Hi
I dont know if any of you remember me, i posted beginning of Oct, my keo passed away after being ill for a long time
http://lightning-strike.com/forum/index.ph...amp;#entry44312 - this is the post i made.

Im not coping so well, i was ok, for a while but now its hard again
i miss her so much.
I lie in bed at nite, and think of her and it makes me very upset.

I did ask for a new pet rat,, a month or so back,i thought maybe it wud have helped,, but because of how i handled keos death ,, bein very upset and having to take time of work,, my mum said no,
i think the real reason she sed no, was because she was also very upset when keo was ill n passed away,, i dont think she wud like to go through that again, if i was to get another and it should fall ill.

im having real horrible nitemares about keo lately to.
last nite, i dreamt i had the cage in the bathroom, and had run a scolding hot bath,,
she came out on to my knee, and then hopped back into her cage, and i forgot the top side door was open and she walked out onto the rim of the bath and fell in,, and scolded herself
I had to go through her dying all over again
i woke up so upset, it was so real
i dont have any nice rememberance dreams about her, they are always nitemares where she dies all over again
its to much for me to cope with.

i dont know what the point of this post is, noone can help,, i just needed to get it all out.
she died the end of sept, but it feels like it was yday,

You took such good care of your baby, it's so hard to go on without them because they touch our hearts in a special
way and it takes time to readapt, they may still be in our hearts but their physical is sorely missed. Be good to yourself, like your baby would want you to be.

I reread your topic link and remember those pictures of your Keo. Maybe reading all the replies there again may help you.

I am sorry you were not able to get another. Maybe as more time passes, your Mom may say Yes. Never give up hope.

Keo's illness was a shock. We do know with any new one, there are no guarantees but having been through the first one as the most shocking....one thing we do remember is that the joy of having them with us..is really worth anything the future brings.

Maybe you and your Mom can sit down and have a talk about it all. It might help both of you to talk about it and...give each other a big hug..cause you share a sadness between you that belongs to the two of you alone.

Hugs, best wishes, peace and healing. Remember the happy times and use those to push back the nightmares and sad thoughts. That's the baby steps toward healing. September was not that long ago.

Come here and talk anytime. We know your pain because we all stand in the same shoes.

I do remember your original post well. Keo was one sweet little girl.

Perhaps coming here to LS more often will help curb the horrible dreams you are having. When I first came to LS nearly a year ago now, I was here practically 24/7. The more I posted, the better I began to feel. It took me a long time before I actually felt alive again and eventually found it possible to bring a new addition into our family. Hearts shatter when we lose one that is loved so much. Picking up the pieces of a broken heart is a long journey for all of us. The good news is that we all walk together and pick each other up when one falls down. Keep coming and sharing. Your Keo would want you to find happiness and be content once again. She loves you as much as you love her. Nothing can ever break the loving bond the two of you have together.....not in this world nor the next.

Hugs of comfort and peace,
Beth

I know it's so hard for you. That's what love is all about. It totally sucks when it's taken away; physically. But mentally, it stays. Perhaps you could try to think of a happy time you had with Keo b4 you go to sleep at night. Just visualize the same one over and over until you fall asleep. Each night think of a different happy time..I'm also in a situation where I can't get another cat. I live with people who don't want them. So I volunteered at my local shelter. It's only 1hr a week. It has helped me a great deal. It didn't come without it's challenges of course. Seeing kitties that look like my Arthur. But, I have to plow my way thru those feelings and start to move on. Taking baby steps all the way. I know, it's not easy.
Maybe you could try that too, just go to your local shelter and hang out..Yes, you'll fall in love with the animals, and you'll want to take them all home. But you will feel good knowing you made some dog or cat's day just by giving them a little (and much needed) attention...I'm glad you came back for help. I hope you find the answers your looking for..Please let us know, we all care about you..Hugs..Ann

Hi, CHICKLET. I'm so sorry you're having such bad nightmares about your precious Keo. I love rats very, very much and know just how you're feeling. I'm not having nightmares about my current loss but I sure as heck have had gosh awful terrible nightmares about my fur babies I've lost in the past. It was terrible! Like living it over and over and over again. So, I know just what you're talking about.

I'm not certain of your age but it sounds like you're still in school. That's when I had those really bad nightmares about my fur babies that passed away. If you continue to have these awful nightmares then you may need to speak with a professional counselor in person. Does your school have any counselors you can talk with? If they don't then I know there are free places you can go for that help you so richly deserve and Keo wants so much for you to be happy. I'll bet you know in your heart of hearts that is true.

Well, there's more. My nightmares finally stopped back then when I learned all about The Rainbow Bridge. Do you know about that place? It is for real and I'm not just saying that to make you feel better. It is true and it is there. Click on the link below to read about it. Okay? Please click below ...

The Rainbow Bridge

CHICKLET, after you read the above then please click below to see all the friends Keo has right now there at The Rainbow Bridge. Please click below ...

Keo's Friends at The Rainbow Bridge

Wow! Isn't that beautiful? You bet. And, just like it says in the link you first clicked, all of our pets we ever had are young, happy, healthy, playing together and waiting for that one day when we will be reunited with them once again. Every one of them including you with your Keo fur baby. True! Hmmm, just a minute. Here's Keo with a message for you. Please click below to see what Keo wants to tell you ...

Keo with a Message for Chicklets

Oh My Gosh! Isn't that something? Oh look ... Keo has taken a walk in the meadows there at The Rainbow Bridge and is snacking on one of her favorite treats you gave her all the time. Want to see for yourself? Please click below ...

Keo enjoys a treat at The Rainbow Bridge

That looks tasty and Keo is wagging her tail with glee as she munches and watches the beautiful butterfly circling around her. So lovely! Keo has opened the gates to The Rainbow Bridge to make it easier for you to enter when the time comes. Take a look by just clicking below ...

Keo opens the gates for Chicklets and promises to wait patiently.

I pray this is of some small comfort to you, Dear One. Do make sure to speak with a professional if those bad nightmares don't stop or if they get worse. Okay? I'm winging many loving Angels to you and Keo!

Big Comforting Hugs and Peace!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

hello

I agree with Beth, the more you come here and talk about it, the better you will feel. I wish so much I had known about this place 3 years ago as I felt so alone.
The more you bottle something up, I think the more chance you will have nightmares. Also Dotties suggestion of seeing a counsellor is good advice. Just make sure it is the right person who understands about pet bereavement.

You know there are people who can help out there and keep coming here too as we all understand. I have only just found this forum and even 3 years after I lost my beautiful dog Jack, I have found this place a big help.

take care

That's right Von 72, like Beth said, the more you come here and talk about it , the better you will feel. You will see many of us have been struck by lightning quite a while ago yet we need to come here and exchange with those who
understand so well. I can tell how much you loved your beautiful Jack, to come here three years later. Many of us here never get over them, it's good to surround ourselves with the people who can share our pain. This is a good place for you to come to. Take care and hope you will be back often.

Thanks everyone for your kind words

AngelCareOne - Im 24 yrs old.
Thankyou for those links.
the one with keo with wings is cute and made me laugh.
When my dog died many yrs ago, rainbow bridge was of some help to me back then, probably cause i was younger, now it doesnt seem to be helping much going there.
I havent had nightmares for the past few nights,, i know they wont have gone for good, im just releived to have not had them and wake up feeling ok rather than sad all the time.
if they start again I will definately be seeking help.

thankyou again