Ican't Believe It... Options

[Randa]

My cat (family cat) Soue Soue died on Monday the 13th.
He was 17 years old.
I'm unable to function.... i haven't gone to work, i haven't eaten, I haven't enjoyed anything the past few days..... My eyes are swollen from crying all the time.

I miss him so much. He was a real good cat. He lived a good life. I'm sad, really sad.
I know my post doesn't make any sense, that's because I don't make any sense...
i'm going crazy.......... how can i live w/o him. He was the most amazing cat........ and I saw him die.

it was natural (old age), but still.......... seeing him unable to walk, eat, drink, and finally unable to breath............ oh my god! i just ran and ran..... i didn't even know where I was going......................

i'm so depressed and hurt........ i really need someone to talk to me.

[Nyte]

Even though it was a painful thing that brought you here Randa, i can assure you that this place will help you ease it.


I can only imagine what the loss of a 17 year friend can do to a person. Just remember, Soue Soue still loves you and doesnt want to see you suffer. He wants to see you happy until that day you get to see him again. He will wait...all of our lost companions will wait for us...as long as it takes.

Please, take care of yourself, Randa. Plenty of rest and some food if you can.

If you need anyone to talk to please feel free to message me.

[QorquisDad]

Hi Randa,

I'm so sorry about your Soue Soue. You've come to the right place. Everyone here completely understands what you're going through. Most of us have been there, or are there now.

My Qorqui was only a year and half old when she was killed. She was my little fuzzy security blanket. She had gotten out of the house while I was at work and was hit by a car. Instead of being greeted by the familiar Roo-Woo that day, I came home to her dead body laying along side the driveway. I was completely devastated. I couldn't eat or sleep or work or anything for days and days. The only thing I was truly capable of doing for the first week was crying.... and I did alot of that.

It sounds like Soue Soue had a full rich life with you. He was so lucky.

You are still so early in your grieving. Until you feel strong enough to tell us about Soue Soue, just stop in and post how you're feeling at the time. It helps in the grieving process. Eventually you will be able to function better. When you can, tell us about your life with Soue Soue. Little things he did that made him special to you. Or just everyday stuff.

Many of us believe that our babies spirits go to a happy place where they're with other furries that have passed on. There they spend their days doing their favorite things while they wait for our time to join them. Many folks call this place Rainbow Bridge. Call it what you like, I'm one of the folks that believes there is a place where we will be reunited with our little ones again. This also helps me through the days, knowing that my Qorqui and your Soue Soue and all the other furries are together and safe until we can be with them again.

Take care of yourself.
Tim

[Caroline]

Randa- I am so sorry about the passing of your precious Soue Soue. When my dog Lucy died in February, I thought I was gooing to die of a broken heart...literally. The first few days after we had her put down were the worst. I could not function at all either. I barely ate, slept, and I would burst into tears all the time. The sharp pain you are feeling will subside soon, and that will be followed by a more bearable but general sadness I think. That's how it was for me. It does take awhile, but the old saying, "Time does heal" really rings true in this case. You have come to the right place. Although Lucy has been gone for several months, I often come back here to respond to people who have just lost their pet because I remember the intense, stabbing pain that would not go away. Just know that your baby is in a safe place, and that you will see her again someday. You gave her a rich and wonderful life, and she is eternally grateful for that...

Take care of yourself and try to hang in there. It will get easier...

Caroline

[Caroline]

Randa-

I am so sorry I referred to Soue Soue as a "she." As I re-read the post I realized that Soue Soue was a "he." Such a pretty name...

Caroline

[midwest]

Randa, what a wonderful lifetime you spent with Soue Soue. I am sorry for the grief you are going through right now.

As others have said, take the time you need to deal with your loss. It is different for all of us. There are many out there, in our every day world also, that will never understand the grief we feel. That is their loss, not to have shared such a loving companion.

It does help to come here and read others posts and to express your feelings. I hope in time you are able to share more about Soue Soue's life with us.

I hope your days get better, and am truly sorry for the loss of Soue Soue.

[NickyzMommy]

Dear Randa,
BELIEVE ME I KNOW. Even though Nicky's passing was controlled, I was also in zombie-mode, and am not quite myself yet.
He's been gone since the 9th (a week today). Yours will be the first post I reply to about a cat other than my own, so I'm telling you that the horrible, all-consuming and senseless pain DOES lose its grip eventually. Everyone is different in how they process their mourning. I wish I could be there to just hug you till you're over the nastiest waves of hurt.
((((((((((((Randa))))))))))))) .. not the same but there's a cyber-hug.
Email me if you want to.
God bless, Kim aka NickyzMommy

[Randa]

thank you so much Nyte, QorquisDad, Caroline, Midwest, NickysMomm!!!!
You are such wonderful people to help me heal w/ this tragedy (Nicky, your hugs brought tears to my eyes).....

I'm crying right now (at work). I'm still a zombie. I don't know what i'm doing, I don't even know how i'm functioning.

I just need to forget about the last few minutes of his life..... i think that's my problem......... i keep playing it over and over in my head.

Whimpering, meowing.......... God!!!!!! I couldn't help him..... I just left the room. I feel so guilty for leaving him. I'm so thankful that my siblings are stronger than me and they took care of him.

Poor baby.... I will miss him.

the only thing that is keeping me alive is picturing him on rainbow bridge in his younger years playing around w/ Qorqui, Lucy, Nicky and other precious animals.

thanks everyone. I will definitely share better memories of soue soue when I'm less calm.

[Norah'sMom]

Dear Randa,

Please don't feel guilty about leaving the room. Your siblings were there to take of him so he was by no means without the attention and care he needed, and pets are so smart...believe me when I say he understood why you had to leave. The special bond the two of you shared was so great that I'm certain he would not have wanted to see you so upset in his last moment. You did the right thing.

With love and prayers,
Jenny

[Nank]

Dear Randa,

I am so sorry for your loss. Please don't try to make sense of your grief. We all grieve different ways. I lost my cat, Panther, just over two months ago and not a day goes by that I don't cry. Time will erase everything but memories..and it will be a different amount for each of us. Your sweet kitty would not want you to be so sad. They wait for us at The Bridge, you know, where they are healthy and young again. And those darn flutterflies just keep teasing them. So let you tears fall and know that we are all sending you kind words and that we understand...

Nank and Panther (GA)

[Ken Albin]

Hi Randa,

The one thing we all share here is that we're going down the same road as you. With that said, please remember that Soue Soue loved you and knew that you loved him. That's what really matters in this world. Your tears are a tribute to his life and your affection for him. After awhile, your happy memories will continue that tribute.