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[Kayelle]

Hi.

My beautiful puppy-like kitten-like cat collapsed on Saturday night after a long battle with his too big heart. I drove him to the vet, hoping they could help us. When we arrived my pusscat just lay down on the table. I had no choice but to stop his suffering. Knowing that, however, does nothing to alter the fact that I miss him so very much.

Not even a week has gone by and now people are telling me (out of concern for me, I know) to get on with things and that's life and it was all for the best, why don't I just try get on with life and try to put it to the back of my mind? He was my baby boy...

I'm so angry at them for not understanding how deep the pain runs. About why I hate to go home, why I don't want to pretend everything's fine, about how I really do want to stop all the clocks.

I know the pain will lessen, and I'll eventually remember him with joy, as he deserves. For the moment, why can they not just let me be?

xx

[CheriAnn]

I am so sorry for your loss, but you have come to a place where everybody understands, and nobody here thinks you should "get on with your life"! We are all grieving and healing the best way that we can.

I have been so fortunate, because my family, friends and co-workers have shown care and concern for me. I am honestly blessed. However, when I read posts like yours, it just makes me angry. I can't imagine what I would do if someone implied to me that my Rachael wasn't important enough in this world to grieve over! If there were people that didn't understand, I think I would try to avoid them until I felt stronger.

You know what's best for you, and continue to grieve until you feel better. Nobody has a set time table and there is no quick fix. The MORE you grieve the MORE you will heal. I don't think these people understand that if you were to try and stop the pain, it would only fester and grow worse with time. Your precious baby boy was a HUGE part of your life. I am so sorry he has physically left you, but so glad that you were able to be loved by such a wonderful furkitty in your lifetime
I would NEVER EVER give up this pain and loss if it meant not ever having almost 12 beautiful years with my Rachael.

Cheri