

As far as David he is being as patient and nice as anyone could be, im horrible to him everyday, but i just feel cold towards everything, including him, i cant help it , i feel like ive lost my soul , i dont feel the same way about anything...... with the exception of my cat orlando, but im completely paranoid about his dying now ......

Orlando had two surgerys in august....... he is siamese....... had this genetic problem where he could not pee, they removed all this male organs, made him female virtually ..... and now he can pee, but it failed the first time........

so now i wont leave him, i stay with him every second, i dont want to leave town for 5 days in December to get married, which is why the issue with david came up , he said to me ...... were going to have to live our whole lives around that damn cat now .......

david and i have always travelled together (we got orlando together on our last trip to Florida) , so this is a real issue....... ive been out of the country 7 times in the last 2 years.........so ....... with orlando having this problem, and my being so paranoid, im not willing to leave at all .......so david is very annoyed.........

but my biggest problem is ...... i keep hearing all the little noises Picasso was making when he was getting his iv, and well dying ....... they were cute, because they were in his voice, but i could tell he was hurting ......and they keep replaying and replaying in my head........

And im really miserable about him being dead still ........ everytime its a wednesday i think well thats another week , and im haunted all day long , thinking , had he been with me , had i not fell back to sleep, if they had him on a leash ......

i feel like im going crazy, i know logically there is nothing to be done, i have to just get over it ......but i dont want to get over it........ i want to feel miserable forever because picasso shouldnt have died that day , and im mad at everyone in my family for acting like they feel better about it

in a way i feel really stupid being so upset, its not like i cant deal with death, ive had atleast 20 pets die before this, most of them cats, so its not like i only lost fish or something ......... ive lost great animals before........ its just i think with my other pets, they were sick, or old, or it was more there time......if there is such a thing

well im sorry this is long, and i know i didnt really ask any questions this time i just rambled

bye for now

amber