I don't know maybe I am trying to rush my grief which is the wrong thing to do. I feel like a bonehead still being so weepy and so distraught over having the Euthanize Ebony. I mean it hasn't even been a week yet! I just feel that I should be happy because we are expectin our second furless child in January and I should be happy about that and I am but I just feel like someone ripped my heart out and part of the family will not be here to welcome our second little girl into the world. I just miss my Ebony so very much and feel so empty without her here. It hurts to see my 3 year old grieving and my other ##er grieving too, she is just pacing around the house looking for Eb and whimpering.

Well thanks for listening to me guys! You all are the best!

Hugs Sharon

Babe, I can't give advice or comfort by words myself, but I've just lost my mate by having to decide to put him down too. My Seth wasn't as sick as Eby, but my pain is real as yours, just not as poweful.

Hang in there dude. Please know you have a family that will support each other physically through this time. I'm kinda doing all this on my own, with the help of all of you.

Hugs.

Hamish x

Don't rush your grief to fulifl a new furry member for January. It will take months or years till you live in peace with the loss of Eby, but acceptance of Eby's loss will come about when you are ready. Don't rush it. For your sake, the family's sake and for the sake of your new companion.

Mish x

I would have like to rush it, the pain was unbarable at times and ran so so deep. But there was no way around...only through and that takes time. I am not far ahead of you and have just gotton to a point where I can see past today. I could not look at my Mooses pics until recently. It's just an awful feeling that is in the core of our being. Pamela

Sharon Congratulations on that new baby of yours and I am sorry Ebony wont be there to welcome the little one. It has been 4 weeks since we lost Chili Bean and I still cry now and then. Who knows done the years we may still shed some tears because after all we are human and we did love them. It's if we could not cry that we would need to feel bad because with love comes tears.
Ann

Dear Sharon,

It's been 3 months since Shiloh passed. I still get all choked up at times.

I'm giving myself a year to grieve...anything less would be too little. I'm trying to be patient with myself...Shiloh was a very important part of my life, just as Ebony was an important part of your life.

Take care,
Kathleen
PS - Congrats on the new baby.

Hello Sharon
We are on level pegging time wise, aren't we? We both lost our babies at the same time.
There are times when the grief is so overwhelming I know. It's such a long hard road with its peaks and its troughs. Sometimes its bearable and sometimes its completely overwhelming.

Your emotions must feel so mixed. On the one hand expecting a new arrival in January (a happy thought) and on the other losing your beloved Ebony (such a sad thought). It must be so very difficult for you.

I do feel for you Sharon, it is all so poignant, and I find especially at this time of year when it is supposed to be the time of happiness and celebration. I see the Christmas lights in the windows of houses and it makes me feel even sadder. I think to myself you don't know how sad I feel.

My thoughts are very muchwith you
with love
jilly

My heart is also broken, and I feel for you. I lost my Rusty on Wednesday, and keep thinking I should feel "better" by now. I doubt I ever really will, but hopefully time will help both of us.

Grief is not something we can rush through, Sharon. I'm sorry to say it must run its course and there's no way around it. All of us have gotten mad at ourselves for not being able to just "get over it."

Losing our pets leaves a huge hole in our hearts and it takes a lot of time and many tears to heal. The pain will lessen and you'll learn to cope with your loss. You are still in the very early stage of the grieving process and I know things seem hopeless at times, but please know you won't always feel this way. Brighter days are coming.

{{{{{{{Sharon}}}}}}}

__Jim