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mario8
For starters I just wanted to thank all of the wonderful people on this site for sharing there stories, heartbreaks and words of wisdom. My story is a unique one in some ways and in no way am I looking to persuade or offend anyone. The following is what happened to me and is my personal beliefs. Its also good that I am writing this instead of having to speak because I am full of tears just thinking of it.

Hope: My story begins with my baby Max. He was a 2 1/2 year old Boxer who came into my life in July of 2003. I was looking to rescue a dog because I had just lost another dog ( not to death but due to a breakup with an ex girlfriend and it was her baby). When I met Max he was timid, was born with deformed legs, and looked lost. He was not abused but he was attacked by his father and had staples in his arms from the attacks. His father and 2 sisters were all rescued together with Max but he was the only one who hadn't been adopted. I fell madly in love with him immediately but I had to earn HIS trust. My HOPE was that I could give him a great life and make him forget about his previous 2 1/2 years.

Faith: My faith in GOD has always been strong but many times in my life as most of us do I concentrated more on some of the material things in this world and on the things that in the grand scheme just werent important. Max came into my life when I was seeing someone but knew in my heart that it wasn't going to be long term and I desperately needed a companion. After a couple of months I no longer was seeing that person and it was just Max and I. I did everything with him. I was fortunate enough that I could take him to work with me everyday (I drive a truck for a living), and he loved every minute of it. I would take him every day for a few hours and drop him off at home until I finished for the day. Night time and especially weekends I would get lonely because I wanted to share my Max with a mommy. I would pray every night for GOD to send me someone who would fit the bill of a soulmate and mommy to him. Every time I went out on a date I would tell Max on my way out that I was hoping to find her tonight. On Dec 12, 2008 I found her. My FAITH and the will of GOD sent her to Max and I.

love: My now wife was a little hesitant to get attached to Max because she had lost her baby who fittingly was named Max also a couple of years ago and he was her heart and she didn't think she could ever get attached that way again. Well, my Max proved her wrong. Not only did she love him but she was the best mommy ever. We were a family and although I was over the top with my Max and many times put him first, she totally understood and was phenominal to me and him. We married on June 12, 2010 and everything was great. Everything changed on Dec 10, 2011. I had noticed a few weeks prior to that date that Max would sometimes stumble when he would jump on his chair or on our bed but he would always get right back up so I didn't think too much of it. On Dec 10 it got worse. He started falling down when he got up and I noticed something wasn't right with his eyes. He had a confused and dizzy look to him and I knew my Max VERY well. I took him to the vet and they thought it was Dementia. I had hoped the vet was right because I knew that there was hope with the medication Anipryl and googled it until my fingers were tired and saw many great results and was hoping for the best. In my mind though I just knew it was more than Dementia. I gave him his pills daily for 8 days but on the 9th day everything changed again. I had to carry Max 3 or 4 times a day outside to do his duties because I knew he couldn't do steps anymore. He had a doggie door and a fenced in backyard so I never had to take him out before any of this happened. On that 9th day Dec 28, 2011 he could get up but struggled to walk and didn't want to move. My wife and I decided to take him to the vet immediately but the earliest I could get him in was 2:15 that afternoon. We stayed home from work and spent the day loving and holding him. The clock seemed to go SO fast but also SO slow waiting to take him to the vet. We both knew it wasn't good but we also didn't want to wait to have him looked at. Being everything that we had known about Boxers and there history of cancer and tumors our fears became reality. Max had a brain tumor and it was progressing quickly. To say that I made the hardest decision in my life is an understatement. We wanted Max to leave this world with his dignity. He loved to run outside, play with his toys, run to greet us at the door and many other things. We had already agreed that we would never let him suffer and our LOVE for him would always trump our selfishness of wanting to never let him go. I knew that I couldn't watch him take his last breath but I grabbed him, kissed him and said to him "I'll see you on the other side" crying uncontrollably. My phenominal wife stayed with him and comforted him and he died in peace.

The bridge: When we got home that day I just knew that I couldn't stay there for long. Like many other stories I read on here everything reminded me of him. I felt lost, dead, empty and beyond heartbroken. We were fortunate enough to be able to go away for a couple of days and try and keep our sanity. For no particular reason we ended up at Lancaster, PA where the Amish live. There wasn't any intention of fun or freedom, in fact quite the opposite. When we were finally able to fall asleep after the help of some pills and crying ourselves to sleep, OUR personal miracle happened. After about an hour of sleep I woke up to my wife talking and moving very restlessly in her sleep. I shook her and asked her if she was ok. Her response was that she just had the most wonderful dream. She said that in her dream she was looking at a bridge and in the middle of it was her Max. He looked great, healthy and full of energy. At the bottom of the bridge was my Max. Her Max had come to get my Max and take him over the bridge. Right before I woke her up she looked up and saw the words written above the bridge. It said "Rainbow Bridge". As I write this story to any of you who believe in God and a higher power I promise you that my wife NEVER even heard of that bridge. I had heard of it but didn't know a whole lot about it. Believe me when I tell you I must have asked her 20 times that night if she had ever heard of it and maybe forgot about it. We had to google it immediately and when she saw it she was in awe to say the least. Actually words cant describe how we both felt. Like I said from the beginning, this my personal story but I hope I can touch someone and give them hope. I know that my Max is part of me now and I know I will see him again someday if I can get through the gates of heaven. There are pets and then there are living things that are part of our souls. See you on the other side Max. GOD bless all of you who have taken the time to read my story and always remember "with GOD anything is possible".
marklovesbicky
Mario
This is one of the most touching, heartfelt stories I have ever read.
Indeed, we have very similar stories...Your emotions, feelings, and actions all echo mine...
I wish you peace brother, and I am sure you will meet "Max" on the other side. Bicky and I will see you there!
Mark


QUOTE (mario8 @ Jan 3 2012, 01:49 AM) *
For starters I just wanted to thank all of the wonderful people on this site for sharing there stories, heartbreaks and words of wisdom. My story is a unique one in some ways and in no way am I looking to persuade or offend anyone. The following is what happened to me and is my personal beliefs. Its also good that I am writing this instead of having to speak because I am full of tears just thinking of it.

Hope: My story begins with my baby Max. He was a 2 1/2 year old Boxer who came into my life in July of 2003. I was looking to rescue a dog because I had just lost another dog ( not to death but due to a breakup with an ex girlfriend and it was her baby). When I met Max he was timid, was born with deformed legs, and looked lost. He was not abused but he was attacked by his father and had had staples in his arms from the attacks. His father and 2 sisters were all rescued together with Max but he was the only one who hadn't been adopted. I fell madly in love with him immediately but I had to earn HIS trust. My HOPE was that I could give him a great life and make him forget about his previous 2 1/2 years.

Faith: My faith in GOD has always been strong but many times in my life as most of us do I concentrated more on some of the material things in this world and on the things that in the grand scheme just werent important. Max came into my life when I was seeing someone but knew in my heart that it wasn't going to be long term and I desperately needed a companion. After a couple of months I no longer was seeing that person and it was just Max and I. I did everything with him. I was fortunate enough that I could take him to work with me everyday (I drive a truck for a living), and he loved every minute of it. I would take him every day for a few hours and drop him off at home until I finished for the day. Night time and especially weekends I would get lonely because I wanted to share my Max with a mommy. I would pray every night for GOD to send me someone who would fit the bill of a soulmate and mommy to him. Every time I went out on a date I would tell Max on my way out that I was hoping to find her tonight. On Dec 12, 2008 I found her. My FAITH and the will of GOD sent her to Max and I.

love: My now wife was a little hesitant to get attached to Max because she had lost her baby who fittingly was named Max also a couple of years ago and he was her heart and she didn't think she could ever get attached that way again. Well, my Max proved her wrong. Not only did she love him but she was the best mommy ever. We were a family and although I was over the top with my Max and many times put him first, she totally understood and was phenominal to me and him. We married on June 12, 2010 and everything was great. Everything changed on Dec 10, 2011. I had noticed a few weeks prior to that date that Max would sometimes stumble when he would jump on his chair or on our bed but he would always get right back up so I didn't think too much of it. On Dec 10 it got worse. He started falling down when he got up and I noticed something wasn't right with his eyes. He had a confused and dizzy look to him and I knew my Max VERY well. I took him to the vet and they thought it was Dementia. I had hoped the vet was right because I knew that there was hope with the medication Anipryl and googled it until my fingers were tired and saw many great results and was hoping for the best. In my mind though I just knew it was more than Dementia. I gave him his pills daily for 8 days but on the 9th day everything changed again. I had to carry Max 3 or 4 times a day outside to do his duties because I knew he couldn't do steps anymore. He had a doggie door and a fenced in backyard so I never had to take him out before any of this happened. On that 9th day he could get up but struggled to walk and didn't want to move. My wife and I decided to take him to the vet immediately but the earliest I could get him in was 2:15 that afternoon. We stayed home from work and spent the day loving and holding him. The clock seemed to go SO fast but also SO slow waiting to take him to the vet. We both knew it wasn't good but we also didn't want to wait to have him looked at. Being everything that we had known about Boxers and there history of cancer and tumors our fears became reality. Max had a brain tumor and it was progressing quickly. To say that I made the hardest decision in my life is an understatement. We wanted Max to leave this world with his dignity. He loved to run outside, play with his toys, run to greet us at the door and many other things. We had already agreed that we would never let him suffer and our LOVE for him would always trump our selfishness of wanting to never let him go. I knew that I couldn't watch him take his last breath but I grabbed him, kissed him and said to him "I'll see you on the other side" crying uncontrollably. My phenominal wife stayed with him and comforted him and he died in peace.

The bridge: When we got home that day I just knew that I couldn't stay there for long. Like many other stories I read on here everything reminded me of him. I felt lost, dead, empty and beyond heartbroken. We were fortunate enough to be able to go away for a couple of days and try and keep our sanity. For no particular reason we ended up at Lancaster, PA where the Amish live. There wasn't any intention of fun or freedom, in fact quite the opposite. When we were finally able to fall asleep after the help of some pills and crying ourselves to sleep, OUR personal miracle happened. After about an hour of sleep I woke up to my wife talking and moving very restlessly in her sleep. I shook her and asked her if she was ok. Her response was that she just had the most wonderful dream. She said that in her dream she was looking at a bridge and in the middle of it was her Max. He looked great, healthy and full of energy. At the bottom of the bridge was my Max. Her Max had come to get my Max and take him over the bridge. Right before I woke her up she looked up and saw the words written above the bridge. It said "Rainbow Bridge". As I write this story to any of you who believe in God and a higher power I promise you that my wife NEVER even heard of that bridge. I had heard of it but didn't know a whole lot about it. Believe me when I tell you I must have asked her 20 times that night if she had ever heard of it and maybe forgot about it. We had to google it immediately and when she saw it she was in awe to say the least. Actually words cant describe how we both felt. Like I said from the beginning, this my personal story but I hope I can touch someone and give them hope. I know that my Max is part of me now and I know I will see him again someday if I can get through the gates of heaven. There are pets and then there are living things that are part of our souls. See you on the other side Max. GOD bless all of you who have taken the time to read my story and always remember "with GOD anything is possible".

LoveMyMickey
Dear Mario.....I agree with Mark, this is the most touching, heartfelt story I have ever read. I am so sorry for your loss of Max and your wife's loss of her Max. Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful story.....May God Bless You Both..

LoveMyMickey

Lulibugmom
Mario,
I can't say it any better than it's already been said on here. So, Thank you for sharing your most beautiful story. I hope that you and your wife can find peace and comfort in the dream she had and the memories you both share of the good times with them both. God bless.
moon_beam
Hi Mario, please permit me to add my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Max. Losing a beloved companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company. Euthanasia is the last gift of love we can give to our companions on this side of eternity at great sacrifice to ourselves so that they can be restored to their former youthfulness in the company of the angels.

Mario, thank you so very much for sharing your beloved Max with us, and the earthly journey you shared with him. The good news is that love is eternal - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. The love bond you share with your beloved Max continues now just it always has and always will. Your beloved Max's sweet Living Spirit is forever a part of you - - he is forever a heartbeat close to you.

Perhaps sometime you would like to share a picture(s) of your beloved Max with us - - but only if / when you would like to. Please know we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Mario, and look forward to knowing how you're doing whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Bernice
QUOTE (mario8 @ Jan 2 2012, 11:49 AM) *
For starters I just wanted to thank all of the wonderful people on this site for sharing there stories, heartbreaks and words of wisdom. My story is a unique one in some ways and in no way am I looking to persuade or offend anyone. The following is what happened to me and is my personal beliefs. Its also good that I am writing this instead of having to speak because I am full of tears just thinking of it.

Hope: My story begins with my baby Max. He was a 2 1/2 year old Boxer who came into my life in July of 2003. I was looking to rescue a dog because I had just lost another dog ( not to death but due to a breakup with an ex girlfriend and it was her baby). When I met Max he was timid, was born with deformed legs, and looked lost. He was not abused but he was attacked by his father and had staples in his arms from the attacks. His father and 2 sisters were all rescued together with Max but he was the only one who hadn't been adopted. I fell madly in love with him immediately but I had to earn HIS trust. My HOPE was that I could give him a great life and make him forget about his previous 2 1/2 years.

Faith: My faith in GOD has always been strong but many times in my life as most of us do I concentrated more on some of the material things in this world and on the things that in the grand scheme just werent important. Max came into my life when I was seeing someone but knew in my heart that it wasn't going to be long term and I desperately needed a companion. After a couple of months I no longer was seeing that person and it was just Max and I. I did everything with him. I was fortunate enough that I could take him to work with me everyday (I drive a truck for a living), and he loved every minute of it. I would take him every day for a few hours and drop him off at home until I finished for the day. Night time and especially weekends I would get lonely because I wanted to share my Max with a mommy. I would pray every night for GOD to send me someone who would fit the bill of a soulmate and mommy to him. Every time I went out on a date I would tell Max on my way out that I was hoping to find her tonight. On Dec 12, 2008 I found her. My FAITH and the will of GOD sent her to Max and I.

love: My now wife was a little hesitant to get attached to Max because she had lost her baby who fittingly was named Max also a couple of years ago and he was her heart and she didn't think she could ever get attached that way again. Well, my Max proved her wrong. Not only did she love him but she was the best mommy ever. We were a family and although I was over the top with my Max and many times put him first, she totally understood and was phenominal to me and him. We married on June 12, 2010 and everything was great. Everything changed on Dec 10, 2011. I had noticed a few weeks prior to that date that Max would sometimes stumble when he would jump on his chair or on our bed but he would always get right back up so I didn't think too much of it. On Dec 10 it got worse. He started falling down when he got up and I noticed something wasn't right with his eyes. He had a confused and dizzy look to him and I knew my Max VERY well. I took him to the vet and they thought it was Dementia. I had hoped the vet was right because I knew that there was hope with the medication Anipryl and googled it until my fingers were tired and saw many great results and was hoping for the best. In my mind though I just knew it was more than Dementia. I gave him his pills daily for 8 days but on the 9th day everything changed again. I had to carry Max 3 or 4 times a day outside to do his duties because I knew he couldn't do steps anymore. He had a doggie door and a fenced in backyard so I never had to take him out before any of this happened. On that 9th day Dec 28, 2011 he could get up but struggled to walk and didn't want to move. My wife and I decided to take him to the vet immediately but the earliest I could get him in was 2:15 that afternoon. We stayed home from work and spent the day loving and holding him. The clock seemed to go SO fast but also SO slow waiting to take him to the vet. We both knew it wasn't good but we also didn't want to wait to have him looked at. Being everything that we had known about Boxers and there history of cancer and tumors our fears became reality. Max had a brain tumor and it was progressing quickly. To say that I made the hardest decision in my life is an understatement. We wanted Max to leave this world with his dignity. He loved to run outside, play with his toys, run to greet us at the door and many other things. We had already agreed that we would never let him suffer and our LOVE for him would always trump our selfishness of wanting to never let him go. I knew that I couldn't watch him take his last breath but I grabbed him, kissed him and said to him "I'll see you on the other side" crying uncontrollably. My phenominal wife stayed with him and comforted him and he died in peace.

The bridge: When we got home that day I just knew that I couldn't stay there for long. Like many other stories I read on here everything reminded me of him. I felt lost, dead, empty and beyond heartbroken. We were fortunate enough to be able to go away for a couple of days and try and keep our sanity. For no particular reason we ended up at Lancaster, PA where the Amish live. There wasn't any intention of fun or freedom, in fact quite the opposite. When we were finally able to fall asleep after the help of some pills and crying ourselves to sleep, OUR personal miracle happened. After about an hour of sleep I woke up to my wife talking and moving very restlessly in her sleep. I shook her and asked her if she was ok. Her response was that she just had the most wonderful dream. She said that in her dream she was looking at a bridge and in the middle of it was her Max. He looked great, healthy and full of energy. At the bottom of the bridge was my Max. Her Max had come to get my Max and take him over the bridge. Right before I woke her up she looked up and saw the words written above the bridge. It said "Rainbow Bridge". As I write this story to any of you who believe in God and a higher power I promise you that my wife NEVER even heard of that bridge. I had heard of it but didn't know a whole lot about it. Believe me when I tell you I must have asked her 20 times that night if she had ever heard of it and maybe forgot about it. We had to google it immediately and when she saw it she was in awe to say the least. Actually words cant describe how we both felt. Like I said from the beginning, this my personal story but I hope I can touch someone and give them hope. I know that my Max is part of me now and I know I will see him again someday if I can get through the gates of heaven. There are pets and then there are living things that are part of our souls. See you on the other side Max. GOD bless all of you who have taken the time to read my story and always remember "with GOD anything is possible".


Mario my wonderful husband

I wish I had the words to bring you comfort. I know first hand the love you and Max shared. As I read your post with tears in my eyes I thought of so many memories. The one thing that brings me comfort is that you went above and beyond for our baby. Not just in the last month but ALWAYS. You took this scared little guy and turned him into a strong secure dog. To say he ruled the house can't come close to the devotion you gave him. He will always be a part of you because you made HIM a part of you from the moment you brought him home. You should feel comfort in knowing in the end we did the right thing for him. I know I never heard of the rainbow bridge and for me to have dreamed it so vividly, our baby is at peace. For me to see my Max who was not so brave in life lol have such strength in death
and take our baby over the bridge is a gift from God. I love you Mario and I am so proud of you as a person and as a daddy to Max.

mario8
My dearest Max, its been 13 days since our Lord took you to be with him. Not a minute goes by where I dont think of you or miss you dearly. Our house is so empty and quiet without you. Mommy and I are thinking of saving another life from a rescue like we saved yours but we never want you to think that we are replacing you. Please give us a sign to let us know that its ok. I love and miss you so much. See you on the other side Max.
Snicky's Mom
Mario 8, I know your heart is still aching for Max. When you are ready to rescue another animal, you will be honoring Max's memory. Blessings - Jennifer
Bernice
QUOTE (mario8 @ Jan 10 2012, 05:31 AM) *
My dearest Max, its been 13 days since our Lord took you to be with him. Not a minute goes by where I dont think of you or miss you dearly. Our house is so empty and quiet without you. Mommy and I are thinking of saving another life from a rescue like we saved yours but we never want you to think that we are replacing you. Please give us a sign to let us know that its ok. I love and miss you so much. See you on the other side Max.


My Sweet husband

There will never be another dog who could replace our Max. We have so much love to give and there are so many unwanted dogs that I know in my heart Max is looking at us from over the bridge and telling us he is at peace, rescue one of his furry friends. He would want us to give another dog the amazing life we gave him. I love you and God will guide us.
Your wifey
mario8
Its been 18 days today Max that GOD took you to be with him. Friday was the first day that I could get up the courage to look at your pictures. As expected I broke out in many tears but also felt joy in the memories that you gave me over the years. I finally have the nerve to post one of them on here today. Mommy and I saved another life today and I know that you approve. I asked for a sign and you gave me many. He is a Greyhound mix that has a great disposition and finally will get a life that he deserves. When the SPCA picked him up he and his companion were in bad shape. He couldn't even get up to walk and was starving. They had him a month and not one person looked at him. We knew that his time was coming soon when they would have to euthanize him due to overcrowding but GOD sent us there to save him. His name is Diesel and after 3 days he still cant get a grasp on how good we are to him and will take care of him. He will NEVER replace you as that is not possible. What he will do though is live the rest of his life with the love and care that a creature of GOD'S deserves. I love you so much Max and know that you are having a great time with all your furry friends on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge. "See You On The Other Side Max"
moon_beam
Hi, Mario, thank you so very much for sharing with us how you're doing and your wonderful picture of your beloved Max. Every day is an angel-versary in some form or another. It takes time - - one day at a time - - for the deep sorrow to ease. But as the grief does ease it provides room in our hearts to embrace the many wonderful memories you and your beloved Max shared during your earthly journey together. And even though your beloved Max is no longer physically with you, his sweet Living Spirit is forever with you, mario - - he is forever a heartbeat close to you.

Congratulations on your new life time companion, Diesel. I know your beloved Max is so very proud of you for rescuing him so that he can know love in his life for the rest of his earthly journey.

Thank you again for sharing with us how you're doing, mario, and for sharing your beloved Max with us. Please know you, and your precious Diesel, are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing how things are going for you.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
mario8
Thank you moon beam for your very kind words. You are always so kind and understanding in these forums and this site is lucky to have you.
marklovesbicky
Dear Mario
I hope Bicky sees Max at the bridge…I’m sure they would made great friends….
And Diesel is very lucky to have you…Try to think of Diesel as Max’s brother…In many ways, their lives are very connected…
I wish you the very best of luck….
Mark (and Bicky)

merlin96
Dear Mario and Bernice -

I am so sorry for your loss of Max. I hope Bernice's dream is true (not that it didn't happen, but that it represents the truth) because right now it's the only thing that gives me any comfort that maybe someday I'll see my Sweetie again, who I had to let go on 1/14. I am glad you were able to open your hearts to Diesel. I know someday I will do so again too, just not yet. Bless you all.
mario8
QUOTE (marklovesbicky @ Jan 16 2012, 09:07 AM) *
Dear Mario
I hope Bicky sees Max at the bridge…I’m sure they would made great friends….
And Diesel is very lucky to have you…Try to think of Diesel as Max’s brother…In many ways, their lives are very connected…
I wish you the very best of luck….
Mark (and Bicky)

Mark, I'm sure Bicky and Max are indeed good friends now. They are both healthy now and free of pain. I do think of Diesel as Max's brother and you are right in that they are very connected. I asked Max for a sign and he has given me several. He sighs like Max did at times, stretches like him, but the biggest sign was when I got Max the first day I got him he was scared of me and hid under some brush in my backyard. The first day I got Diesel he hid in the exact same spot. I have over an acre of land in my fenced in backyard so there are many spots to hide so I find that to be more than just coincidence.
marklovesbicky
Mario
It sounds like Diesel is going to ahve a nice life. With over an acre of land to run and play and a loving family to be with, I am sure he can't believe his wonderful luck. Life is more than a series of coincidences. Max is waiting for you (and Diesel) on the other side. Enjoy God given life until then....
Mark (and Bicky)

QUOTE (mario8 @ Jan 17 2012, 03:02 AM) *
Mark, I'm sure Bicky and Max are indeed good friends now. They are both healthy now and free of pain. I do think of Diesel as Max's brother and you are right in that they are very connected. I asked Max for a sign and he has given me several. He sighs like Max did at times, stretches like him, but the biggest sign was when I got Max the first day I got him he was scared of me and hid under some brush in my backyard. The first day I got Diesel he hid in the exact same spot. I have over an acre of land in my fenced in backyard so there are many spots to hide so I find that to be more than just coincidence.

mario8
Its been one month today that my Max was taken from me. There are times that it seems to get a little easier and accept it and then there are times when it still seems hard to believe that he is gone. I guess all in all I am doing pretty well considering the circumstances. I guess I just cant wait until the day comes that I focus more on the great memories instead of the sadness that I still feel. The 5 1/2 years I had with him was such a blessing though and I will always cherish every minute I had with him. "See you on the other side Max"
Otis_Baby
QUOTE (mario8 @ Jan 2 2012, 04:49 PM) *
For starters I just wanted to thank all of the wonderful people on this site for sharing there stories, heartbreaks and words of wisdom. My story is a unique one in some ways and in no way am I looking to persuade or offend anyone. The following is what happened to me and is my personal beliefs. Its also good that I am writing this instead of having to speak because I am full of tears just thinking of it.

Hope: My story begins with my baby Max. He was a 2 1/2 year old Boxer who came into my life in July of 2003. I was looking to rescue a dog because I had just lost another dog ( not to death but due to a breakup with an ex girlfriend and it was her baby). When I met Max he was timid, was born with deformed legs, and looked lost. He was not abused but he was attacked by his father and had staples in his arms from the attacks. His father and 2 sisters were all rescued together with Max but he was the only one who hadn't been adopted. I fell madly in love with him immediately but I had to earn HIS trust. My HOPE was that I could give him a great life and make him forget about his previous 2 1/2 years.

Faith: My faith in GOD has always been strong but many times in my life as most of us do I concentrated more on some of the material things in this world and on the things that in the grand scheme just werent important. Max came into my life when I was seeing someone but knew in my heart that it wasn't going to be long term and I desperately needed a companion. After a couple of months I no longer was seeing that person and it was just Max and I. I did everything with him. I was fortunate enough that I could take him to work with me everyday (I drive a truck for a living), and he loved every minute of it. I would take him every day for a few hours and drop him off at home until I finished for the day. Night time and especially weekends I would get lonely because I wanted to share my Max with a mommy. I would pray every night for GOD to send me someone who would fit the bill of a soulmate and mommy to him. Every time I went out on a date I would tell Max on my way out that I was hoping to find her tonight. On Dec 12, 2008 I found her. My FAITH and the will of GOD sent her to Max and I.

love: My now wife was a little hesitant to get attached to Max because she had lost her baby who fittingly was named Max also a couple of years ago and he was her heart and she didn't think she could ever get attached that way again. Well, my Max proved her wrong. Not only did she love him but she was the best mommy ever. We were a family and although I was over the top with my Max and many times put him first, she totally understood and was phenominal to me and him. We married on June 12, 2010 and everything was great. Everything changed on Dec 10, 2011. I had noticed a few weeks prior to that date that Max would sometimes stumble when he would jump on his chair or on our bed but he would always get right back up so I didn't think too much of it. On Dec 10 it got worse. He started falling down when he got up and I noticed something wasn't right with his eyes. He had a confused and dizzy look to him and I knew my Max VERY well. I took him to the vet and they thought it was Dementia. I had hoped the vet was right because I knew that there was hope with the medication Anipryl and googled it until my fingers were tired and saw many great results and was hoping for the best. In my mind though I just knew it was more than Dementia. I gave him his pills daily for 8 days but on the 9th day everything changed again. I had to carry Max 3 or 4 times a day outside to do his duties because I knew he couldn't do steps anymore. He had a doggie door and a fenced in backyard so I never had to take him out before any of this happened. On that 9th day Dec 28, 2011 he could get up but struggled to walk and didn't want to move. My wife and I decided to take him to the vet immediately but the earliest I could get him in was 2:15 that afternoon. We stayed home from work and spent the day loving and holding him. The clock seemed to go SO fast but also SO slow waiting to take him to the vet. We both knew it wasn't good but we also didn't want to wait to have him looked at. Being everything that we had known about Boxers and there history of cancer and tumors our fears became reality. Max had a brain tumor and it was progressing quickly. To say that I made the hardest decision in my life is an understatement. We wanted Max to leave this world with his dignity. He loved to run outside, play with his toys, run to greet us at the door and many other things. We had already agreed that we would never let him suffer and our LOVE for him would always trump our selfishness of wanting to never let him go. I knew that I couldn't watch him take his last breath but I grabbed him, kissed him and said to him "I'll see you on the other side" crying uncontrollably. My phenominal wife stayed with him and comforted him and he died in peace.

The bridge: When we got home that day I just knew that I couldn't stay there for long. Like many other stories I read on here everything reminded me of him. I felt lost, dead, empty and beyond heartbroken. We were fortunate enough to be able to go away for a couple of days and try and keep our sanity. For no particular reason we ended up at Lancaster, PA where the Amish live. There wasn't any intention of fun or freedom, in fact quite the opposite. When we were finally able to fall asleep after the help of some pills and crying ourselves to sleep, OUR personal miracle happened. After about an hour of sleep I woke up to my wife talking and moving very restlessly in her sleep. I shook her and asked her if she was ok. Her response was that she just had the most wonderful dream. She said that in her dream she was looking at a bridge and in the middle of it was her Max. He looked great, healthy and full of energy. At the bottom of the bridge was my Max. Her Max had come to get my Max and take him over the bridge. Right before I woke her up she looked up and saw the words written above the bridge. It said "Rainbow Bridge". As I write this story to any of you who believe in God and a higher power I promise you that my wife NEVER even heard of that bridge. I had heard of it but didn't know a whole lot about it. Believe me when I tell you I must have asked her 20 times that night if she had ever heard of it and maybe forgot about it. We had to google it immediately and when she saw it she was in awe to say the least. Actually words cant describe how we both felt. Like I said from the beginning, this my personal story but I hope I can touch someone and give them hope. I know that my Max is part of me now and I know I will see him again someday if I can get through the gates of heaven. There are pets and then there are living things that are part of our souls. See you on the other side Max. GOD bless all of you who have taken the time to read my story and always remember "with GOD anything is possible".



This story made me cry as my dog Otis had to be put down as well but through different circumstances (he got run over) Just know he is in a better place and one day you will meet again. Rainbow bridge is a beautiful poem/story and it really makes you think. Remember goodbye is never forever. All my sympathies and condolences. God bless xx
moon_beam
Hi, mario, thank you so much for sharing your and your beloved Max's angel-versary with us. Each day, particularly during the very early deep grief, is an anniversary - - another day of when "this time last week, last month, this time last year" - - are so hard to bear for the pain of emptiness in the heart. I promise you, mario, that even though the pain of sadness does ease in time you will ALWAYS and FOREVER have your beloved Max in your heart and your memories. You will always have his sweet Living Spirit sharing your earthly journey - - for he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you.

Thank you again so much for sharing your beloved Max with us, mario. I hope today is being kind to you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
mario8
Thank you Otis Baby and moon beam for your kind words. I appreciate everybody on this site and I hope I can be as comforting to others as everyone has been to me.
marklovesbicky
Mario
The waves of sadness will continue to happen...It's just the way we as humans deal with grief and separation. Slowly you will be able to smile more than feeling that sting of loss…Max was your friend…your baby…Such a loss is devastating. Because our furbabies depart so much sooner than we do, we often are not prepared….And we find it difficult to cope…
I still have a hard time finding happiness in anything that reminds me of my Bicky’s absence….But I find comfort in his pictures now…And I look forward to the day we meet again…
I also take comfort in participating on this site…It is how I honor Bicky….Bicky is helping me become a better person even after his passing…I feel that perhaps Max is doing the same for you….
Hang in there Mario…
Mark (and Bicky)
mario8
QUOTE (marklovesbicky @ Jan 30 2012, 01:28 PM) *
Mario
The waves of sadness will continue to happen...It's just the way we as humans deal with grief and separation. Slowly you will be able to smile more than feeling that sting of loss…Max was your friend…your baby…Such a loss is devastating. Because our furbabies depart so much sooner than we do, we often are not prepared….And we find it difficult to cope…
I still have a hard time finding happiness in anything that reminds me of my Bicky’s absence….But I find comfort in his pictures now…And I look forward to the day we meet again…
I also take comfort in participating on this site…It is how I honor Bicky….Bicky is helping me become a better person even after his passing…I feel that perhaps Max is doing the same for you….
Hang in there Mario…
Mark (and Bicky)

Thanks Mark (and Bicky),
I look forward to the days when I can look at Max's pictures with the joy of his memories instead of the pain of his loss. I know that day will come and hopefully sooner rather than later.
Snicky's Mom
Mario, I have been reading all of you posts from the beginning. I know that your heart hurts. Remember, love is always a good thing. You mentioned your faith in God. I am a Christian, and the Bible states that Jesus said, I will never leave you nor forsake you. I believe that. I am praying that God's peace will wash over you today. I'm glad you have a wife. Grieving alone does not work well. Surround yourself with supportive people who love you. God Bless. Jennifer
mario8
I just got the portrait of my Max and the artist did a phenominal job in honoring the memory of my baby. "See you on the other side Max"
moon_beam
Hi, Mario, thank you so very much for sharing this WONDERFUL portrait of your beloved Max with us. I know this is giving you much comfort. I hope today is treating you kindly, Mario. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
LoveMyMickey
Hi Mario...That is such a beautiful portrait of your precious Max The artist did an excellent job. I hope you and your wife are doing well.....God Bless...

LoveMyMickey
mario8
Thank you moonbeam and LoveMyMickey. This is the picture he used so you can see how good it came out.
marklovesbicky
Beautiful portrait Mario
Max looks so noble!
Mark (and Bicky)

QUOTE (mario8 @ Feb 12 2012, 12:57 PM) *
Thank you moonbeam and LoveMyMickey. This is the picture he used so you can see how good it came out.

LoveMyMickey
Mario, the artist really captured Max's expression, especially those beautiful eyes. Thank you for sharing....

LoveMyMickey
xxForeverxx
Amazing portrait and amazing way to remember him as well. Lovely mario.

xxForeverxx
mario8
Thanks everyone. Today is the 7 week anniversary of the day that the good lord took my baby. I still think of you all of the time Max and I thank GOD everyday for the time I had with you. You are and always will be a part of me and always in my heart. "See you on the other side Max".
mario8
Its 2 months today that the good lord took my baby Max to be with him. I still think of you and miss you everyday my sweet baby boy. You are and ALWAYS will be in my heart and be a part of me. "See you on the other side Max".
mario8
Its 3 months today that the good lord took my Max to be with him. I still think of him everyday and talk to him from time to time. I always say goodnight to his portrait while my hands are on his crematory just beneath it. Its amazing to me the love that I felt and still feel for him. I have had many many animals in my life and loved them all but my Max is a permanent part of my heart and soul. Still missing you badly baby. "See you on the other side Max"
Gretta's Mom
Mario

Like the others said, yours is one of the most loving stories I've ever heard. I, too, am a Christian. I, too, firmly believe that animals and people are made of the same "soul stuff". We come from the same place and go back to the same place - the Perfect World. My Gretta - the kindest chocolate lab who ever lived - went back home almost a year ago - April 10, 2011. Like you, I promised her I wouldn't let her suffer and like you, she crashed very rapidly. I'm a solo so I am the one who held her in my arms, sobbing, all the while telling her how much she was (and IS) loved. And, like you, after saying I wasn't going to go through this again, about amonth later I adopted another rescue dog, Rufus, an 8-year old lab-newfie mix. I must know every folk and blues song ever written and I am still making up Gretta-words to them. I'd like to share two verses with you - written after Love My Mickey wrote me two amazing Gretta-response verses to my asking her to forgive me for not knowing she was in pain and for leaving her at the vet school on her last night on earth. I hope they say something to your heart. Gretta says to me, her mom

Please take good care of little brother
He needs your love as much as I
And when we all get back together
There'll be no need for leaky eyes.

Up here we live and laugh in sunshine
We understand each other's words
For we are all God's special creatures
Protected by our loving Lord.

Yes, Virginia, there IS a heaven and are animal brothers and sisters WILL be there.

Thank you for your postings - they go straight to my heart.

Gretta's mom
Gretta's Mom
mario

To the tune of Goebel Reeves' "Go To Sleep You Weary Hobo".

Gretta's mom
moon_beam
Hi, mario, thank you so much for sharing your and your beloved Max's angel-versaries with us. You are so right - - it matters not how much time passes on our continued earthly journey. Our beloved companions are forever with us in our hearts and our memories - - they are always and forever a heartbeat close to us.

Some people fear that when the seering pain of their deep grief eases that they will forget their beloved companions. I promise you, mario, this will NEVER happen. Not even the dimming of our minds with age will lessen the eternal love bond we share with our beloved companions.

Thank you so much for sharing your beloved Max with us. I hope today is treating you kindly, mario. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
DannysMom
QUOTE (mario8 @ Mar 28 2012, 08:47 AM) *
Its 3 months today that the good lord took my Max to be with him. I still think of him everyday and talk to him from time to time. I always say goodnight to his portrait while my hands are on his crematory just beneath it. Its amazing to me the love that I felt and still feel for him. I have had many many animals in my life and loved them all but my Max is a permanent part of my heart and soul. Still missing you badly baby. "See you on the other side Max"


Dear Mario, I am very sorry for your loss. My cat Danny died the same day as your Max, and I also still miss him so and love him so very much. Our furry friends give us so much just by being with us. I can see how special Max was to you. He looks like a very sweet, loving dog. I have always liked boxers and their cute faces. Mario, I hope that the grief journey will get easier for you as time goes by.


Hugs,
DannysMom
mario8
Gretta's Mom,
thank you so much for your caring words. I'm sure Rufus is one lucky dog having you as an owner.

moon beam,
as usual you are amazing with your kindness and support. This website is so lucky to have you and your amazing acts of kindness.

DannysMom,
I'm so sorry for your loss of Danny. I find it ironic that he left this world the same day as my Max because he looks just like my cat that I have had since a kitten and is 9 years old and that Max lived with for 5 1/2 years. They got along unusually well for cats and dogs. I'm sure my Max and Danny crossed the bridge together and are having a great time.

GOD bless all of you.
marklovesbicky
QUOTE (mario8 @ Mar 28 2012, 09:47 PM) *
Its 3 months today that the good lord took my Max to be with him. I still think of him everyday and talk to him from time to time. I always say goodnight to his portrait while my hands are on his crematory just beneath it. Its amazing to me the love that I felt and still feel for him. I have had many many animals in my life and loved them all but my Max is a permanent part of my heart and soul. Still missing you badly baby. "See you on the other side Max"



Hi Mario
I feel we are very similar...I, like yourself, have a picture of my 'eternal' best friend right above his urn with his ashes in it. I say good moring and good night to my Bicky...and even offer food to him...You are not alone....
Max was (is) very lucky to have someone who loved (loves) him so much....
Mark (and Bicky)
Gretta's Mom
Hi Mario

Just stopping by to see how you're doing. I know our baby dogs are together romping in heaven. We'll be there someday ... just have to wait day after lonely day. I still miss someone (Johnny Cash song.

Gretta's mom
mario8
It will be 5 months tomorrow that the good lord took my baby Max from this world. I still think of you everyday baby and my love for you will never die. Missing you dearly. "See you on the other side Max"
DLL
As others have said, you are not alone. My condolences for your loss.

The Rainbow Bridge story, or many scenes from different movies depicting someone passing away and experiencing being re-united with the ones they have lost is truly touching. I remember recently having watched a movie called 'Hachi', based on the story of a dog who waited at a train station every day for the one he had lost. I couldn't hold back the tears.
DannysMom
QUOTE (mario8 @ May 27 2012, 07:52 PM) *
It will be 5 months tomorrow that the good lord took my baby Max from this world. I still think of you everyday baby and my love for you will never die. Missing you dearly. "See you on the other side Max"


Mario, my thoughts are with you. It will be 5 months also for me tomorrow since I lost my sweet Danny. It will be 1 month tomorrow since I lost my little Tina. I miss both of them very much.

Hugs,
DannysMom
marklovesbicky
Mario
I'm here for you...I know only too well how tough it is, even months and years afterwards. And yes, Max is waiting for you on the other side. The love you have for for Max is truly touching touching and inspiring.

Dannysmom
My condolences for Danny and Tina. Lose a fur baby is so tough but losing two in under 6 months must be unbearable. My prayers are with you.
Mark (and Bicky)
mario8

6 months ago today I lost my baby Max to our good lord and still not a day or even a few hours goes by where I dont think of him or miss him dearly. I love you Max and I always will until I take my last breath. "See you on the other side Max"
DannysMom
Mario, it's been 6 months today that I lost my sweet Danny boy. I thought of you today as I know that you lost your beloved Max the same day. Please take good care of yourself.
mario8
Thank you DannysMom and the same to you.
Gretta's Mom
Hello Mario

Oh, the six-month anniversary! How could we have made it this far without our best friend? Our soulmate? Only one way: to firmly believe, to KNOW, that they are alive and well on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge - which your wife saw so clearly in her dream. I miss my Gretta with every breath, too. It's coming up on 15 months and I still cry when I think of her. As you say, "see you on the other side, baby."

Thank you so much for letting us know how you are doing and feeling.

Gretta's mom
LoveMyMickey
Hi Mario,

Six months, the anniversaries are especially heartbreaking. The time goes by so fast, but yet it seems like our babies have been gone forever.

I will never forget your heartwarming story, about your wife and the Rainbow Bridge.

You all take care and God Bless You.

LoveMyMickey
marklovesbicky
Mario
Time does continue on even though it, at times, seems unbearable without our loved ones by our side. Remember that Max is forever in your heart. He is part of the tapestry that makes you who you are. I believe with all my heart that we are joined together in this continuom as we travel through our existence. It is never ending and Max is waiting for you, just as you are waiting for him....
Please tell Max to say hi to my Bicky. Bicky was always shy (and lacked confidence) in new situations. I imagine Max would be a good friend to him.
Yours, Mark (and Bicky)
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