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pghbekka
We had to put the Buddy to sleep last night. He was the bestest buddy, the Mayor McCheese, the boyly boy, the Monkey cat, and a snuggle lumpkin. Goddamnit!

We'll miss you, sweetie!

We noticed on Saturday that he was throwing up and/or trying to a lot. Otherwise, he seemed fairly healthy, but the buddy never throws up. By Sunday, all that was left was bile. We thought that maybe he ate something that disagreed with him, or had a lodged hairball, so I called Monday morning and Tom took him to the vet. She checked him, and didn't find anything obstructing, but noticed that one kidney was much smaller than the other in the X-ray. She did some bloodwork, and sent us home with stuff for his nausea. He slept with us that night, which he hadn't done Saturday or Sunday, and Tuesday morning, he cuddled with Tom until Tom had to go in. On his way to work, Tom had me call the vet for his bloodwork results. When she got back to me at 5, she said that we had better bring him back in, because his kidney levels were seriously escalated. So I called Dad and he picked me up after work and we took the Buddy to the vet. She put him on an I.V. for fluids, nausea medication, and antibiotics just in case. At that time, we discussed the idea that he had a kidney stone lodged in his ureter (much more serious than when he had one in his urethra), possible surgery, and maybe a need to treat him for renal failure. Tom and I were willing to give him shots (twice a week) if necessary, and if it would keep him happy and healthy for at least a few years. But when I called back today, she said his levels had actually gotten worse. The vet thought that we should take him to the emergency clinic at eight p.m., so they could monitor him overnight and then do an ultrasound in the morning. But she wasn't sure if he would make it through the night either way. The biggest thing is this just came on so fast, and otherwise, he looked perfectly healthy. When he had the first blockage, he had the whole rough fur, dull eyes look of a dying cat, and he was hiding, always a bad sign. But this time, no. But none of this changed the fact that one kidney had shriveled and failed, and the other one had massive calcification, none of which had been present at his last x-Ray in May. Even if the ultrasound showed a ureter obstruction, removing it wouldn't improve the health of the kidneys. I think if they had been able to do the ultrasound tonight, we might have gone ahead with it, even though we really knew the outcome. But the process of putting him in the car, which he HATES (that may not be a strong enough word, we have to monitor him so he doesn't go into shock on car rides), to take him to yet another cage for more needles and a *very* high chance that he would die at night in a cage in pain and without us - we couldn't do it. None of my pets have ever died alone, and I'm not going to start now. Especially when even if he didn't die then, we would probably have to make the decision again in the morning. So we went out and the vet brought him in, and we sat on the bench with him and loved him lots and he gave us his purrs, and then we held him on the table and let him go.

Tom and I know we made a good decision, but dammit, he was only eight, and he was our baby and the bed is going to be awfully lonely without him.
Maxwellsmom05
I'm so sorry for the loss of your Buddy. I had to put my baby Maxwell down in October because of kidney stones (she also had one stuck in her ureter). She was young too, only 7.

Please take comfort in the fact that your Buddy is happy and healthy now waiting for you to join her again someday.
pghbekka
Thank you for your kind words. I know Prince and the other Altes kitties will show him around, and I'm sure he is getting lots of belly rubs. He's the youngest I've ever lost, which makes it harder in a way. I think if he'd been diagnosed with CRF (the vet thinks that's what it was) back in May, he might have lasted longer, but we did have him on a special diet and filtered water since then, and even though he didn't show any symptoms before Saturday, the degree of damage was just too much for him to have any kind of life. Since it had to happen, I'm glad it was so quick, and he didn't suffer at all before Saturday. But it was so hard not to wake up to my warm furry purrbling this morning.
pghbekka
Also, I'm so sorry you lost your Maxwell in October. Is that her in your picture? She looks like she was a wonderful little girl.
missingB
I am so sorry for the loss of your Buddy. I used that same nickname Monkey Cat with my B quite often. I am sure you did the right thing and it is good that you were there with your Buddy at the end. Touching him and lending him into a better place.

Hold on things will get easier they say.

Marie
pghbekka
Thank you Marie.

I know things will get easier, but it's so hard today. The little girl has been spending all day with me, asking for affection, and that's made it easier. Tom and I are a little worried about how she'll do tomorrow, since we'll both be at work.

I love that your B was also a Monkey cat. The nickname for the Buddy started because Tom said he was always being a "me-monkey," pay attention to MEEEE!

Bekka
5catsmom
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know a little about CRF because I had a 17-year-old female cat who survived 9 months after diagnosis, with us doing fluids for her every night - my hubby did it because I, the OB nurse, couldn't handle it. I guess maybe with male cats it can be a different story, either that or the renal issues just came on for your Buddy really fast.

I've been visiting this site for about 2 months now, and although I've never had to have a pet put to sleep, I've learned a lot about it, and developed a great respect for the pet mommies and daddies who are forced into the decision. I'm not sure I could be that strong - I hope I could be, but I don't know. I think it shows an incredible amount of love and respect for a pet, to make that decision, and you have my deepest sympathy.

I know your little girl is receiving lots of attention and love from you, so I think she'll be okay, but I can understand your worry, and hope things go well. Please take care - Barbara
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