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I can't quit crying tonight. It's been over two years and I can't quit crying tonight. I just need her. How can she be gone when I NEED her?
Oh, am so sorry for your pain it makes me remember my own, May God Blees you and your sweet Furbaby, always here, Jorge 
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QUOTE (magdalene @ Sep 18 2008, 04:39 AM) 
I can't quit crying tonight. It's been over two years and I can't quit crying tonight. I just need her. How can she be gone when I NEED her?
I know hun. I can't quit either. Just know that she is with you and you'll always will miss and need her like I'll always miss my Candy.
Hang in their kiddo.
You are not alone, it has only been seven months since my little Fleetwood left me and I still cry when I think about him. Like you, I miss him so much it hurts everyday. Just know she is always there in your heart and she is looking out for you in ways you don't even know. They never really leave us, they just go to a place where they can better watch out over us.
Hugs,
Mark
Hugs,
Mark
It's okay to cry...to feel overwhelmed again...just like when everything first happened.
Our road to healing (making things bearable) is a lot of baby steps over a lot of time but we are entitled to a giant step backward...every now and then....it's very natural. The pain is so great because we miss them so much. And since we will miss them forever...the pain will never go away completely..but we get so that most of the time...it is bearable.
But at any time...we have to feel free to grieve again with tears...anytime we feel the need.
We are missing a wonderful special love who was part of our everyday life so there is a part of us that will always feel missing. We learn to live with it as best we can.
But we never will forget these babies. We want them back with us but we know that is not possible. Leaving was not their choice or our choice but the choice of something we can't control.
One Mom here said: The pain of losing him will never ever be greater than the joy of knowing him.
Powerful words. I would not give up any of the years I had with my Little Guy....not one day.....to avoid the painful ending that always arrives.
It helps to remember the joy of having them as part of our lives. I can touch my boy's face in his pictures. I even have some of his fur from a hairbrush (and it is as soft as it was when it was a part of him..that is my physical reminder).
The separation is the worse time of all but when we get them...we know in the back of our minds that day will come. It is easy not to think of it for it does no good.
It helps me that I got a shelter boy that looks close to my boy and sometimes watching him look out a window...I can feel for a second my boy doing that again.
From your avatar, I see that your baby reminds me of my boy's sister, Little Girl. Her pictures are in Tributes. Since the age of 10...I fell in love with a black cat and ever since then...they hold a special place in my heart.
Getting my new one is the distraction I need that keeps me from taking too many backward steps in my grief. Grief is pain and does not make me feel better when I allow it to return but sometimes...we just have to...cry again.
Hugs and I wish you peace and healing. We love them forever and will miss them forever and are always so grateful they were given to us for the time we had them. It is never long enough but we are glad we did have that time.
Our road to healing (making things bearable) is a lot of baby steps over a lot of time but we are entitled to a giant step backward...every now and then....it's very natural. The pain is so great because we miss them so much. And since we will miss them forever...the pain will never go away completely..but we get so that most of the time...it is bearable.
But at any time...we have to feel free to grieve again with tears...anytime we feel the need.
We are missing a wonderful special love who was part of our everyday life so there is a part of us that will always feel missing. We learn to live with it as best we can.
But we never will forget these babies. We want them back with us but we know that is not possible. Leaving was not their choice or our choice but the choice of something we can't control.
One Mom here said: The pain of losing him will never ever be greater than the joy of knowing him.
Powerful words. I would not give up any of the years I had with my Little Guy....not one day.....to avoid the painful ending that always arrives.
It helps to remember the joy of having them as part of our lives. I can touch my boy's face in his pictures. I even have some of his fur from a hairbrush (and it is as soft as it was when it was a part of him..that is my physical reminder).
The separation is the worse time of all but when we get them...we know in the back of our minds that day will come. It is easy not to think of it for it does no good.
It helps me that I got a shelter boy that looks close to my boy and sometimes watching him look out a window...I can feel for a second my boy doing that again.
From your avatar, I see that your baby reminds me of my boy's sister, Little Girl. Her pictures are in Tributes. Since the age of 10...I fell in love with a black cat and ever since then...they hold a special place in my heart.
Getting my new one is the distraction I need that keeps me from taking too many backward steps in my grief. Grief is pain and does not make me feel better when I allow it to return but sometimes...we just have to...cry again.
Hugs and I wish you peace and healing. We love them forever and will miss them forever and are always so grateful they were given to us for the time we had them. It is never long enough but we are glad we did have that time.
Today is my 15 week since my loss of Sissycat. Guess that is just how it goes. For no reason I can just start crying. Like reading certain posts just set me off. That is ok tho. It doesn't hurt anything to have a good cry. I miss mine so very much and I cannot imagine it 2 years down the road.
Just remember she IS with you just not as she was.
Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just remember she IS with you just not as she was.
Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
QUOTE (sissycat @ Sep 18 2008, 08:12 PM)
Today is my 15 week since my loss of Sissycat. Guess that is just how it goes. For no reason I can just start crying. Like reading certain posts just set me off. That is ok tho. It doesn't hurt anything to have a good cry. I miss mine so very much and I cannot imagine it 2 years down the road.
Just remember she IS with you just not as she was.
Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just remember she IS with you just not as she was.
Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so deeply sorry for your loss and your breaking heart. I know all to well. I lost my baby on June 8th and not a day has past that I haven't cried. I miss him so much. I have his ashes, toys, fur, it's not enough. I actually found 1 stand of his fur on the carpet today, picked it up and put on the visor in my car. Oh what we go thru for some piece of contact. Sometimes I'll have a dream about my cat Daisy I lost 16yrs ago and wake up with tears rolling down my cheeks. Cry to your dry. And when you least expect it you'll think of your baby and smile without the tears..Like Sissycat said's she still with you, always.. Hugs.. Ann
I'm so sorry that you're hurting so badly. We know and understand. We truly do. Most of us are having the same gosh awful time, too. Please know that you and your fur kid are in my thoughts and prayers.
Big Comforting Hugs and Winging Many Loving Angels to You!!!
Your Friend,
Dottie
Big Comforting Hugs and Winging Many Loving Angels to You!!!
Your Friend,
Dottie
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