Well, Little Guy, September..the month you left..is now gone. I can no longer say..last year at this time you were here. Now it is...last year at this time you had recently had to go..it was a cruel time of the year. Last year with the Holidays coming up....they were terrible cause the memory of your emergency and making the decision for you to go...lingered on.

I found myself crying at times during September because I do miss you so.

Again...I find myself taking everything..one day at a time.

We love you and miss you and always will.

To: Symese
Im so sorry for your loss and Im in same situation. I put my dog rolo tto sleep last saturday. I have spent the week crying my eyes out, playing the what ifs, what if I didnt put him to sleep, was he really in pain, was it the right decision, I know it was but I feel gulty and heartbroken. This is not the ffirst pet Ive had to put to sleep. It about killed me when I had to put my 19 year old cat to sleep. she was my first adult pet and we had been though so much. I didnt think my heart will ever heal but with time it did get better and eventually I made a trip to a local shelter and adopted an adult cat who is wonderful and loving and really helped me get through all the grief and I know my cat snuggles would be happy I have someone to love and give a good home to. You til will eventually get through this. There will always be a place in your heart for your kitty and even 2 years later sometimes I see her pic and cry. I will always treasure our memories and love her forever. So please find some peace knowing your kitty is no longer suffering. my thoughts and prayers are withyou

Linda

Hi, Linda

Sorry for the late response but I just read your message. Nothing had told me I had a new reply from you and I was going through my thread here and saw this and don't see I replied.

I am so sorry about your dog and your cat. Yes, I have been there also. I am glad you went to a shelter and got a new kitty. I understand about even though time has gone by...to see a picture and cry.....me Too!.

Yes, Little Guy is no longer suffering and I know your babies are at peace also. Nothing will ever end the suffering we feel when we think about them. Time helps so it is not everyday. But it really will never stop..no matter how much time has past.

Thank you for the beautiful offer. And Thank you for taking the time to stop by.

Judy

Thanks, Joanne

I really don't believe humans are capable of the unconditional love we see our babies give so freely. It comes naturally to them...we may try to work at it but I don't see human nature as capable of it.

And yes, I believe these special ones do know more than us about such love. Remember we live in the past (a lot) or the future, but they only live in the moment, in the present time for them.
They don't have their minds crowded with all the things we allow to run through our minds.

That's why, I guess, we have to learn to love them as much as we can in the moment because we don't know when those moments will be snatched away.

It hurts to even think of all of this right now.

Take care,
Judy

Joanne: you said:

Looking back, I realize just how rich I was. I believe I had more than most. I will never forget holding each of my babes in my arms. For now, Judy, those are the memories I have that I cherish in the now.

I echo your words and thoughts. My boy's 16 years now seem like a blink of an eye. And I am glad to have pictures of all my best friends....I remember them all and I remember special memories each one brought into our lives.

I cherish those too.

Judy

I wanted to thank you all and say that I am one of the ones who "can't stop crying." Your words here mean a lot to me, and I am glad to be here and sad to what brought me here. I take comfort in knowing strangers can come together and help each other, having never even met. Perhaps our furbabies are here with us after all, teaching us to be so very very kind and loving to strangers in such a tragic loss.

I wanted to share something I have had on my desk, the last two lines of which are on my parents headstone,

This is from writer Henrry van Dyke:

Time is...
Too slow for those who wait,
Too swift for those who fear,
Too long for those who grieve,
Too short for those who rejoice.
But for those who love,
Time is not.

Thank you for being there for me.

ckrspanl:

Thank you for stopping by and for your comments. I really appreciate the writing of Van Dyke about Time..............it is so true, isn't it?

Now when I visit my Little Guy's topic here....I will be reading that writing many times as I go back through the posts here. It is a good writing to be part of my boy's topic.

I'm glad you have felt better after reading things I have said. Since we all feel the same pain about our loss, I guess by tapping into my pain....the words I find there that help me feel better also helps others.

When you think about it, through us....our babies really help a lot of people...their passing will never be forgotten and because of our loss.....we reach out to others...for help and to help..and it becomes a circle of friendship and understanding and creates a bond that only those who love these babies as we do, and in particular, we who have suffered our loss and live with that pain..that truly keeps on giving.

Take care....one day at a time and baby steps toward healing...is the path to follow.

Judy

Hello LoveThem,
I just wanted to stop in and say was Thinking of you!!!
Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!

Sissycat:

Thanks for stopping by. I always check on your topic and read your sweet words to your special one. That love always makes me smile. Hugs back to you!

Judy

Joanne:

"life doesn't seem fair"...You are so right...that's because it is not fair. The question is Why?
Maybe as imperfect humans we are given good and bad things happening in our life but who
can answer WHY our special furbabies have to go through what they do? They are truly without sin, as innocent as a baby, so why is life so unfair to them?

Sometimes the hurt becomes unbearable again....when we remember what they and we went through.

You lost 3 within a few months of each other....how cruel is that? Answer: very.

But then again these babies don't have thousands of people flocking to their doors to give them a home..it can go the other way..especially now..with home foreclosures...all I read about is if they lost the home...they can't take the cat, dog, etc. What were these babies....a status symbol? That can be abandoned just like that?

So as cruel as things get....it is the people who have opened their hearts and their homes and really love these babies...that have to keep on going...even when they are taken away. There are always more to take their place. Maybe someday.....spay and neuter...will happen to the extent that there are not thousands available...and not enough homes.

But the pain is so physically exhausting because we never can forget the ones taken.....

..............and we never will forget.............never.

Hugs to you and your babies...
Judy

Dearest Judy, you're so wise. I wish I could put my thoughts into words like you're able to do and you're always there for everyone. God Bless You and what a genuine Treasure you are! Some friends of mine came with me to say, "Thank you so very, very much for being who and what you are to so many!" I honestly don't know if you realize just how special you are, Dear One. Oh, please meet my three friends ...





Aren't they precious? Awww, they sure are. With Alex gone, I have no one to talk with that can actually carry on a conversation unless you count Buddy dog's barking and Styx kitty's meowing. It's wonderful to read what you post to people and I learn so much from visiting your thread and others where you've spoken. Gosh, I'm a bit tongue tied. What I'm trying my best to do is express my utmost gratitude to you for all the comfort you are to others, how you always know just what to say and your delivery is always with utmost genuine sincerity.

I wish so much that I could turn back the hands of time and bring your fur baby back to you. Truly, I do. And, I know in my heart that you feel the same about me and Alex.

You're probably sleeping now. At least, I hope you are and having lovely dreams. Thank you so much also for understanding how difficult it is for me most of the time to put my thoughts into words so I usually rely on images, songs, poems and the like to speak what I wish so hard to put across to others.

You are indeed a special Messenger from Him. No doubt about it, Judy. God Bless and Many Comforting Hugs!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

Hi, Dottie and Joanne:

Thank you both for the very nice words. I read my last post and remembered the pain and through tears I then read both of your posts. I appreciate it when you stop by my topic..coming here keeps me "in touch" with my Little Guy...in its own way.

Dottie: Your 3 friends are so cute. Thanks for sharing. Sometimes the conversations of barking and meowing....are the most precious of all.


Joanne: You are amazing..the way you take care of your six babies...all different personalities and keeping track of who needs what and how they are doing. I know even though it is more to love..you also go through more heartbreak but as we all know......they really are worth it.

These babies just bring something so special into our lives..that only THEY can bring....we don't want the pain but they are worth it.....especially when we are given times that are good and happy and healthy...the memories that we need to remember...when the pain eventually comes. And again...as I said...they really are worth it..those precious ones we love so very much.

Judy

Joanne:

you said:
And you know Judy the one year has come and gone for both of us...and still it seems like yesterday.

How very true. I could say more about what one year means but.....well, you know what happened when I did that already.

Thanks for coming by. I still will talk about my Little Guy here..no matter what.

I wish everyone who truly cares...peace and healing.

Judy

But, there are some who think because we continue to post here, this is all we can do. There is nothing wrong with looking back. And its nice when others come and post letting us know they care too.

You are right, Joanne. I also enjoy posts letting us know others do care. Many here continue to post. We do it because we feel it is okay. I'm sure 99.9% would agree it is okay to come here and talk to our babies.

Take care and thanks for stopping by.

Judy

I just wanted to give you a hello.

I hope to continue coming here forever!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If I can even help one person it is always worth it. The way all you guys helped me so much.



Hugs to you LoveThem!!!

Thanks, Sissycat, for stopping by. Yes, this is a place one SHOULD feel free to come and talk to their special ones. You always make me smile..as devoted to Sissy as you are. I think it is beautiful.

Stop by anytime and hugs back at you

And..special hugs to our babies..after all I am sure Angels love hugs too!

Also..glad to hear you bonded with a new kitten. I just know Sissycat guided that baby to you.

Judy

Joanne: It sounds like your babies are doing much better..I am so glad. I saw your pictures and they just all look like twins. Beautiful babies...give them all a hug from me.

Judy

Hi Judy,

Giving you a hello as well. I hope to be here always as well. You guys have helped me soooo much, I can never thank you guys enough.

Hugz


Candy's Dad

Hal

Joanne: I am sorry to hear about Whiskers...I hope all turns out well. You are such a great Mom..I am sure they will all be okay. Glad to hear Lily's diarrhea cleared up. Poor babies don't need that.


Thanks for stopping by. I know that October was a year since you lost Rassy Cat and next month in January...will be a year since you lost Mew and Howard...it is a sad part of the year and yet you find the time to come here and comfort others in addition to handling your babies.

(Just ahead of you in September was my one year and I have recently thought of a new question about losses....can disrespect of one's loss sometimes hurt more than the loss itself?).


Be well and take care,
Hugs
Judy

Hi, Hal

Thank you for coming by and for your comments. I am glad I helped you in any way. When someone stops by like you just did, and Sissycat, and Joanne, and so many others here and says something I said helped them feel better......that's when the pain of losing my Little Guy becomes less intense....like because of him..I am here...and if I can help..again it is because of him..and I see how his passing has truly touched many others. It's like our best friends brought us all together knowing if we are here...we are not alone.

So Hugs right back at you, Candy's Dad. Your Angel and mine do watch over us all the time.
And I will be checking your topic or New Beginnings to find out about your new family. I am excited about that....probably not as much as you are but still it is exciting..good news for the Holidays.

Take care and come back anytime.

Judy

Hello Judy,

You sure do help so many of us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It is funny how we are all brought here by a loss of some sort, but gain many friendships.

My family always says who are you talking to on computer. MY FRIENDS

Thank you Judy for being my friend!!!