Re: Words That Hurt - For Real Options

[Guest_la77_*]

I am starting this thread even though it is related to an existing controversial post. I want people to see it here, especially the people who run this site. They may delete it at any time they see fit.

I don't call my animals "furbabies". I don't believe in the "Rainbow Bridge". I don't count the number of hours it's been since my dog died, nor do have the att*itude that I will never love another as I did her. However, I tolerate all the opinions and att*itudes of the people here, because the intent of the site is to help each through a difficult time. I accept with grat*itude all expressions of sympathy.

I do believe in "closure". I do believe in a "better place", although I do not know if I will see my dog there. I want to heal, and I need the positive input of others to do so. I have my own mind and choose to accept the ideas that I agree with and dismiss those that I do not.

This IS the place where people should be able to express their feelings. However, this should not be the place where you express your feelings with total disregard for others who may be reading them. This is a place for healing. Some people NEED to believe that there's a "better place." Some people WANT "closure." You can disagree, but don't blow people away with inflammatory statements. It riles people up. It hurts people.

I will not be returning to this site, and I would not recommend it to others that need healing. It is much too negative to be conducive to that. Many of you should consider therapy. I say that with love and sincerity.

Lisa

[LS Support]

since you will not be coming back, your account has been closed. thanks for visiting.

[michelles kitty]

you wrote..
"This IS the place where people should be able to express their feelings. However, this should not be the place where you express your feelings with total disregard for others who may be reading them."

true it is a place to express ones feelings, to get it all out and not keep it bottled up inside. that is exactly what one member did expressed his feelings. i dont think he had total disregard for others. i did not see or read it that way. postings have no tone..therefore it can be taken anyway a person reads it. plain and simple. i think he did a fine job of expressing himself and how he felt at that moment. he has posted many a times before and not once have i ever taken him out of context. he is a very intellegent man and a very articulate writer of his feelings. i have learned alot about myself from his postings. but to each their own i guess.







your entiltled to your opinion as well as others here are ent*itled to theirs.

i wish you well in your journey of life.

[bluemoon]

Ohh dear, all I can say is thank god for this site, if it wasnt for the caring thoughts, and understanding, I would have found it much harder to cope with my loss. I have a friend whos is going through a bad time with his cat (she has cancer) I have told him about this site, and I think he will join.
I may not have been as active as most, It has taken me along time to come to terms with losing my Gizzy, I am slowly getting better, and I am now fully ready to offer help and understanding to all that need it here.
In my case I didnt have anyone else to understand me the way everyone on here has. I WILL be returning and I WILL be recommending to others.
Thanks to ALL of you.
Ruth xx

[kimm]

I've kept quiet until now, because I have been uncomfortable with this topic since the beginning, but at this point I need to say that I believe now & always will that no harm was intended on anyone's part when this topic took on a life of its own. I have always found this site a huge comfort, when my girl Peaches was sick & after she passed, & I have found nothing but support here. I can't tell you how many people here have helped me by offering me a shoulder to cry on. I'd hate to see good people leave this site in haste, because of this unfortunate incident. No question, I recommend this site to new members, as well as current members returning to this site, as we are all here for the same reason. I'm grateful for LS & its sincere members. Thanks much to all.

[toonie]

negative? this calls for a bit of introspection from all here. I had grieved on my own for over three months when I came here. I have made more progress in healing here on this site than I did on my own or on other sites that stay lukewarm for fear of saying anything controversial. Dialogue is a very productive concept, isolation is what is negative. We have to accept opinions for what they are. But, to quote Eeyore(Winie the Pooh)

We can't all and some of us don't. 

[Moose Mom]

I want to say thanks to Marc and the LS board. I found it a lifesaver. Very positive and helpful. I came here 10 years ago and I'm back. One of the very best places on the 'net. I recomend it to friends, family and people I meet.

Of course to keep the board positive you have to have helpful, caring people on it. I have found more wonderful people here than I can count, thank you all.

Thank you again so much Marc.

Love

[KaseysMom]

I am still a bit new to this place, but I am grateful everyday that I found this spot, and find it I did, for those of us that really have no support in our lives this place is a total life saver. I am here everyday sometimes just reading more often writeing and crying my heart out and trying to heal abit. I am sorry I missed the original post but this place is wonderful! Despite the hurt all are going through they seem truly concerned for others and its so nice to see, I do not see people reaching out to others as they do here, and as long as I never hear, It was just a ????...I know that folks are just trying to help and I would like to thank you all for sharing and for caring for others including me...
Carolyn

[k9pal]

I had mixed emotions by the original post that got some people upset. I understood how those "catch phases" could hurt people. But, at the same time comments made about the catch phases also hurt people. All I know for possitive is that the original poster was extremly helpful to me during my greatest period of grief and for that reason I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt anyone. To those of you who were offended You also gave me support and for that I thank you. I welcome any support everyone is willing to give and feel free to use the catch phases because if that is how you feel,or believe than that's how I take it as. I would also like to add that all of us here are in emotion pain and sometimes that pain shows its self through anger. Sometimes I think that anger shows in our post. So can we all please just move on and forgive and forget. Let us concentrate on to the reason that we are all here. To try and heal our own and others pain.

[Chaos, my little...]

I would also like to add that all of us here are in emotion pain and sometimes that pain shows its self through anger. Sometimes I think that anger shows in our post.

You are absolutely right. Anger is just another form of depression and a deep feeling of helplessness. I will definitely keep the OP in my prayers. I also want to thank everyone here that has helped me after the passing of my Chaos. The support I received at such a critical time was absolutely priceless.

[paris]

I don't follow what this is about, but I can say that I am fairly new here and already have had some wonderful support during a very difficult time. I can not communicate to anyone I know what I am experiencing with having my cat gone missing, but here everyone understands the pain. People whom I've told about Bennett missing have just shrugged it off as not a big deal.