My Boy Options

[MUPPIESMOMMY]

MJ

[Bobbie]

Dear Muppie's Mommy,

I'm grateful that you are still here today, even though the pain has not lessened one little bit.

I believe that the reason the pain is so excrutiating and awful is a direct reflection on how much YOU and MUPPIE loved each other. True. If you really didn't care that much for Muppie, her loss would be sad, but you would get over it much more quickly. Oh it might hurt some, but not like it is hurting you this very minute. You adored Muppie and vice versa and THAT WILL NEVER CHANGE!! That is why the pain is so awfully, awfully bad and that you want to, again, be physically with her. However, that is not going to happen.

What IS going to happen is that, one day when the time is right, your SPIRIT will rejoin Muppie's SPIRIT in that wonderful place I choose to call Heaven. Spiritual joining and reunions are much more pwerful (in other words better and happier) than we can ever imagine while stuck on this earth. Muppie's Spirit is already and has been with you since the moment she passed and will never, ever leave you. I believe that with all my heart and that is why I talk to my Trevor and all his brothers who passed before him. When I am at the cemetery, I talk to them out loud and really don't care if anyone hears me. When I am elsewhere (other than home) my thoughts travel directly to my boys. And my first boy (as an adult) passed away over 25 years ago. Do you think I've forgotten him? Nope. So, my friend, be in touch with Muppie in ways that make you feel most comfortable: talk, cry, whisper, sing, remember, smile, touch what was hers (when you can). Like leejaye, I left water in Trevor's bowl (changing it every day) for over 6 months! It just made me feel closer to him to continue a ritual I had done every day of his little life.

You are so sad and scared, Samantha. But you really have no reason to feel guilty (although every single one of us does at first) because so many things were beyond your control. And Muppie knows that best of all. I'm sure she was thinking of you all the time, but it was in a comforting way, a way that reassured her that, in the end, the best for her (NOT for you!) was going to happen. And she knew your Spirit was beside her every step of the journey. Now she is in the BEST POSSIBLE place, ready to help you every day, in every way. Even if you don't look beside you, Muppie is there. You don't "see" her like we do any more, but believe me, Muppie is there and will never, ever leave. Call on her new-found strength and her continuing love, for help. It will come. It WILL come.

Please take a few moments to take care of yourself! You might try eating something sustaining for now. Soon, little habits will kick in and help you out.

OH! And you have one more thing on your side: TIME. I'll talk about that next visit.

Love and sympathy,
Bobbie