Not For Me, But For My Hannah, It Hurts When Hardly Anyone Replies Options

[BabyHannahsMom]

I posted a tribute to my beautiful little girl Hannah who has been gone nine months and one day now. I got two private messages from two of my friends here and a response from Ann. Not many people have even looked at Hannah's tribute.

I know I haven't been replying a lot lately to many of your posts; however, I have in the past. I have been a member here now since April and have been a very active member and have really tried to help. I come here as often as I can because I really do care and really want to help, but as you all know, sometimes it becomes overwhelming and we have to take a break. So, I have done that from time to time, to keep my sanity, to try to break out of the deep depression I experienced for so long.

I don't know if that is why so few of you have read my tribute to Hannah or not. It really hurts me that only 20 something people have even looked at my post. If not for me, but for my girl and to acknowledge that she was a very important little girl, that her life to ya'll too, and that her story is worth at least a short response. And my story too, and my feelings. I still have no one really who I can talk to about Hannah, and I just wish I did. When that fact isn't even acknowledged here, it hurts. It hurts a lot to know that only some of you even looked to see what I had posted.

It feels like nobody cares about me or Hannah. I basically stopped "crying" aloud to anyone quite some time ago because it seems nobody listens or wants to listen. It makes me feel like I haven't been much help and that nobody is interested in what I have to say. Even several of you that I considered to be good friends, not one word have I heard from you since Christmas. It just makes me so sad. I'd rather not say anything anymore at all than to be ignored. I guess I have offended some of you in some way. If I have, I apologize.

I loved my little girl Hannah, and I miss her so very much. Even though it has been nine months now, the pain is still very much with me, the need to talk about her and to have someone listen is very important to me. The world is not a very nice place without her and now to be ignored on this board as if we don't even matter, is more than I can take. It just hurts too much. I am sorry.

[LS Support]

hi, the nature of the internet and, to an even greater extent, forums boards in general is fleeting at best. involve the
tendencies and preferences and needs of people and the mix becomes even more complicated. ive been involved
with petloss for 8+ years now, beginning with a newsgroup on USENET...essentially a public message board, but completely unmoderated so it had a huge number of problems (i have since surrendered it to a netkook named PuppyWizard). some of the problems we had there is what we are now seeing here, where emotions often run high and a group of posters tend to dominate and/or cling a bit closer together. i admin 3 other site forums, one for pleasure and two for clients, and the same things occur at each.

to be frank, i've been overwhelmed by the sheer numbers of posts that continue to build here since, oh, i would say the past 8 months or so. in all honesty, i visit the board 3-4x a day, but mostly to check to see if everything is running smoothly, to see if anybody has questions, or to check to see if anyone is causing a nuisance. years of reading posts on the newsgroup and on the older message board here became to much for me from an emotional standpoint. Sheer sadness, day after day. i do read some when i have the strength, so hopefully people are not upset that i don't reply to each and every post. and hope people realize i am just a petlover like you, not a vet or counselor.

what i am attempting to say is please try not to measure your degree of support received by the number of replies a post gets. You are not here to receive feedback or validation from other people around you, but to share a story about someone you once loved and miss. perhaps to read what others say, or to just read and weep and understand.

it makes me sad that i did not realize the concerns here, i wish someone would have pointed this out earlier. i have expanded the "front page" of each forum from 15 to 75 posts, so there are now fewer pages. i had no idea this was necessary until now. if you see anything else i might be able to fix, let me know.

oh, this might help too...to ensure you see all new posts since your last visit, just click the "View New Posts" link always shown at the above right top of the board.

This post has been edited by LS Support: Jan 21 2005, 10:44 AM