Today it's been 14 weeks since Luba died. I don't know why I have to got through this almost Saturday. Not to mention the 5th of each month, during which I do the "month" anniversary. Sigh.

One time I forgot to think of Luba's death anniversary on a Saturday (in week 12). Then I felt so badly, even though it probably means that there has been some healing. How long does this go on I wonder???

Hi Steph,

Your Luba was a beautiful dog; I know you miss her very much and I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my dog, Little Man on Aug. 18th, so I can totally relate to how you're feeling.

I don't think we'll ever "completely" get over losing them. We loved them so much and they were so much a part of our lives, there's just no way we could ever not miss them and want them back. But it's just GOT to get better somehow, someway. I guess time will tell.

You're in my thoughts,
__JIM

I've been doing the 'anniversary thing' too. I'm trying not to but I can't help myself. Yesterday was 1 week from the time I found Ava at the bottom of the stairs... It wasn't a good day for me and I broke down and sobbed many times. Today has been pretty good. I have felt the urge to cry but have been able to hold back which is something I had not been able to do during that first week. Just taking it day by day though.

I do on fridays in the morning, and then il be like on the same date i'll hate that
and the day we got him, but now it seems like if youre upset other people are like still? or what you upset about? just because there coping or they are ok... i dont mean you guys i mean like some people that you talk to, it make you fell like im going through a ruff time but now i cant even show my reall emotions, but who cares they just don't understand.

Luba's a gorgeous dog-he still is, theres not enough words to say how much he loves you, he misses you too... but doesnt understand as he can still see you and is still there with you!
Love Jaymie x

Mostly, I just keep quiet about the anniversaries. People will look at me strangely if I say "It's 14 weeks today." Like a dog somehow doesn't count.

I would say, overall it has got much better, but there are still some very rough patches. If I did not have Falkor, (my golden retriever), I think I'd be worse off. I have to keep it positive for him though...

JJay and Zoeysdad, thanks for saying that my Luba was a gorgeous/beautiful dog. She really was lovely. And her personality matched her looks. God, I miss her.

I know what you mean. It's totally exhausting to be around people and try to be "normal." We had to go to a housewarming party yesterday and I was just wiped out when we got home (and all day today).

You are lucky to still have Falkor with you. My Phoebe worked in the garden with me yesterday and she is such a comfort.

-Sharon

Sharon, I know that exhaustion related to social functions too.

A week after Luba died had to go to a kid's birthday party. It was close to my house, and I had to come home briefly because I got so drained there. I felt as though I was shattered to pieces, and all of the kids were really grating on my nerves. I just couldn't pretend that all was well.

Yes, Falkor is a blessing in this horrid year. He was quite sickly right around the time Luba died. However, it turned out arthritis, and hypothyroid, plus the depression of losing Luba (and losing me as a result of my intense grief). It was all too much for him, and he spent about 22 hours a day sleeping. (he's got epilepsy on top of everything else!)

He's improved so much with his medication, and with me being more upbeat around him. I could have lost them both, but I'm blessed with his joyful presence in my life for a bit (hopefully a very LONG while) longer...

Steph,
Yes I've done the "anniversary thing" on several dates.
I remember awhile back, there was a day I just couldn't stop crying.. I checked my calendar, and it was "Day 50" ...Well, I'm coming up on 6 months, in a few days.
Yes, they were and are our precious babies. They will always be with us---and not just in memories.
I'm so glad you have your Falkor.
Keep in touch. Love,
Kathy
p.s. Luba is beautiful!!!

steph I do make a point of not paying attention to the dates...but that is just me. We are different in that way...but I sure have everything that was Gingers..just like a mom never gives up those baby clothes..it is kind of dumb but I can't throw anything away. I guess we all have rituals that make us feel less lonely--yours might be acknowledging the dates.
Luba really was the most gorgeous dog! what a beautiful face--and I especially love the "frolicing" photo on the tributes page.

Ahh those dreaded anniversary dates each month...and Friday's....the 18th of each month will never be the same again.
Friday's are getting a little bit easier though I must say. I give Buster's picture a kiss every day though....

Karen

In my mind the "anniversaries" got farther and farther apart - I'm at the "yearly" ones now.... It took around 9 months to get that far... Before that it was monthly...