Can't Face It, How can it be? Options

[Daisy's Mommy]

I just can't believe that Daisy is really gone. How can she really be dead? I miss her terribly.

Daisy's Mommy

[Simba's Daddy]

I woke up 3 A.M. this morning and thought the same thing about Simba for 4 hours. Hard to believe its been 5 months already.

[Taco's Mummy]

I woke up in tears yesterday morning because I had a dream about my cat Fajita that died 9 years ago. I dreamt that she was still alive but that I could not find her. It does get easier but the pain never goes away completely.

I'm so sorry about your loss Daisy's Mommy.

[BooBoo's Mom]

I feel the same way. The time is going SO fast, that it will soon be one year since he died. How can that be???

[Furkidlets' Mom]

I've been feeling exactly the same way for the last few days especially. I'm sure the upcoming holidays are what makes this more acute, as the pain and disbelief are felt afresh again. (although for me, it's more like the pain is finally just starting to really surface, after the shock has worn off more) I remember this part of grief as being one of the very worst parts, when you don't WANT to believe this is what really happened. It's horrible and seems truly impossible to survive it....that's where I am right now, too.

It's just over 3 months for me...but last night, in an argument me and my H got into over my grief and his (lacklustre) response to it in the moment, he suddenly thought it had been about 6 months since Nissa left!!!...and that made me really lose it!!! How could he not have been keeping track himself, OR not have even been listening to me every time I'd mention how long it had been (which I've done more frequently of late)!?!?!? And no, it's not because he's grieving hard himself so just got confused, because he's not. He accepts death very easily ~ we're not well-matched THAT way! I'm like you, and most of us are....where months only seem like weeks or even days, the loss is still so new and acutely painful, and so impossible to live with...and some of us don't even want to live with it, either. Me, at this point in time, I'd rather just die, naturally but quickly, from the shattered heart that I now have.

[magdalene]

I understand. It's been almost six months, here- 5 months and 18 days, to be exact. I always know exactly how many days.

Magdalene

[Precious' mom]

My sweet Precious may be gone physically but he is still with me in so many ways. He's never really left; he may be reduced to ashes in a wooden urn but the love remains. The bond grows stronger every day.
I miss the gorgeous blue eyes, the silky fur, the way he used to walk and the cute dance he used to do when he smelled something cooking in the oven (poultry). The way he used to sleep on the pillow beside me. The command of "now!!now!!" when he wanted his meal or a treat.
But...again, he is still with me, and I will never grow tired of that!
Lisa

[samara]

I haven't dreamt about twinkie at all. haven't heard a meow or a movement that sounds like him. It makes me upset that I haven't had these things happen.