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[suzyssoulmate]

Everyone is leaving? I need your help. Please don't go.

[Missing Kamikazi]

some of the older ones are leaving... but there are still so many of us. Just post what you need and someone will respond. We are probably all going through what you are going through at this time. The ones who are leaving are taking the last step in the journey of greif and trying to let the healing begin. If you dont feel comfortable posting your loss on the board.... feel free to PM me or email me and I will do my best to help you. I only lost my baby on Saturday.... but I know how it feels. This is not my first trip down this road.

[luv_my_catz]

Dear Suzyssoulmate,
Everyone is not leaving you ~ I am still here too! This site has been imensely helpful to me since I lost my Amber on 28March ~ from what I can see there are about four folks that are moving on in their jouney of recovery from grief ~ I will miss also their wisdom and insights ~ however, we too may get to that stage one day ~ and I believe all the steps in an individuals journey need to be honored ~ but for now I still need everyone who can post or that I can post to ~ this process is so vital to my own recovery from the loss of such a sweet and precious companion of 20 years ~ my Amber tabby girl ~ I miss her so much ~ I don't get to post everyday because of a bizarre and grueling work schedule ~ but this site and also another one I am a member of keeps me sane in the foreign land of my life without Amber physically present ~ Today is the middle of week 6 without her ~ I still can't believe I have lost her ~ nothing helps me more than knowing I am not alone and that I can find kindred spirits here who can light my way just a little bit more than it was before ~ You are not alone in your journey Sincerely, Kathryn

[LS Support]

plenty of people still here and more coming in by the day. the internet is a transient medium, and grief support allows people to heal, help, and then
move on. have to admit this is the largest exodus we've had in a while...but i think the board was due for some change.

[Snickster]

I'm here!! I'm happy!! I'm not leaving you, either!!!

[Kathleen032]

I'm here, too. I made a promise to honor Shiloh's memory by offering my sympathies and advice to people suffering the same loss I've suffered. I plan on doing this until Shiloh's 1 year anniversary. So, I'll be around for a few more months.

[Nyte]

I too am still here and not planning on going anywhere... i promise. This is one of the few places i've found that i'm not ridiculed for loving my cats so much. I hate to hear that there are people (or person) that would dare to spout mean sentiments on a place that is meant for healing. While i have not witnessed the meaness firsthand, i'm hoping its just a phase and those responsible will stop.

Please, dont let a few bad apples ruin such a wonderfully caring place.


Nyte

[Ladypurr]

Dear Suzanne,

You needn't fear. There are still so many wonderful souls who read and respond to hurting souls like you. You are not alone in your grief. We are here for you--either via the forum, or private e-mail.

As others have mentioned, the grief process creates different paths for each person. Some may feel the need to say "goodbye" sooner than others, and try to move on with their lives. It's not as if they are really "leaving" us, it is just that their emotions have healed to the point where they may begin experiencing the peace and hopefully--joy--of knowing their beloved fur angels will be with them again, and dwelling on the precious memories, even smiling and laughing about your fun antics together.

Let's rejoice for them, for we know that we, too, will reach that point one day!

I truly wish I could somehow convey to everyone how my feelings have evolved after saying goodbye to my dear ones. I wish...Oh God, how I wish, that my babies could have been with me my entire life. When I dwell on it, I am troubled. I force myself to focus on the deep belief within that they are all too precious, too loved, too unforgettable in every way, to just disappear from my presence forever. I KNOW THAT THEY ARE GONE FROM ME IN PHYSICAL STATE ONLY--THEIR SPIRITS ARE ALWAYS NEAR TO MY HEART.

These precious beings have souls and our souls will be reunited again one day.

Some of you have lost your babies in the most tragic and unthinkable ways. While I have no answer for the pain you are experiencing, I do know that all things work together for good to those who know and love God. If we could see with God's eyes, we'd see a panorama of beauty beyond our ability to comprehend. Each and every creature He created is a part of that beauty and one day we will all be together, with our precious babies and loved humans, and God, and then we will understand.

I think of the joy each and every creature has brought to my life, the love I was able to lavish on each of them in unbelievable and extravagant ways. I think of how my grief at losing them would make them feel. I believe that they would not want me to grieve my whole life and be so unhappy that I would never again enjoy life. I think of them guiding me at times to rescue another needy soul, and to open my heart and love a another fur angel as they so enjoyed my love. I cannot imagine my animals wanting me to be unhappy. They all are (were) so sensitive to my emotions and needs.

I wish everyone healing and understanding.

with great love and sympathy,

--Susan
~ a voice for the voiceless ~

[DJ - Edgar, Jess...]

Oh my... I feel like an ancient tree in the middle of a new suburb

[Jazzygirl]

I'm not going anywhere either. I still need this place very much. And I agree...the others have just reached a different stage in their healing. They are all wonderful people and I plan on keeping in touch. But as for this place, I'm not going anywhere!