I lost my beloved Tiger last Monday January 3rd, she was 17, She love to eat, love to lay in dirt, clean herself extremely well, chase squirrels, birds, and pounce on her sister by hiding then jumping on her

Tiger became diabetic at age 15, my sister and I discussed medical options, we both agreed she'll start taking medication as soon as theres any changes in weight, like veterinarian stated we should do.

Once tiger started to lose weight in early 2010 I called my sister to inform her that it was time to start medication, my sister agreed and stated what date we'll start it, my sister also said she'll pay until I find a job

The time came and pass when It was time to take Tiger back to the vet to start her treatment, my sister started to avoid me: phone calls, e-mails

Mind you I always gave my sister money when she needed it money for car bills etc: I gave her $189 for her car,

If I knew my sister was going to back out of paying, I would have saved the money to pay for her medicine which cost over $200

When I finally talk to my sister, she said she will not pay for the treatment, she have to buy a present for her boyfriend

Tiger needed a diabetic shot but I did not have the money and she passed away, others in my family had money and did not want to spend it on my cat, so she die a slow 2 week painful death, her older sister (real sister from birth), is still looking for her each day and night and continues to stare at me with sad eyes. I miss tiger so much she was my sun every morning, my best friend, and made me laugh and smile with joy because of her tender sweetness. She would wake her sister up Friskey and then Friskey would then wake me up to feed them both in the early morning.

I am upset, I feel betrayed and I am extremely depressed

I and her sister Friskey watched her die a painful death for what?

I dont where to go from here, my sister was always a hateful and mean person, but this situation I cannot not stand, I will cut her out of my life from now on

I do not need to talk to a person who is selfish and vain

I am just about to leave the house for a long day- so I won't be able to post again for many hours...

I know it sounds impossible- but don't hate your sister. Feel angry at what happened, but you can't hate the person. It sounds like nobody in your immediate family group has experienced that pure, true bond with a pet. It's very sad for them that they just can't and won't understand what happened and what you are going through. If they have never felt that love, they can't possibly understand.

I'm sorry if the words sound harsh, and as someone who has felt that love I understand (as much as anyone else can understand someone else's unique experiences)- I do know that there is nothing that you can do to make them understand if they haven't felt that love. You will find many on this forum with kind words and advice who do understand- so use this place to talk and listen, to share and know that you are in a safe, supportive environment.

My thoughts are with you,

Amber

Hi, Trypinningdown, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the loss of your beloved Tiger. Losing a beloved companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we have been blessed with the privilege of their company.

Diabetes is a very difficult illness to treat in our beloved companions. It affects their physical bodies the same as it affects humans. However, treatment can provide a good quality of life when it is successful.

I am so sorry that you did not have the financial ability to provide treatment for your precious Tiger as you thought you would have. I do know how disappointing this is to you, particularly since your sister had indicated she would help you with this. Unkept promises, for whatever reason, does tend to strain relationships and make one feel like a trust has been betrayed. I have been in similar circumstances for different reasons with my family members in the past, and know very well the deep disappointment you are feeling, and I am so very sorry - - particularly since this situation resulted in the physical loss of your beloved Tiger.

Trypinningdown, this grief journey is filled with so many different emotions including anger, guilt, depression. This grief journey is one of the most difficult experiences we will have on this side of eternity. It is important for you to know that all the different emotions you are feeling are normal, and it is important for you to know you are not alone. Each of us here do understand the deep sorrow you are feeling in your heart, and how painful - - both emotionally and physically - - the physical absence of your precious Tiger is for you and your little Friskey.

Trypinningdown, thank you so much for sharing these wonderful pictures of your precious Tiger. One of the many things you need to remember in this grief journey is that your precious Tiger wants you and Friskey to find peace in your hearts so that you can continue in your earthly journey together remembering her with a happy heart. And Tiger wants you to know that she knows you love her with all your heart and you did everything within your power to give her a happy life with you and Friskey. Trypinningdown, we can only do the best we can with the information and the resources that we have at the time. I know there will always be a part of you that will forever wish that you could have done more, that things could have been better for your beloved Tiger. This is normal. But I also hope and pray there will come a time when you will be thinking of your precious Tiger and will find yourself smiling at the many cherished memories you have of her earthly journey with you so that your heart will once again be filled with peace and comfort instead of the deep piercing sadness you are feeling right now.

Trypinnigdown, once again, please know you are not alone in your grief journey. Each of us are here for you for as long and as often as you need us. Please know you and your precious Friskey are in my thoughts and prayers, and please do let us know how you're doing whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

Thank you AmberS and moon_beam for commenting

Also adding a little more info: I have never asked my sister for money so it is not like I continually asked my sister for money I am independent in a way that I do not ask my family members for anything.


The sister that agreed to pay for the treatments supposedly "love" both cats, she too also grew up with both cats from when they were newly born kittens, just like me, so it wasnt like she was the "cold" family member who did not care, or so I thought


In early 2010 I had a 3 hour talk about both Tiger health (especially) and also her sister friskey's health and every month I would called to give her an update on their condition, we set-up the treatment month and she kept saying she did not have the money, when she finally told me she did have the financial means, my sister said she was going to use it on a video game system that cost $500 instead

I've also been there for her though life's traumas and financially as well as the last two of her car payments, she called me because she knew I was the only was who would give her the money and without hesitation


The day Tiger passed away I called her immediately I couldnt get through since "someone" on the other end continue to disconnect the call once the phone started to ring, when I finally got through on the fifth try, some women answer the phone: My sister was screening my call and ask some lady to answer the call instead of herself.......

I told my sister why I was calling, my sister said: "yeah, I knew you was calling me for that" she sounded very happy and excited then she stated coldly "well she was old" and why didn't you ask me for money, I would have given you any amount?

My sister stayed on the phone with me for less than 2 minutes then said with no care "I gotta go"

Like I have stated in my last post she is a extremely hateful person but I at least thought she cared about both cats because this is what she claimed "she would do anything for them".

She also knew how fast a diabetic cat can suffer with out proper treatment and how they can die a slow painful death very quickly,


So the cost and treatments was not sprung on my sister, she knew the cost and how we would spilt the cost, I thought I would be able to handle the payments in the beginning, but later found, I would have to reimburse my sister the money instead which I told her and she stated:

"Shut up, I can't believe you think I wouldn't pay for the treatments, I know you do not have steady income coming in. I love "the babies, just tell me when the treatments are going to start"

The day Tiger passed, my sister avoided me, then we finally spoke by phone she accused me of not telling her that tiger was sick, saying with "anger":

" I didn't know she was sick", why didnt you tell me you need money"

So its hard for me to read:"I shouldn't despise a person" who knew the health condition of a loved pet step-by step,

how quickly she would get even more sick,

even talked with me every time about the payments and said she'd pay

I feel and know my sister did not cared and just waited this situation out now that Tiger is gone my sister can begin with the lies as she already has

A piece of me passed away when Tiger did,

I am rational and I come from a place of facts: I do understand without diabetes Tiger was an elderly cat and preparations for her departure needed to be made, but she did not have to die the way she did, this is a fact

hi

family dynamics can be so complicated and hurts and betrayals that come from them feel all the more difficult precisely because they are family and as such should be the people we can rely on. unfortunately it is all too common that they cannot be relied on, i have found that friends are better than family in my case. i'm sorry that you were so hurt by your sister's behaviour and the severe consequences of it.

i'm so so sorry that you had to watch your beautiful baby die a painful death, believe me when i say that i know how that feels ... noone should have to die so horribly and noone should have to watch their babies die so horribly.

take as good care of yourself as you can

I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful Tiger!

I'm also sorry for the trouble you're having with your sister. Grieving a lost pet is painful and stressful enough without having to go through that, too. Please know that now you've found this forum you're not alone. We're all here for you for as long and often as you need us.

Please let us know how you're doing. And when you're able we would love to hear more stories of your precious kitty.

Hugs, Cheryl x

Thank you rainbohdi and Cheryl83

I truly appreciate your kind words and time you took to respond, it make me feel like I am heard


AmberS and moon_beam again thank you for your first response sometimes the internet can be a blessing knowing there can be an instant friend giving advice that can only help

Both Tiger and Friskey I knew from when I saw their birth, I was seven it change everything: I dont know how that "sounds", but I

Thank you rainbohdi and Cheryl83 thank you so much

I truly appreciate your kind words and time you took to respond, it make me feel like I am heard


AmberS and moon_beam again thank you for your first response sometimes the internet can be a blessing knowing there can be an instant friend giving advice that can only help

Both Tiger and Friskey I knew from birth: since I saw their birth I was seven it change everything: I don't know how that "sounds", but I felt like there was something that matter in the world. I took care of their mother the last few months of her pregnancy sneaking their mother into the house and finding a box for her to give birth, I stayed from afternoon till year morning: Friskey was the first born tiger was the last

When I say that Tiger was the Sweetest Baby and a true angel I mean it she would come when I would cry, she would pat me with her white paws and meow, then purr, she then would sit next to me until I stopped crying then look into my eyes as if to say are you ok now?

I also knew Tiger and Friskey's father, tiger looks and acts like her father he was gorgeous if I can call a male cat "gorgeous", and also incredibly sweet and caring

People say their just animals but cats have hearts, love, caring, and fear just like humans: God created animals (if you do not believe in god then a higher power created all of us) animals deserve respect and not to be tormented

Thank you so much, I'll come back to update you on Tigers older sister Friskey (the first born): Shes still have nightmares: I know because she shakes violently when she sleeps sometimes jumping up out of sleep meowing, she is still looking for her baby sister, they were extremely close

I took her to the vet 4 days after Tigers passing the vet says she pretty good for her age which is also 17

Thank you all so very much

I am sorry to hear that you had to go through both the loss of your Tiger and the situation with your sister. Sometimes a traumatic loss like this can make it easier to take it out on our friends and family, although I understand why you are upset with her. We obviously cannot know the history between you and your sister, so I won't try to offer family advice other than try and remember that she is still your sister and hopefully you two can patch things up.

Your Tiger led a long and full life, you are blessed to have had that 17 year relationship. I am sure you cherish every moment you had with Tiger.

Hi, Trypinningdown, I'm glad that Friskey is doing well, and this must bring a relief to your heart and mind. How very fortunate Tiger's and Friskey's mom was to have you looking out for her and her babies. And knowing who their father is - - now that's very special.

Remember that our furkids do become very physical and vocal when they are in the dream stage of sleep, so Friskey may actually be having a very pleasant dream instead of a nightmare. But if she does seem frightened or disoriented when she wakes up, we know she has your love for her to comfort and reassure her that everything is okay.

Trypinningdown, thank you so much for sharing your memories of your precious Tiger with us. We will look forward to knowing how you and Friskey are doing whenever possible, and please know you both are in my thoughts and prayers.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

I'm so sorry to hear of your heartbreak, and the devastating loss of your beloved cat.


It seems that your sister has upset you and you feel betrayed by her actions.

This is what I think: You are a human being and you have emotions. I think it is entirely appropriate for you to express those emotions.

Otherwise, how are you to move on from this situation, from the hurt and anger and pain?

You cannot change your sister, but you can decide to deal with the situation on your terms.

I would suggest that, if or when you speak to your sister again, tell her exactly how you feel. Phrase your statements a certain way. Say, "I feel....", just as you have done in your post.

Noone can argue with that, as it is pointless to dispute how someone feels.

If your sister continues to play games and disregard your feelings, then you can't stop her, but you can express yourself and let her know first hand how it affects you.

She will have to hear you and acknowledge what you say.


Your darling cat sounds like an angel. She would not want you to be upset now.

Love and hugs.