No Chance To Say Goodbye Options

[AlleysMama]

I'm so very sorry to hear about Funky. I remember well when you brought the little guy home, as do I remember the sweet soul who graced your life such a short time before him.

I have no words to express how sorry I am to read this. Know that we are all thinking of you and your sweet boy.

hugs

[Candy's Dad]

Hey there,

Just checking to see how you have been doing? I went back to New Beginnings and caught up on the story of how you got Funky. It was very cute and I can see how easy it was to fall in love with such a cute kitty. I understand how the pain gotta be hard, especially after having only lost a furkid not that long before you got Funky. Please don't let it discourage you from getting another one. There's too many out there who could use a good loving home. Even though Funky hasn't been around for a very long time, it sounded like you still gave him a terrific year.

Hang in there.

[Missing Fleetwoo...]

Mark,

I am so sorry to hear about Funky and I can so relate to your pain of losing such a cute kitty so soon and so unexpectedly. When my little Fleetwood died I cried for an entire week straight and could not even go into work. While my Fleetwood was nine years old he still acted very much like a kitten and didn't show signs of ever slowing down. Just know the pain does get better over time.

Hang in there and always remember Funky is alive and well in your heart.

Mark
Still missing Fleetwood

[LS Support]

i find it difficult to work all day long, problem is i own the company that and having 2 very active kids should help keep the grief at bay, but, as you all know, it does not. thoughts of how and why keep creeping back into my mind. little things you see or hear pop thoughts back into your mind without warning. plus it has sparked setbacks with my bipolar disease, i have other issues going on besides funky's death to deal with and they all bumper-car into each other throughout the day. it's been a tough few months, "they" say this is life...good with the bad, bad with the good. all it does is make me weary.

i appreciate the kind words, as always, and have come to realize that funky did have a damn good, albeit short, life. i'm resolved to helping out another kitty in need at some point, when the time is right. after all, what am i going to do with all these canisters of Pounces

god bless.

marcdavid (aka MD)

[Duncan-MyBuddy]

Mark,
i also did not have a chance to say good-bye to my buddy as he passed during the night. In some ways that really hurt but in other ways its kind of a blessing in disguise. I take some comfort in the fact that he was at least in the presence of my other two dogs during his last moments.

I have thought long and hard about acquiring other pets as the pain is just too great when they eventually leave us. We get attached to these furry critters of ours, get used to having them around, are blessed with the joy, companionship, comfort and happiness they bestow on ourselves during their too short visit with us on earth.

Whenever i think on not adopting another pet, i get visions of all those great looking dogs in the county pen when i adopted my last dog who in most cases would make loving pets for some lucky owner.....But the sad fact is those barking, 'begging to take me home with you' dogs i seen there were forever gone within a week or so.

Whats that old saying? "Its better to have loved and lost than to not have ever loved"

Take care Mark,
-Ken

[goliath]

Dear Marc,

Sometimes I ask myself why so much seems to happen all at one time or for a long length of time Marc. I still haven't found the answer to that six million dollar question and still wonder.

I can understand how overwhelming it is for you to be pulled in so many directions. Dealing with health issues especially on top of everthing else can put anybody on tilt. Sometimes I get to feeling weary myself. So much has happened to me over the last year and 8 months. I had been receiving treatments for a year for my own illness when Goliath passed away. I don't know how I would ever have been able to endure the grueling treatments that made me so sick without him laying by my side. He was my knight in shining armour. When the angels carried him off to Heaven, I was forced to do the last 6 months without his body laying next to mine. It was his love inside me that saw me through.

I'm glad to hear you are staying open about the idea of bringing another kittylove into your heart and home. Even though a new addition can never replace Tribbles or Funky or any other love of your life, it allows all of their love to stay alive as one comes and picks up the where the last left off. What a multitude of love you have there.

Thinking of you,
Beth

[LoveThem]

Like so many things in life, Marc...it always seems so often the best thing to do is..take things one day at a time. I guess that is a way of not feeling so overwhelmed when we don't need to.

These babies bring so much into our lives, we are the ones who are blessed when we take one into our home and heart.

The distraction of my new boy, Lucky, has really helped me. He was at the SPCA who has about 400 cats and so he was so much one of many there waiting for someone to need them..because they already know they need someone themselves, that the caregivers did not even know who he was until I found him and made the connection. What helped is I knew it is a no-kill facility so everyone not adopted would still have a home there. I wish I had the emotional control to go to the County one, which is not a no-kill, and save one...but then the SPCA here..when one adopts one of their, like I did, they go to the County and save one to take Lucky's place. So in a way, it makes me feel as if I saved two by bringing home one.

Lucky helped me with my..one day at a time...by being here. I should have named him after Steve Martin cause he is really a "wild and crazy guy" and I wish I could have gotten him as kitten as he does need "teaching" but he loves to rub against and purr all that he does. So far, he loves people, he loves wood door frames, he loves the refrigerator door...and so on...so much love to give and no one to give it to....I'm glad I went looking. He really helped stop my grief from continuing to be overwhelming. I can't bring my Little Guy back or his brother and sister...but I can see to it that Lucky who was abandoned to the County, adopted, abandoned again and brought to the SPCA..will never be abandoned again. Well, that's why I named him.......Lucky.

One day at a time, Marc......I adore that last picture of Funky...and yes, we do treat them like Kings...don't we? We just love to love them. (now you see how I picked my name). No time is ever long enough but we will always treasure the time given to us and the fact they came into our lives.

Hugs

[Duncan-MyBuddy]

Good Evening Beth!
I'm saddened to hear of your illness especially during Goliath's troubles. I sincerely hope you have made a complete recovery! You are one of the most loving, caring and truely compassionate members on this forum and i want to again thank you and all the others once more for your kind words regarding my original post.

You take care of yourself Beth,
-Ken

[william69]

What a beautiful cat he was........ Fate deals a crule hand at times. Mark, I don't know what I would have done without this site if I hadn't found it a few months back when William Passed..... He has left me a bother who I still every day see the sadness of loosing his brother in his eyes every time I look at him. He is a lost soul without him. It breaks my heart every day...... I know that loosing a fur baby at such a ripe young age doesn't help and that you try so hard to put it all logicaly together wondering how it all went wrong... somtimes that is JUST the way life deals you that hand and it is so hard to accept it..... I have lost fur babys like this too years ago.

One thing out of this I have learnt is that ppl who have experianced this like I have understand what I am feeling and have helped me deal with the loss...... Without this support I don't think I would have even got out of bed in the morning to face a day without William....... I have looked forward to coming to this board and reading and helping others who have faced the same pain I have faced only so that I can offer them the same help and support that so Many other ppl have given me.... through another ones pain there is anothers gain in all of this heartache.......

I understand the heartache and the guilt as so many of us do...... we have all been there and we all understand it...... It takes time to heal and so will you too at some stage soon. Never say that you will not get close because of the pain of loosing them is too painful when you do because even I have tried that one. We do get close to them no matter how long we have them.... A year... twelve years to only six months... we all get close to them... when one make an impression on us we know that it will be hard to part when we do..... eventually! But that is the beauty of ever knowing them......... That short space of time will last an eternity.... they are embedded in our heart forever and we never forget them ever.

Fond memories of your wonderful Funkyman..... he looked like a wonderful cat that I would have loved to have known.

Peace to you and your family at this very sad time.

Williams Mummy ***

[Jon730]

i appreciate the kind words, as always, and have come to realize that funky did have a damn good, albeit short, life. i'm resolved to helping out another kitty in need at some point, when the time is right. after all, what am i going to do with all these canisters of Pounces

You have done so much for so many people with this site! I hope you know I think it must be even harder for you, because you have been so saturated with Pet loss.

As you know, it may never get "Better"...but it does get "Different".

I am frightened of having The New Guy have a "Routine" proceedure in a while because of stories like this. I have thrown so much into him and our relationship because he helped me so much in filling the void left by Miles that if anything went wrong...Best left unthought and unsaid. I would not even have the words.

The essence would be something like "Global Thermonuclear War", I fear...Just because despite my happy "Iggy Comics", which I do to make me feel better and make people laugh, I am not really over Miles at all.

Iggy is a Band-Aid on a deep wound. Helpful, but the healing is slow. He tries, bless his crazy little pink-nosed heart.

Were it not for this site, I would have needed a prescription or worse. So please take some good thoughts back, after you have given so much to so many Pet People.

[katzen11]

You have done so much for so many people with this site! I hope you know I think it must be even harder for you, because you have been so saturated with Pet loss.
I fear...Just because despite my happy "Iggy Comics", which I do to make me feel better and make people laugh, I am not really over Miles at all.

Iggy is a Band-Aid on a deep wound. Helpful, but the healing is slow. He tries, bless his crazy little pink-nosed heart.
So please take some good thoughts back, after you have given so much to so many Pet People.

thinking of you, MD Cohn
could not express better than Jon
sincerely, Eva

[Snickster]

..... and i bet tribble is romping around with him and all of the other pets who have died here. someone here said all things happen for a reason, and i hope that is one of them.

I just had a clear visual of Inky, tossing a paw around Funky's shoulder, saying... "follow me, kid... I know where the bowl of goooooooood shrimp are!!"

Funky's in good "paws", Mark. Always know that.

Hugs,

Pat

[LS Support]

lol on the shrimp.

funky did love ikura (fresh salmon roe) i buy at the nationality grocery. i will think of him every time i eat sushi. havent had any since he passed.

[Snickster]

Well, don't you think you should have some now? It will now bring a smile to you when you do... you'll picture our two sharing the bounty!!!!

[LS Support]

by george, i think i will squeeze that in this weekend. i've been missing my crunchy tuna rolls, too. thanks for the little push

[LoveThem]

A good idea...Funky would approve, I am sure!

(I can picture Funky and Inky...and I am sure Tribble watches over both of them!)

[SJ J & S]

Oh Marc this really isnt fair at all you poor darling im so sorry.

I hope this doesnt stop you helping another furbaby, you give them such a wonderful life even though two have been short.

i guess i cant really talk, still havent adopted another myself, yet i havent reached the 10 year mark yet.

i am so upset to hear this has happened to you again, its just so unfair, your rewards will be rich for you in heavan but that doesnt help down here does it.

please dont close you heart again the fur kingdom needs you.

love and hugs to you dear friend

Sue

[Lynsey]

My story is similar to yours in that I lost a seven month old kitten and wasn't with her when she passed away. I too suffer from depression and when I lost Purdy I couldn't cope. It took me five weeks to go back to work. I still miss her like crazy and think of her every single day.

I like to think that I was chosen to have her, and if the was ment to have a short life, I am glad she spent it with me because nobody else could have loved her more.

I have since adopted two littermates, they are now four months old. It is taking me a while to bond with them, partly because I am so scared of getting attatched again. I found it hard when I first took them home, and saw them playing with Purdy's toys. There are so many unwanted animals out there, as the vet said to me, the best thing is to go on and help another poor soul. I read somewhere that if you never go on to have another pet, it is as if it wasn't worth it.

I have been through bereavements before, but losing Purdy was one of the hardest things I have ever had to go through. I will never forget her. I know that she wouldn't have wanted me to be alone, and I also like to think that she chose Heidi and Coco for me.

[LS Support]

i am just finishing up reading a book right now called "pets tell the truth." the main premise of the book is telepathic communication with animals, both living and passed, as well as trees, rocks, mountains, oceans, etc.

while i am not fully convinced about the role that telepathic communicators can play, some of the writings in the book do make sense. one of them being that each animal has a mission in life, and it lives until its mission is completed. an example of a mission would be to teach its owner how to love again after being deeply hurt from some event or person. another example would be a permanently injured animal teaching its owner that, although things can be imperfect in our lives, there is courage to go on. another premise of the book is that our pets are chosen for us ahead of time, and we simply find them through a spiritual connection....nobody else can have these animals because their missions are preset for only one owner. sometimes the animals that seek us out are reincarnates of animals we once loved, and who have chosen to be back with us (the book says not all pets want to be back with their original owners, and sometimes choose to become a different type of animal altogether).

i found it comforting to know that, although i have lost 2 animals in just under 2 years, there must have been a reason for this to occur. perhaps i havent connected to the right animal yet? or the mission of the animals was completed and somehow a lesson was taught that will help carry on to the next animal that comes into my life.

[katzen11]

thank you, MD Cohn, for sharing your feelings and thoughts with us.
i do not know.
you will find a pet you can love, for a very long time.
thinking of you
sincerely
Eva with her pet Jim Klinger
(he is supposed to stay with me forever...........)