Lately, a few people have posted about getting their furbabies' ashes. I have Daisy's ashes in a pink marble case with a little plaque, stating that she is loved and missed.

At first when she passed away, I wasn't sure what to do. I had never thought about keeping her ashes. But, then a friend mentioned that he had his cat's ashes at home. I knew immediately that was the right choice for me. Daisy was a dog that couldn't stand to be away from me for a moment. When I left her at the vets or even with a family member, I reassured her again and again that I would return.

I promised her that no matter what the cir%%stances I would always come back for her. So, by going to the pet cemetary where she was cremated and getting her ashes and bringing them home, I kept my word to my best friend and furbaby. I came back for her.


Daisy's Mommy


Safe in God's care

Dear Daisy's mommy,
I love that you told her you would always come back for her. My Furry is buried in the garden, but I have lots of her fur that I love to smell & touch to remind me of her. Nothing can take away the pain though.....
Judith

Hi Daisy's Mommy,
I struggled with the same thing when I lost Zappa. I didn't know what to do with his ashes either - I decided to pick them up yesterday. Over the past 2 weeks, I felt like I had made a lot of progress in getting through losing him, but it all came back yesterday and I was a mess.
I came home and my fiance suggested that we put the 'urn' on the mantle with a picture, but it just didn't feel right. I just didn't think that was where he would want to be left. So I thought about a place that he always liked to go, but I never let him stay - in the bottom drawer of my dresser. If I ever left it open and walked away, he would crawl in and get comfy, shedding all over my clean clothes, which is why he never got to stay there very long. Well that is where he is now and it strangely makes me feel better - like I'm finally letting him rest where he always wanted to.
This whole process is so hard, but I think we will all find the little things that help us get through it. I hope that bringing Daisy home makes you feel better - it sounds like it does.
Thinking of you,
Jules

I think any precious pet would be honoured by these acts of love and memory in dedication to them. They have crossed over to the rainbow bridge, but I feel confident that they see what we do and are with us, even though we don't see them, and approve of our continuing acts of love in their memory.

Nothing can take away the pain of the grief except time. Having faith that we'll be reunited with them again one day helps form that link of continuity between them and us through the love we hold in our hearts.

I've buried my furbabies in our yard, as we have a big piece of property in the country; they're either under an old apple tree near lilac bushes, or in another garden filled with flowers every summer.

We might end up moving this summer and I am determined to bring their remains with me and re-bury them at the new place. The idea of not doing this; of leaving them behind and having the new owner 'discover' them while digging for a garden or anything else, and disturbing their graves, or worse, just 'tossing them away' into the trash would give me nightmares.

I once read an article in a paper about how a man had left the remains of his pet dog behind at a house he'd sold under the assumption that the spot would never be disturbed. He said he was horrified and sickened when, a year later, he drove back by his old yard and saw that the new owners had dug into the ground to create a swimming pool and that the special place where his dog's remained had been was now gone. He said he then wished he'd exhumed his pets remains so that he could have re-buried the dog close to him again. Other people wrote in to say that they'd never leave remains behind for that reason either.

I think that's probably why cremation is a better option than burial and likely something that I'm going to look into for the future; this way, your baby can always easily be with you. I hope you can feel the love and peace that you always shared with them whenever you view their urn in a special place.

Daisy's Mommy

You did go back for her, just like you promised. It's so hard to know what to do. The pink marble urn sounds wonderful.

For me, getting the ashes back was a good thing. My baby was home, safe with me. My hubby and I went together to get them and I held the box close to my heart all the way home. I can put it in his favorite places, like in the window in the sun or in the bedroom when we sleep. When I am really lonely and sad for him I still hold him close to my heart.

Jules

I think it's lovely that you put Zappa in a drawer he liked.

Love

HI Daisy's mom, Furry, Zappa's Mom, Ratlover, & Moose's Mom, Glad to hear you talking about the ashes, we just received my boy ashes, it came in a very nice box, I didn't get to choose which one on that fateful day but it turned out to be very nice, cedar box with heart cut outs on it, I put his fur I has saved just on top so that you can see it thru the heart openings, its in the living room next to a candle that I light every night, it was strange at first, I had a hard time thinking of him in such a small box, he was such a big boy, but I am learning to accept that and comforted that he is with us, so to speak, it does affirm the realization that he isn't really here, he is in a better place and around me too, that was just his earthly form, its strange and hard I understand, I love the drawer idea too, it has to be right for your special buddy...all the best to everyone that is coping with this too. You give me strength...Peace and Love, Hrudey's Momma