Loss Of Daisy, Death of my cat Options

[Catherine1]

Yesterday morning we were wakened by a neighbour at 6am to tell us that our beloved wee cat Daisy had been ran over by a car and had been killed. My husband brought her home but wouldnt let me look at her. I have never felt grief like this before and I havnt stopped crying since it happened. She was with us for 8 years and I miss her terribly. I have an overwhelming feeling of guilt that I didnt get the chance to say goodbye to her or kiss her face and stroke her. We have buried her in the garden but everytime I look out I am crying again. Everything reminds me of her and I feel totally miserable. People have been understanding but I feel that maybe they will be thinking okay you ve had a cry, now pull yourself together and get on with it, but it really is so hard. I hope in time my guilt will fade and I will be able to talk and think about her without bursting into tears. Meanwhile if anyone has had a similar experience I would really love to hear from them to find out if it gets any easier.

[jillybromley]

Dear Catherine

I am so very sorry that you have lost your sweet Daisy to such a terrible accident.

It is heartbreaking indeed to lose such a beloved furbaby in such a tragic way. You ask if anyone has similar experiences. That is why I am replying to you.

It is 9 months since my own little kitty was struck by a car and died instantly.

I was completely devastated and non-functioning in the first few weeks. It was an unbelievable shock for me and it took me a long while even to come out of the shock stage.

Your husband protected you from seeing her which I believe was probably for the best. You can remember her as the dear sweet Daisy you have always known.
I know that feeling of wishing you could give her one last cuddle, one last hug goodbye and it is very hard to have been denied that last goodbye, as you long for her and want her back in your arms once again.

The path through grief is a slow one. In the first week try to be very gentle with yourself and not expect too much from yourself, the grief seems to overtake all other feelings, but try to look after yourself properly.

I know you must miss your sweet Daisy so very much and long to have her with you again. I gained great comfort from thinking of my Ellie being healed from her injuries and being well and happy at Rainbow Bridge. I put the Poem on my wall and read it every day. For me this helped as it made me realise that although she was no longer with me she was still alive in spirit form.

I also found a lot of comfort by coming here to LS and talking about my feelings with those I knew would understand because they had been through the same sort of emotional turmoil.

My thoughts are with you at this very difficult time
and please try to think of your Daisy as being healed and whole again and running free in the fields of Rainbow Bridge. It will help you to bear the pain better if you can have some sort of comforting image of her to put in your mind when the grief about what has happened becomes too overwhelming to bear.

I don't just think it's an elastoplast either. I think it's for real. I truly believe our babies continue on, albeit on a plain that we cannot see. I have had little signs from Ellie that she is still around. A feeling of her jumping on the bed at night and laying down next to me about 6 weeks after her passing was so very real that I could not just dismiss it. I could feel the warmth and weight of her body lying there next to me for about five minutes.

This event has been a great comfort to me and I believe that one day we will be reunited and that I will see her again.

Bless you and your sweet Daisy

with love
jilly