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Karli & Jake...
post Jan 26 2005, 03:27 PM
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I have been having a really hard time dealing with the loss of both of my furry kids. Its been two weeks now. I have been to a petloss support group and a therapist. They both suggested writing letters to Jake and Karli. I did that and I felt a little bit better. I have days where I think of them and don't cry and some days I just break down. I have been lighting candles for them every night. I haven't been able to have a memorial for them yet. I have been agonizing over doing it as then they will really be gone.

I don't sleep good anymore. I lay there and think of them alot. Sunday night Karli came to me in a dream and told me to let her go. She said she would come back to me some day. I hope this is true. I miss them so much. Anyway, I just thought I would share that Karli had sent me a message.

Today is one of those bad days. Hopefully it will get better with time.
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DJ - Edgar, Jess...
post Jan 26 2005, 03:38 PM
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I also suggest you post your letters in the Tributes section - once they are in cyber-space they will live forever in either a bit or a byte somewhere smile.gif I am so sorry for your pain - thank you for sharing with us.

Do the memorial when you are ready - and talk to us before, and after. We've all gone through it.
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Rusty's Mom
post Jan 26 2005, 04:43 PM
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Dear Karli and Jake's Mom,

Sorry that you're having a hard time............I know what you mean about writing a tribute and feeling when you do, that they'll really be gone. It will be difficult for you to write a memorial, but when you're ready, you'll probably feel better. We all will be here to read just what your beloved furkids meant to you and how special they were.

Yes, I do feel that your dream was a message from Karli. She doesn't want to see you in such pain and she will come to visit you again.

Thinking of you,
Lynn


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Rusty, I will always love you and never forget you. Thank you for more than 7 wonderful years.

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Ann H
post Jan 26 2005, 06:37 PM
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I am so sorry that you are still in such pain and 2 weeks is still a very short time. I am so glad that you had a dream and I myself believe they do come to visit us. I still don't sleep very well either but it is getting a bit better now and my baby has been gone for 4 weeks. Just let those tears fall when they come as they are not only tears for your loss but healing tears too. Come and post more often when you are able and we are always here to help.
Ann


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My girls went to the Rainbow Bridge 6 weeks and 3 days apart.
Snookie had cushing's disease, and later developed diabetes. Both had cancer, Snookie had cancer of the liver, and Chili Bean had cancer of the pallet. Chili Bean was our son's chihuahua but we kept her often throughout her life and she stayed with us for the last 9 months of her life. Chili Bean also had asthma and heart failure. We will see you in Heaven my precious darlings.


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Senorita Chili Bean Bubbles Howard
11-05-94 - 11-11-04
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Pamela
post Jan 27 2005, 12:16 AM
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I am also sorry you are having a hard time, when I lost Moose, I could not even look at his pictures for over 2 months, the pain of it was searing, I just didn't know wht to do with my self. I never thought I could heal from that horrible loss but with the help of my friends here at L.S. I have been able to make this journey. Pamela


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Moose, you were a gift for my heart and my soul. I am so thankful to have had you. I love you forever My Mooser.1995-2004
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post Jan 27 2005, 01:04 AM
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I am so sorry for your pain and suffering in missing Karli and Jake. Believe and listen to your dream from Karli. You will in time find some peace in your heart. My thoughts are with you.

Litebrez
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jillybromley
post Jan 27 2005, 09:58 AM
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Dear Karli & Jakes Mom

Writing a letter to Karli & Jake was such a lovely idea.

Also let me tell you what I have found to be so so healing and therapeutic.

I got a large notebook about a week after Ellie died. It was because I found myself still wanting to talk to her all the time and I thought this way I would be able to write my thoughts to her. I started to write to her at any time of the day when I was missing her badly, or feeling very miserable. I didn't talk about her in the journal, I talked TO her. I told her how I was feeling, how much I was missing her, how beautiful she was, I reminded her of all the little things she used to do and all the memories we shared together. I called her by all the pet names I used to call her. While I was writing I was picturing her in my mind at Rainbow Bridge listening to what I was saying and writing.

All this probably sounds a bit silly, but it helped me a lot, I still do it 8 weeks on ... not quite as frequently now ... but there are still moments when I have to run to my journal, pick up a pencil and "talk to my little Ellie".

How does it help? I'm not sure, but I know that I always come away with a very peaceful and warm feeling.

Thinking of you and dear Karli and Jake

With love
jilly


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ELLIE, my beautiful precious baby. 1st Sept 2003 - 3rd Dec 2004.
Rest peacefully my little sweetheart.
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Kathleen032
post Jan 27 2005, 09:01 PM
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Dear K&J's mom-

I'm so sorry for your loss of Karlie and Jake.

Writing letters and posting tributes is such a great way to honor your furbabies, and, as DJ said, it's a way their memory can live on forever.

Several months ago I was doing research on canine lymhoma and I found this website. It talks about doing a goodbye ritual. It's a little "woo woo," but I think the idea is, well, intriguing. I've not gotten to the point where I'm ready to do an actual ritual to let Shiloh's spirit go, but when I am ready, I might do one that's mentioned on that web page. Or, I may buy the book that is mentioned.

http://www.bmts.com/~sstorms/Boofy/pet_los...oss_healing.htm

You, Jake and Karlie are in my thoughts.
Kathleen


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Shiloh and Hobbie, you're both gone from my arms, but forever in my heart.

Shiloh
1999 - Sept. 17, 2004

Hobbie
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