Thank You Options

[Tracey]

Hi Everyone,

I just wanted to thank everyone for all of the support you've given me since losing Megan. I'm truly grateful to MD for creating this site.

As you all know my husband does not want to get another dog. I've recently also found out that he does not empathize with me over losing Megan. We've been going to a marriage councelor and this all came out. I cannot beleive that someone who is suppose to love me and know me best cannot or will not support me through this. He said that he does not have the same feelings about Megan therefore cannot understand me. I know that if I saw him hurting this bad it would break my heart.

I've also mentioned that I don't have many friends that are animal people so really you guys have been all the support that I've had and I cannot express how grateful I am to all of you. You are a strangers yet I feel your hugs and support to me as well as all of the other people here. I'm so happy that we've all found each other even though it was through horrible cir%%stances that we did.

Thanks you for being here for me when the people who "love" me can't.

Tracey

[DJ - Edgar, Jess...]

Tracey - you are welcome here always and we will always be here for you. But please remember - some people do not develop the same bond with pets as we do. It's not that he doesn't WANT to relate - perhaps he CAN'T. That has nothing to do with his love for YOU - however, you are correct - he SHOULD at least support you through this time. Please understand that to some people, those who don't forge such a deep bond with their pets, we are not rational.

I know that doesn't help much, but sometimes it's best to let our grief fade a bit before we make judgements about the rest of our lives.

I hope you get through this difficult time soon.

HUGS

[LS Support]

whenever i read that this site helps someone, it further lessens the impact of tribby's death
back in 1996. i am sad you had to come here, but happy that you found value and support.

[Muffins]

Dear Tracey:

I just want to let you know that you surely have a friend in me, and I am very, very sorry for your pain!!

It is a miracle in lots of ways......I remember that evening, 2/7/2004, that we had to have Ernestine put to sleep... My heart felt like it had been shattered into a million jagged pieces!!! I HURT SOOOO MUCH!!!!
(But, I also knew that our Ernie-Bird was very, very ill - in sooo much pain....... I had prayed that God would take her peacefully, while she slept...But, that wasn't to be.)

I didn't know where to go, what to do.... I just felt like running away from the terrible heart-ache, the pain,
the headache, the sadness, etc., etc., ....... I am sure that you know all about that, with the loss of your beloved Megan.

But, never in my wildest dreams, did I ever think that I would "meet" ALL OF THE WONDERFUL PEOPLE HERE ON LS".
I feel that LS is truly a "real family"....we all share a common bond....and though we are all brought together by
terrible grief & heart-ache, WE ARE ALL ABLE TO BE HERE & PRESENT FOR ONE ANOTHER!!!

Whether we have JUST LOST OUR FURBABY(IES) AND ARE SEEKING COMFORT, HELP, UNDERSTANDING, A SHOULDER
TO CRY ON..........I know that I have found that here; ALL OF THAT & MORE, I will ALWAYS BE GRATEFUL!!

But also, sometimes, even while we are right in the throes of our own grief, (even if it is the same day that we have lost our beautiful fur-baby), we are somehow able to comfort others; We are all here to help one another.

Even though we are on our computers, we may be in the U.S. or the U.K., or anywhere in the world.... That doesn't matter... I feel all of the love & hugs through what everyone writes... I love reading old posts of the people that are currently on board... It is wonderful to see how we heal & start feeling better.
One thing is for sure, WE WILL NEVER FORGET!!!

IT IS TRULY A WONDERFUL GIFT...."LIGHTNING STRIKES".... God Bless you MD!!!!

Everyone here Tracey, we're all here for you; always....

Please keep us posted & let us know how you are doing, okay??

Peace & Love, I send to you, your husband and your family!
God Bless you!
Love, Denise

[shadded dreams]

I too am glad I found this site!!! When I lost my beloved Zipper 3/6, it took me 3 days to find this site!! Those were the longest 3 days of my life, and then I found LS. It was great to know that there were other people out there like me!! That I wasn't nuts with the things I did with my dog. It was so nice to hear someone else say, "He WASN'T just a dog!" My heart goes out to everone else here, and I find peace by writing to other "Mommies and Daddies" who have lost their special Kids. I cry along with every new sad story. I will probably come here for years, just to read, and sometimes to write. Tracey, not all people are animal people. And it is a sad thing! I cannot believe that he won't let you have another dog! That is so wrong! Some people do not understand the need to bond with a furry one, and I do not understand them. Those kinds of people thing there is something wrong with US because we feel the need to act like that, and do the things we do. I think there is something wrong with THEM. I recently adopted a new furry one. She is the light of my life, having her here makes things cheerier, and I feel more relieved with my daily stresses now. But, she is a handful. On her first night here, she run up and got in bed, right between me and doggie daddy. Just like she knew where she belonged!! (That is where Zip used to sleep) I hope counceling helps you with your marrage, and helps him to understand that we need our fur babies!! I hope you do get another dog, I felt my happiness depended on it!! Good luck and hugs to you, Tracey! I'm rooting for you!!---------------Zippers Momma

[mittens_is_gone]

Dear Tracey,
I am sorry about the problems that you are going through. I really am. Losing a beloved pet is hard enough, but I would hope that your husband would try to be there for you even if he didn't quite feel the same. Since my reply is long in coming, I hope time has helped you and finds you well. I hope things are going better and I hope counseling has helped.
People here are great, a real help when those of us in need have searched for that lifeline, helping hand or some direction to lead us from the darkness of despair. My thoughts are with you as well as a great big hug.
love, Janice