Missing Lexa Options

[Axel&Lexa Mommy]

Tomorrow will be a week since we lost our beloved Lexa. I am so lost without her. I just can't beleive she is gone, I keep thinking this isn't real.


We only had Lexa for 6 years it was to soon to lose her, my life will never be the same.

[MishasMom]

Tomorrow will be a week since we lost our beloved Lexa. I am so lost without her. I just can't beleive she is gone, I keep thinking this isn't real.


We only had Lexa for 6 years it was to soon to lose her, my life will never be the same.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how you are feeling. When we lose our companion animals there is a hole left in our hearts. There are some great people here on the forums. Feel free to pour your heart out we are here for you. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

MishasMom-Karen

[tahoeden]

There is nothing more painful than the loss you are going thru. 6 or 16 years...sometimes you can connect with your pet (Lexa) for just one day and feel the pure and complete love that there is. I know how much you miss her. I'm sorry she had to leave you so soon. Everything you have to do now, without her, is a new first time...coming home, cooking without her there, waking up...it's so rough. Everyone here on this site is aware of, is going thru, or has gone thru the intense grief and pain of missing those they've lost. It's like someone just keeps slamming the breath out of you. I'm hoping Lexa wasn't suffering near the end. Please write more and tell us about her. Peace

Dennis

[Cheryl83]

Hi,

Firstly, welcome to the forum. I hope you find some comfort here. I sure have.

Secondly, so sorry about your loss. Your pain is still so very fresh and raw right now. I can imagine you're still at the stage where you find it difficult to breathe, to eat, to function normally. At this stage, all you can do is just breathe...take each moment as it comes. Take each emotion as it comes. And embrace it, don't try to ignore it, or push it aside. If you need to cry, cry. If you need to scream, scream. The other piece of advice I give at this stage is to drink plently of water. It is important to stay hydrated... I remember too well the headaches, the dry mouth, the zombie like state, drinking lots of water will help with this.

You're still at the denial stage right now. This will slowly start to fade, although you still might find it returning in waves (as I still do just over 3 weeks on). Grief is a long process, you just have to ride with it. Take time to read this topics on these forums. There is a lot of great advice and support on here. Post more when you are feeling up to it.

Sorry again. It is so hard isn't it. We are all here for you.

Cheryl X

[moon_beam]

Hi, Axel&Lexa Mommy, please permit me to add my sympathies in the loss of your beloved Lexa. Losing a beloved companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we have been blessed with their company. I do so know what you mean - - 6 years isn't long enough. Tomorrow will be 3 months to the date that my beautiful 6 year old Abbygayle (see Abbygayle's Journey) joined the angels.

But it doesn't really matter if we have had their company for 6 hours, 6 days, 6 months, or 15, 20, years - - it's never long enough. We always want, hunger for, plead for just one more minute, one more hour, one more day, one more lifetime.

This grief journey is a one day at a time journey filled with so many ups and downs, twists and turns, and turn arounds - - sometimes all in one day, particularly in the beginning with the deep grief. It can make your head spin sometimes, and maybe even make you think you're losing your mind. One of the many things for you to remember is that what you are feeling is normal, even if you think this grief will never stop.

And another important thing for you to remember is that you are not alone in your journey. Each of us here understands how you're feeling, and we are here for you every step of the way for as long and as often as you need us.

Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Axel&Lexa Mommy, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[My heart Cooper]

Dear Axel&Lexa Mommy,

I lost my little boy at 5 years old. He will be gone one month tomorrow. Cooper and I were so close. But it really does get it easier. The first week, I felt like I wanted to curl up in my bed and die. I couldn't stand the thought of life without him. But the second week, it got easier. I could make it through the work day without major breakdowns. I go through different phases of the process and they seem to cycle back through. But it is slowly getting better. Everyone says time helps and you can't imagine how, but it has helped me. I'm still sad and miss my boy every day but we keep moving forward. Just let yourself feel what you feel. Cry when you need to. Talk to someone close. It really does help.

[Axel&Lexa Mommy]

Thank you everyone for the kind words. I know you all know the pain my husband and I are going through right now. Today at 1:03 pm will be a week since our Lexa had to leave us. It is so hard not having her here. I have always been a housewife so I spent nearly 24 hours a day with Lexa. The house seems so big and empty without her.
The story of Lexa and how she became our daughter.....Some friends of ours had a lake house and they found her there. She was about 4 months old we guess someone dropped her in the area. She had tried different homes around the lake and people feed her but no one wanted a kitty. My friends noticed that she was jumping in the lake and catching little fish to eat so they took her back home with them. They took her to the vets and had her sprayed and got her shots. At the same time I had just had a radical hysterotomy and was going through the healing process and they asked if we might want a kitty. At first I said no because we had lost our beloved kitty son Axel 3 years before and I thought I could never have another pet because after having Axel for 13 years and losing him I was devastated. But my husband helped changed my mind(so glad he did). So we said yes we will take her....they brought her to our home and when I saw her I was in love(I'm sure you all know the feeling). She was very shy and seemed guarded this went on for about 2 months. Then one day I said to her you are here to stay we love you and you aren't going anywhere. I really think she thought we were only temporary and she didn't want to become attached to us. After that she opened up and become very loving....she was our whole world.
Lexa was very spoiled she had her own bedroom with toys everywhere(alot seemed to make it to other parts of the house...ok with us). She was so smart we would tell her to go get a toy by name and she would bring us that toy!!!! She always slept curled up as close to me as she could(I loved that and miss it so much). Lexa loved to play and run around the house(inside kitty never went outside). There are so many wonderful things about her!!!! I never thought I would lose her so soon. We weren't able to have children so Axel and Lexa are our children. Some people thought we were strange because we call them our son and daughter but I never cared I know how important my babies are to us and how much they love us. I know Axel is now taking care of his little sister...probably comparing notes on how over protective Mommy was.
Losing Lexa is so hard somtimes I just scream out loud it hurts so much. One of the hardest things is Lexa passed away 35 days after my Daddy's death.
I was trying to cope with losing my father and then to lose my precious little Lexa. We Love you Lexa...miss you so much...and of course love and miss you to Axel. Thanks everyone for listening.

Michelle

[Cheryl83]

Thank you for sharing your story, Michelle. It is clear how much you loved your baby. You would be surprised just how many people DO NOT find it strange that you called her your baby, and thought of her as your child. My boyfriend and I used to call Daisy our baby. In fact, I think she became convinced that it was her proper name, because we called her that more than her real name. And when we were talking about her, we would also refer to her as "baby" e.g. "We need to buy baby a new bed etc..." Another common name you will come across on this forum is "furbaby" I like that, it's cute.

Anyway, Lexa was lucky to have a mommy as loving as you, just as you were lucky to have her. Keep her memory alive, and she will always be with you.

I hope you are feeling "okay" today.

Take care, Cheryl X

[MishasMom]

Michelle thank you for sharing about your sweet baby. I'm sorry that it was such a short time you had with her. You gave her such a wonderful life! She was so loved. When you are ready I would love to see some pictures of her.

Karen -MishasMom

[Axel&Lexa Mommy]

Our Lexa

[Axel&Lexa Mommy]

Our Lexa

[Axel&Lexa Mommy]

Our Lexa

[Axel&Lexa Mommy]

Added some photos of Lexa. Keep her photos with my all the time...sometimes they make me cry and other times they make me realize how. lucky I was to have her in my life. Thanks everyone for the kindness you have showed me during this hard time.

Michelle

[moon_beam]

Hi, Michelle, thank you so much for the wonderful pictures of your precious Lexa, and for sharing with us Lexa's story. Our precious fur kids give to us their unconditional love and undivided attention, and we in turn surrender oursleves to them completely. This is one of the many reasons why losing them is so very painful - - both physically and emotionally.

Clinical studies indicate that the grief process for the loss of a beloved companion is identical to what we experience with the loss of a human family member or friend. The "anniversaries" can be very hard to deal with sometimes - - the first hour, first week, first month, first vacation, first anniversary, first whatever - - they each are reminders that someone very important is missing in our lives on this side of eternity. But hopefully as the deep grief passes you will be able to feel Lexa's sweet Living Spirit with you wherever you go and whatever do.

Michelle, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[MishasMom]

Michelle,

What a beautiful kitty! She had such a pretty little face and look at that nose! Oh, my! They just have a way of wrapping our hearts around their little paws forever. Thank you for sharing the pictures.

Karen -Mishasmom

[Cheryl83]

Beautiful. So pretty --- and long!

Hugs, Cheryl x

[tanbuck]

Michelle, what beautiful pictures! Lexa was a queen! She looks so happy and content and very spoiled (just how she should be!) I'm so sorry she's not with you physically anymore. My heart goes out to you as you go through this. We're all here pulling for you.
-Donna

[Axel&Lexa Mommy]

I keep thinking about 2 days before Lexa passed away we were sitting on the bed and she reached her paw up and touched my heart necklace and then gave me a little kiss. My husband and I both looked at each other thinking how sweet. I wonder if Lexa was trying to tell me something...I guess it will always be a very special memory...have alot she was so precious.

[Axel&Lexa Mommy]

Missing my Lexa would do anything to have her back. Why did this have to happen. I Love You my little Sweetie.

[Axel&Lexa Mommy]

The mornings after my husband leaves for work is one of the hardest times. Lexa and I would always sneak back and get a few more hours of sleep together(you know how kittys love to sleep). Then we would get up and start the day. It is so hard trying to do the normal things in life because everything reminds me of Lexa.