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 Feb 17 2009, 02:24 AM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 650 Joined: 8-July 08 From: Mass Member No.: 4,838  |
Hi George, Just wanted to let you know that I'm glad the vet was able help you. The head and heart need to be on the same page in times like these. I loved your ending " I will make it". GREAT!..We all know you/we will. It's a bumpy road ahead so anytime you stumble, LS will be here help you get on your feet again..You found your soulmate, you lost a great love, greive as much as you need to, we all understand. Some of us go thru life just having a pet, and others are lucky enough to find that "special one". You are very blessed to have had Bun Bun in world (and for a very long time)..Take care..Hugs. Ann
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Feb 17 2009, 08:34 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 42 Joined: 13-February 09 Member No.: 5,533 |
QUOTE (ann @ Feb 17 2009, 02:24 AM)  Hi George, Just wanted to let you know that I'm glad the vet was able help you. The head and heart need to be on the same page in times like these. I loved your ending " I will make it". GREAT!..We all know you/we will. It's a bumpy road ahead so anytime you stumble, LS will be here help you get on your feet again..You found your soulmate, you lost a great love, greive as much as you need to, we all understand. Some of us go thru life just having a pet, and others are lucky enough to find that "special one". You are very blessed to have had Bun Bun in world (and for a very long time)..Take care..Hugs. Ann Thank you Ann, I will forever remember your words, I made it thru a whole night and plan on going to work today. It is a mystery to me why this as effected me so deeply. I loved Bun-Bun but it was the right thing to do for her. I have to let this follow it's own path and give myself chance to heal. I am going to make it. I do appreciate all your kind and thoughtful words, you will never know how much they meant to a tormented soul. I hope peace finds you. God Bless...George |
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Feb 17 2009, 09:09 AM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 604 Joined: 16-March 08 From: Massachusetts Member No.: 4,585 |
QUOTE (george @ Feb 17 2009, 08:34 AM) It is a mystery to me why this as effected me so deeply. I wondered about this myself, and after many months became convinced that the relationship with Miles was the kind of total, unreserved, unconditional love we always had hoped to experience with a human. People rarely ever find it. Everyone dreams of it. So, someday, when we do not expect it, or even think of it any more, we have a close friend who never judges us. We never have to worry about saying the wrong thing. If we mess up, they forgive us. They are always glad to see us. We do not need to do anything but show up in the same room, and they always express delight and joy. They become part of our lives and before we know it, we have promoted them to "human", and imprinted them with our personalities. We know that even if we have a horrible day...Lose the job and smash the car up on the way home, they will not say a bad word, nor call us anything, nor judge us, except to run to the door and welcome us, and rub against our legs, and maybe, maybe even beg for a treat...or graciously allow us to give them one. The years go by. They are there, reliable and with friendship as steady as a rock. We do not even know we depend on them... Until. And is what made it so hard. -------------------- Miles, my friend and Cat-Wife. 3-11-2008
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Feb 17 2009, 04:34 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 123 Joined: 7-December 05 Member No.: 1,268 |
Hi George....
Glad to hear you were able to go to work today. You'll have to take it one day at time. Just remember to keep breathing, breathing.... one breath at a time, you will make it through. I hope your dear Bun-bun and my kitties are having a good time today at the Rainbow Bridge. For they do not leave us.... it's "till we meet again". Ren, Zorro, and Nemo's Mom |
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Feb 17 2009, 07:53 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 42 Joined: 13-February 09 Member No.: 5,533 |
[quote name='Nemo's Mommy' date='Feb 17 2009, 04:34 PM' post='48735']
Hi George.... Glad to hear you were able to go to work today. You'll have to take it one day at time. Just remember to keep breathing, breathing.... one breath at a time, you will make it through. I hope your dear Bun-bun and my kitties are having a good time today at the Rainbow Bridge. For they do not leave us.... it's "till we meet again". Ren, Zorro, and Nemo's Mom [/quote I made it Thur today, I must say I though it was going to be essayer then it was. But when I got home my wife is still a basket case, the other cat has not eaten in 4 days and screams all the time. I got thru work but I am reliving it all over again when I got home. I locked myself in the den to e-mail for a wile. The back of the house (Bun-Bun domain) was dark and cold. This house just is not happy anymore, I must spend time with my family instead of alone. I must move on, I must stop thinking of this.. I am going insane ? This cant be happening to me. I never had something upset my life so much. Whats going on in my life ?? Why is this happening.. I wish I had that day to do over.. this is crazy ! |
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Feb 18 2009, 12:49 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 42 Joined: 13-February 09 Member No.: 5,533 |
QUOTE (Jon730 @ Feb 17 2009, 09:09 AM) I wondered about this myself, and after many months became convinced that the relationship with Miles was the kind of total, unreserved, unconditional love we always had hoped to experience with a human. People rarely ever find it. Everyone dreams of it. So, someday, when we do not expect it, or even think of it any more, we have a close friend who never judges us. We never have to worry about saying the wrong thing. If we mess up, they forgive us. They are always glad to see us. We do not need to do anything but show up in the same room, and they always express delight and joy. They become part of our lives and before we know it, we have promoted them to "human", and imprinted them with our personalities. We know that even if we have a horrible day...Lose the job and smash the car up on the way home, they will not say a bad word, nor call us anything, nor judge us, except to run to the door and welcome us, and rub against our legs, and maybe, maybe even beg for a treat...or graciously allow us to give them one. The years go by. They are there, reliable and with friendship as steady as a rock. We do not even know we depend on them... Until. And is what made it so hard. Yes they are, they are what keeps us doing the things we "have" to do. They always understand how we feel, nothings more important then a good long nap in the sun, or a little treat or a nice long drink of water. The important things are the little things I life. Funny how God put cats here to teach us that. I learned a lot from my Bun-Bun. She showed me what unconditional love is.. We miss them so much because they where so gentle with our feelings, never harsh or fast always just a hug away from purring.. There perfect little love machines. |
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Feb 18 2009, 09:42 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 22 Joined: 15-February 09 From: Oklahoma City Member No.: 5,538 |
George,
I just wanted to say I am so sorry about Bun-Bun. I read your story and I am right there with you. I loved my Roman like he was my son. I am having a very hard time too. We are all here for each other. I will say a prayer for you and Bun-Bun. We will make it through this. We have to. They would not want us to be sad for them forever. They would want us to be happy! I will be thinking of you. |
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Feb 18 2009, 12:39 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 42 Joined: 13-February 09 Member No.: 5,533 |
QUOTE (Jules02 @ Feb 18 2009, 09:42 AM) George, I just wanted to say I am so sorry about Bun-Bun. I read your story and I am right there with you. I loved my Roman like he was my son. I am having a very hard time too. We are all here for each other. I will say a prayer for you and Bun-Bun. We will make it through this. We have to. They would not want us to be sad for them forever. They would want us to be happy! I will be thinking of you. Thank you very much. We all have this bridge to cross and I guess only time makes it go away, I do appreciate all the kind words and support for my friends on Lighting strike. It's been a hard couple of weeks I never knew I would react this way when her time came. They show us so much unconditional love you just take it for granted and when it's gone a void is in our hearts. I really want to stop thinking of "that day" all the time, so I can get to the next level or something. I do know it would have been very lonely with out all the support I received from my friends, like you. We must remember the good things and NEVER think of the ending. I loved my Bun-Bun but she was sick and that's that. I cant relive the end over and over, it's not doing me any good. I took another day off work and I'm going to the movies with my wife, I hope it takes my mind off of it for a wile anyway. But tomorrow will come and I must get myself together and move on. thank you for your kind words and I hope you find peace real soon. Our loved ones really don't want us to suffer as we did not want them to either. Bun-Bun and Roman are happy and in a place where they don't feel pain and are never hungry or cold and play all day long, there happy ..God bless you |
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Feb 24 2009, 08:31 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 42 Joined: 13-February 09 Member No.: 5,533 |
It has been over three weeks now and it is getting a little better coping with our lost. Today the remains of our Bun-Bun can home to us from the vet. Our other cat (Maggie) has been crying for her all the time, she is also having problems eating and sleeping but today when Bun-Bun came back home she starting playing with her toys, she had not touched then sense that day. It seemed to be a "whole" home again when Bun-Bun came back today. Her spirit has reentered our life's and we are all together again. we fell better now that she is home with us. We are grateful knowing that she is no longer in pain and is in a better place now. But her spirit will always be with us.
I am grateful of all my friends on Lighting Strike who knew the pain I was going thru. We all have a common bond of emptiness .We all have lost our little loved ones. It's comforting knowing that there are souls who struggle after losing there furry friends but still can extend kindness to others. I appreciate all my friends here who helped me through this difficult time. I wish you all peace and my God bless you all.. George |
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Feb 25 2009, 02:17 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 650 Joined: 8-July 08 From: Mass Member No.: 4,838 |
Hi George, I'm glad the presence of Bun Bun has given you, Maggie and your family some peace. Funny how that is. It was the same for me. It took over 2 long weeks b4 I got my Arthur's ashes back home. And then there was this tremedous sense of relief having him back where he belonged. Maybe it's comforting knowing there is something there of the physical sense I guess. I'm glad we were able to help comfort you. It's nice to know there is a place to come to when every so often we start to lose our balance...Take care..Ann
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Feb 25 2009, 10:20 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 2,171 Joined: 2-November 07 Member No.: 3,876 |
It was heartwarming to read your message, George. Thank you for sharing that with us.
Your story of Maggie was interesting. Sometimes these sweet ones know more than we think they do. I'm glad your home is feeling whole. We can only do the best we can for ourselves and hope it helps us heal and gives us peace. Hugs to you and your family and your sweet Angel...Bun-Bun Judy -------------------- LITTLE GUY - May 28, 1991 - Sept 10, 2007 - Always in my Heart.
His story: Section D&D: How do I stop crying? and also... My Boy is Gone Forever. |
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Mar 18 2009, 07:12 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 42 Joined: 13-February 09 Member No.: 5,533 |
It's been over a month now and I have held up fairly well and seem to be moving forward. I would like to think I am "getting on" with "it" but there is always a hint of sadness in the mirror every morning. This is stupid for grown man to act this way but I cant for the life of me understand why I felt this deeply for my Bun-Bun. You would think that a person of my age, a Vietnam vet, a grandfather wouldn't get so "devastated" over the lost of a pet. I have lost many other pets in my life.as you would this would be "routine".. There are not many days that go by with out a tear for her. I guess this comes with getting older.. My wife is the same, she seems to be "moving" on with it. We has a vacation to Australia planed and we canceled it because of this, our kids cant understand why? I don't know why either. I guess after the kids moved out and we where all alone we substituted the cat for the kids. (that's stubid)... I don know. All I "do" know it hurts. I guess others have felt this way before and I am sure it's going to get easier. I am sure glad to have all my friends here to listen to the insensible ramblings of a old man.. Thanks friends
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Mar 19 2009, 01:12 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 650 Joined: 8-July 08 From: Mass Member No.: 4,838 |
Hi George, it does get better in time. The heartache will remain. We do move on. I cancelled 5 weeks of summer vacation after I lost my Arthur. You are not alone in your feelings. It takes time, gradually you will beging to do things and enjoy it. We are all different as to how much time it will take.
Pets are funny little souls how they touch us. They don't speak, the don't tell us how they are, or what they feel, or that they love us or judge us (I'm sure from time to time they may think of us a crazy humans), but we just know and that connection without words creates a strong(er) bond I think. Don't feel silly about your gender or age. Most of us here are grown adults. We're human with broken hearts..Hugs George...Ann |
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Mar 20 2009, 02:52 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 123 Joined: 7-December 05 Member No.: 1,268 |
Hi George,
You shouldn't feel bad at all. You don't have to focus on "getting on" with it. I think that it is something we never truly "get over", we just learn to live with it. It becomes a part of our life, part of our daily breathing. I think we just learn to accept what has happened, and treasure the time we got with them. But it doesn't mean we stop loving them, or stop thinking of them. They are always with us in our thoughts and our hearts. And someday, we will see them again. Hold your dear Bun-bun close to your heart, and you never truly have to let her go. She is with you now, and will always be. hugs NM |
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Mar 22 2009, 06:29 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 42 Joined: 13-February 09 Member No.: 5,533 |
QUOTE (Ann @ Mar 19 2009, 02:12 AM) Hi George, it does get better in time. The heartache will remain. We do move on. I canceled 5 weeks of summer vacation after I lost my Arthur. You are not alone in your feelings. It takes time, gradually you will begging to do things and enjoy it. We are all different as to how much time it will take. Pets are funny little souls how they touch us. They don't speak, the don't tell us how they are, or what they feel, or that they love us or judge us (I'm sure from time to time they may think of us a crazy humans), but we just know and that connection without words creates a strong(ER) bond I think. Don't feel silly about your gender or age. Most of us here are grown adults. We're human with broken hearts..Hugs George...Ann Thank you Ann, I know your right. Your kind words are a comfort to me. I'll get over this someday.. I know it.. I hope you to find peace with your lost.. We all stumble threw this horrific felling on our own. Some are easier some are harder.. For me it was a hard one. Yours to .. It's going to get better, I know it.. God bless. George |
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Mar 22 2009, 06:38 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 42 Joined: 13-February 09 Member No.: 5,533 |
QUOTE (Nemo's Mommy @ Mar 20 2009, 03:52 PM) Hi George, You shouldn't feel bad at all. You don't have to focus on "getting on" with it. I think that it is something we never truly "get over", we just learn to live with it. It becomes a part of our life, part of our daily breathing. I think we just learn to accept what has happened, and treasure the time we got with them. But it doesn't mean we stop loving them, or stop thinking of them. They are always with us in our thoughts and our hearts. And someday, we will see them again. Hold your dear Bun-bun close to your heart, and you never truly have to let him go. He is with you now, and will always be. hugs NM Thank you NM. I know you know how I feel. Your lost was a upsetting experience for you to. We will get over this horrible feeling someday, I know it will happen. I miss my Bun-Bun everyday, I see her in the chair she always rested in, I see her in the morning, I see her in the corner of my eye every where I go. I will see her again. I know I will. Thank you for your wise words of understanding. Maybe Nemo and Bun-Bun are playing together right now..Bun-Bun loved to eat, her stomach was so big it looked like she had saddle bags on from the rear. I wish I could just feed her once more.... God bless.. George |
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Mar 23 2009, 11:27 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 123 Joined: 7-December 05 Member No.: 1,268 |
Yes! What a wonderful thought! I am sure they are playing together! Along with my Ren and Zorro too! They are probably having a wonderful time. You said Bun-bun loved to eat, she would get a big stomach. My Ren was obsessed with cat treats! I bet they are enjoying all they want now! Maybe by us coming together on earth, our babies also come together, too!
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Mar 24 2009, 09:07 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 2,171 Joined: 2-November 07 Member No.: 3,876 |
Hi, George
This is stupid for grown man to act this way but I cant for the life of me understand why I felt this deeply for my Bun-Bun. You would think that a person of my age, a Vietnam vet, a grandfather wouldn't get so "devastated" over the lost of a pet. Would you believe these feelings of grief are really very, very normal, George? Well, they are. There is absolutely positively nothing "stupid" about grieving for such a loss. You have physically lost a best friend. We all have. That hurts. It hurts a lot. Someday, you will find more peace but it takes time. Grief comes quickly to us but healing takes time. You will be okay, George. You will never forget your girl, Bun-Bun, and that's how it should be. By knowing her and loving her and getting her love and special ways back...just creates such a strong bond that it can never be forgotten. Someday we smile at the good memories and are thankful these special ones were a part of our lives. And, we would do it all over again to have them as a part of our lives. They are never with us long enough. That's why there is always some pain in missing them no matter how much time goes by. But there is joy in memories of knowing them and it is that joy that makes us glad they were with us and will always be with us for they now have a "forever home" in our hearts. Hugs and peace, George Judy -------------------- LITTLE GUY - May 28, 1991 - Sept 10, 2007 - Always in my Heart.
His story: Section D&D: How do I stop crying? and also... My Boy is Gone Forever. |
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Mar 25 2009, 09:08 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 42 Joined: 13-February 09 Member No.: 5,533 |
QUOTE (george @ Mar 25 2009, 10:05 PM) Thank you Judy, I know how you felt when you lost you little boy. As you know It's tough.. We have another cat named Maggie, she was always the screamer of the bunch, she wont let you forget she's around for a second. She is the one who got lost in Florida a few years ago. She is as old as Bun-Bun was and now I am paranoid over her health. I follow her around with food and water all the time. I got her on cranberry juice and amoxil-cillen because she has a cold right now. I guess I am a vet's dream, I'm there every other week now.. She looks so lonely tho.. She pines for her friend all the time. I have not seen her play or run around sense that day. Funny how even another cat knows there is something missing. She and Bun-Bun always hung out on a different side of the sofa all day, now Maggie stays on her side but goes over to Bun-Bun's side and sniffs it all the time, I see her wondering around looking for her all the time... She(Maggie) has been to the vet 4 times sense "that day"...I just don't want to loose anyone else I guess. I look to everyday as a day further from that day, I know that a day will come when I can say " I didn't think of that" today.. It will come , I guess in time. I am trying to focus on the time we had together and I know I made the right decision that day.. But I find myself twitching around looking for that little face looking up at me from all the familiar places. She never hurt a soul, she was so sweet. Time is what I need now, the more time between that day and now has to grow. And so will I.. Thanks for the shoulder to cry on.. Hugs for you and your little boy. George |
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Mar 29 2009, 08:36 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 2,171 Joined: 2-November 07 Member No.: 3,876 |
Thanks for the thoughts, George. I can understand your looking for Bun-Bun's face...when someone is so much a part of you..well, that's only natural.
I'm glad you and Maggie are keeping each other busy. Lots of hugs and kisses feel good. Don't feel paranoid about watching out for her. I'm sure she loves the extra attention and you have to do what makes you feel right to do. If it feels right, it is right. Give her an extra hug from me. Judy -------------------- LITTLE GUY - May 28, 1991 - Sept 10, 2007 - Always in my Heart.
His story: Section D&D: How do I stop crying? and also... My Boy is Gone Forever. |
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