We had to have our beloved,sweet dog Maggie put to sleep 2 months ago today.Honestly I am no better today than I was 2 months ago.I am emotionally amd physically sick.All I can think about is Maggie and how much she loved the Spring with the sun and all the summer activities and she will not get to enjoy those things anymore and that is killing me.She loved life and this was her favourite time of year and now she can't enjoy these things anymore.

My heart is broken and I fear will never heal.All I want is to have her back.Thats it.I just want my dog back and I cannot make that happen.

I never thought in a million years her death was going to affect me so hard.I know I loved her and she loved us.I knew she was special but I never thought I would be grieving this hard for her 2 months later.Crying every single day.Trying hard to move on with my life but can't.

I need some help.This is affecting me physically and emotionally.I need some coping skills.If anybody has anything that helps them get through the day,PLEASE let me know.

Thanks!

I am so sorry for your loss. It can take a lot of time to heal from the loss of a pet. My girl passed last July and I could sit here at my desk and cry my eyes out right now for her.

I am not sure what kind of help is available to you in your area, but maybe there is some type of pet loss support group where you could meet people in person who are going through the same thing. Your local humane society might be able to tell you more about that. Or, if your medical and financial situation allows it, you might see a grief counselor. Also, I do not know your spiritual beliefs, but my personal ones are that pets continue on just like humans do. There are a lot of good books out there on the subject if you are interested. And I don't know if you would be ready for this, but sometimes doing some pet-sitting, pet-fostering, or even taking in a new pet helps. A new pet will IN NO WAY replace your dear pet that passed on so please don't think I'm suggesting that at all. We all want our little ones back. Sometimes I think the hardest thing in life is wanting things to be the way they were because we can't make it happen even though we want to. But maybe someday if you're ready, since you loved your little pup so much, you would enjoy honoring that memory by taking in a new little friend.

Hoping you feel better in the days ahead and remember to take good care of yourself. Your beloved pup would want you to be in good health. Your Maggie's picture is beautiful!

Thank you so much for your reply BonniesMom.It means alot to me.I just miss her so much and as much I try to get on with my life,I just ache for her and it never seems to go away.

I do have another dog here,a sheltie who misses her buddy very much so she is getting ALOT of extra attention and it helps us all to have Brandy here but there is still that ache for Maggie that just keeps aching.

It's still so fresh and I guess I am still in the anger stage because somedays,I just want everyone to leave me alone.I am hoping time eases the pain of Maggie's death.

Have a good day.

Dear Maggiesmom
Maggie looks like such a beautiful soul in the picture.
I completely understand understand the devastation you are going through now. It's been almost 17 months since I lost my beloved "Bicky" and I am still distraught.
There is not a day that I don't feel sadness, loneliness, or pains of guilt... But I am getting better.
Just know that you are not alone and that the healing process is a gradual one.
Hang in there!
Mark (and Bicky)

Maggiesmom,

Some ways to cope:

1. Allow yourself some simple pleasures. For everyone it's different. A hot bath, dish of expensive ice cream, stroll in the park.
2. Get a notebook and write whatever's on your mind. Don't self-edit. This journal is for you and no one else. Let angel-Maggie read over your shoulder. Write as much as you can or want.
3. Rest

Good luck.

Thank you both Mark and John.

Just when you think you might be doing better,something hits you hard,a memory,a sight or sound and you are right back where you started.

I realized the first thing u gotta do even if it is hard is you have to accept the fact tha Maggie isnt there anymore but never forget that she was. Maybe u need to find a support group and talk in person to other people who understand. Or take a couple of days and go on vacation just to relax and think. For awhile u need to put urself first and think what will make u better not anyone else.