so sorry to keep writing like this, but again, it really helps me to talk. it also helps me to be able to help other people too. im sitting here talking to my boyfirend. he told me that in no way do we have to get this new puppy on the 11, but he reminded me that this puppy needs love and a good home. he even told me alot of what you all have told me, that hes notgoing to replace fred, and that my love for fred will shine in this new little guy. thats kind of putting things in perspective for me. im going to take a few days and think about it. ill let you know, again, i cant express enough how much help everyone has been here,and i can only hope that ive helped some people as they have helped me. thank you somuch and god bless.



pamela

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. As you saw from my post last week, our rescue critters really helped us. It's not that we could replace our cat, whom I still grieve for -- but they kept us busy, prevented us from thinking about ourselves all the time, and are the source of tremendous affection. the pup needs you, and you probably need it. Don't feel guilty to love another pet, you will never forget Fred.

I just want to say I know this has been just a terrible thing for you to deal with as we all know too well. About 4 weeks after we lost our Tillie we did add anew puppy to our home named him Henry hes a boston terrier very much different from Tillie and that is what I insisted on. We still have our other 2 dogs but for so many yrs there were three and with her gone the balance was off and my daughter and husband really wanted it NOT me.

I had all the fears you have was I going to replace her ? would I forget her she would have not like another dog in this house ect. So Henry came home and I will be honest the first couple weeks were not too fun for me oh hes a good boy and all but at times I felt like YOU would not be here if Tillie was here but at the same time his antics brought a smile to my face now and again which I had not done in weeks and him licking on my ear gave me the goose bumps.

Well Henry has managed to worm his way into my heart BUT you see I'm still here reading and finding the comfort I need to deal with the loss of Tillie I miss her I am still heartbroken without her and at this point I am not sure that will ever change and there will be a day my heart will break when my other 2 older dogs leave and a day will come when Henry will have to go and again my heart will break for him but they offer so much to my life I am willing to go through this for THEM and me. It's ok to get another but your husband is right they need our love and care and in return you will be blessed as you were with Fred.

I hope this helps a little it is not wrong to love at any time.

Tillies mom