two days ago, my boyfriend and i went through the devastating pain of losing our first ever baby. we had an absolutely beautiful basset hound boy, named fred. the thing that makes this so heart wrenching is that fred was only 11 weeks old and we only had him for three weeks. in a tragic accident, fred fell into our pool and drowned. now, matthew and i blame ourselves constantly for not being there for him. this pain is so horrible because we feel we have failed as parents, even in an accident no one could ever have forseen. we are lucky to have a supporting group of parents who are also grieving the loss of our baby. i miss him so much because this is the first pet death i have ever personally experienced. i just need to know that this pain wont last for ever because it is unbearable

I completely understand what you are going through. I lost my Daisy last Thursday when she was hit by a car. You are right--these kinds of things cannot be forseen or prevented. We only had her for a year, but she was our baby. I never even realized that she was more like a daughter to me than a pet until I lost her. She was not my first baby, but I deeply love all my babies. The guilt is bad, but it does get easier with time. I still feel a huge void, but I know that she is okay. She is feeling no pain, and she gets to run and play and eat and drink all she wants. I told someone this earlier, but if you haven't seen the Rainbow Bridge, you should go to rainbowbridge.com. It made me feel better to know she is okay. I still think about her every second of every day, but I am now able to smile more when I think about her instead of constantly crying. I hope you remember the good times you and your baby had and remember that you will be reunited again. My prayers are with you.

I wondered, too, if I had done something earlier for my baby, Soshi, if she would have lived. I don't know if it would have, but at this point, thinking about it will only make me crazy. I did all I could for her, and she had a wonderful time while she was here.
The same is true for your Fred. I'm so sorry you lost your baby so soon. Just don't blame yourself. You have not failed as parents. Fred had a fabulous time while he was yours, and his life was meant to teach you something.
Soshi taught me how to love unconditionally, and how to let go when it's time.
Take care of yourself.
I'll keep you in my prayers,
Much Love,
Brandy, Soshi, George, and Isaac

thank you all for your prayers and understanding. it is making a very hard time for us a little more bearable. i did visit the rainbow bridge website and it was a huge comfort. again,thank you all and god bless. we will keep you posted as things happen