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I know so much the feeling of wanting to have everything that was a part of a beloved furbaby. I can understand so much you wanting to have Scooter's collar back, if it were possible.

I am afraid to say that I don't think it's likely that the vet will still have it. I asked for the towel back that my Ellie was lying on when I took her little body to the vets the morning after she died. It was one week later, but I was told that it had been disposed of. I think they have an incinerator on the premises and incinerate these sort of things unfortunately.

It made me very very sad as I wanted that towel so badly. I tried to compensate in some way by collecting up all her other precious things. Toys she had played with, cushions she had lain on.

The four week mark is a particularly difficult one. I remember thinking that I had been doing okay and then at four weeks it all just broke loose again and I seemed to be back to square one. The 4 week mark seems to be a particularly difficult time in our journey through the grief of losing our babies. But it does get better and getting past that 4 week mark is a big hurdle.

My thoughts are with you
with love
jilly

Call!!! They very well may still have his collar and, perhaps, it will be comforting to you to have that back. It's definitely worth a shot and you have nothing to lose.

Even if he hated it, it was on him and I completely understand you wanting it back. Let us know how it works out for you, please! Good luck.

Hugs,

Pat

Thank you so much. Yes Ellie was a little sweetie, she never really got the chance to become much more than a kitten, but I know she is okay because I can sense her little spirit prescence now. It didn't happen at first, in fact it took more than 3 months for me to feel it strongly. But now I am contented because I know that she is okay.
I find this site so wonderful and so healing because we can come here and say whatever it is that is in our hearts, no matter what it is. And so often we find that what we have said resonates with someone else who has been thinking just that very same thing and maybe has not been able to talk about it with anyone else, or friends or family.
That's the first time I've told anyone about trying to get Ellie's towel back even though it meant so much to me at the time.

Bless dear Scooter and may an angel watch over him always.

With love
jilly

Yes if you're up to it, I would call. Because if they do have it, you can get it back...and then decide if it's a help or not. Better to try than to leave it hanging. I think that's worse IMO.
I have my dog Jasmine's collars (both her leather and chain one) in a bag that the emergency vet gave me the night she died. The bag is still sitting on my table. I haven't put anything of hers away yet. I'm not sure if I'm making it worse by putting it off or not. But I do know that I'm glad I have all her stuff.

I'm so happy they still had the collar for you.

What is rational when is comes to how we handle the loss of our babies anyway? I've been carrying Qorqui's collar in my jacket pocket since the day she was killed. Holding it sometimes helps when I'm feeling down.

Tim

I am so happy that you got Scooter's collar back. I would have wanted Snookie's collar back if I would have left it too. I have put most of her sweaters and toys away now. It seems like it just kept tearing me up everytime I touched her things.
Ann

YAY! I'm so happy for you.
And if you cry at the office, well, that's perfectly okay! What's important is that you now have a part of your baby back. I hope it gives you some closure and comfort.

I am so glad that they had Scooter's collar. I did not think they would have thrown it away. I know my Sasha's collar is precious to me. I have a Scottie statue with her picture and the collar draped over it on her ashes. It's that little piece of her I will always have. I know you are thrilled that they have it.

I know what you mean about the one month mark. Saturday was my two month mark and I felt very sad. It is so hard to lose our babies. and some days you just feel sadder than others. I could hardly drive home from the vet after I picked up my Sasha's ashes. I think these sad days are just part of it for us.

Nancy (Sasha's Mom)

That's so great that you have his collar back. That says a LOT about the veterinarian's office and the staff working there. You don't find that every day. The woman you spoke to on the phone was a true gem.

I hope you sleep better this evening. It gets better, trust me. I am just now to the point where I don't ALWAYS start crying when I talk about Simon or view his photo gallery online. I still have another cat, Sunny, so that helps a bit.

I'm so glad you have that collar. My cat died in his sleep in my bed. I removed his collar that had his personal tag that I had engraved with his name and our telephone number. I had purchased memory books for both cats where I put photos and wrote things. It was hard cover, but wire bound. I threaded his name tag to the top spiral of his book so it's kind of like a book mark there. His collar is in my jewelry box.

Take care.

It was two years for me Dec and March and i have what i call a snuggle cardigan, an old grey stretched and burred aran carddie my mum knitted for me years ago, when im ill or cold or in need of comfort on goes the old grey carrdie.

I have both their collars in the pocket, they only come out when the carddie needs a wash, then they go straight back in the pocket.

Love Sue

I am so happy that you have dear Scooter's collar safely home with you now. That is wonderful news. What lovely people at your vet's office to have kept it safe for you all this time. It is so nice to know that there are such caring people in the world.

I am sure it will be a great comfort to you. Ellie's collar means so very much to me. I keep it in a little clear glass box that has flowers painted on it. It is on the mantleshelf in my bedroom. I can see the collar through the glass and have kept it in there ever since she died.

I frequently get it out and hold it up very close to my face. She wore it constantly (I was always afraid of her getting lost and she had worn it since she was a kitten and had never minded wearing it.) Being velvet, the inside of it is smothered with her fur. I hold it up to my face and it makes me feel very close to her.

I am sure having Scooter's collar back with you will be bring a good and close feeling for you. It is like bringing a precious part of him home to be with you again. Getting out Ellie's collar and kissing it always gives me a very peaceful and close feeling. I hope Scooter's collar will do the same for you.

With love
jilly

All is as it should be... you have your sweetheart's collar!!! I just knew that they'd have it!! I am truly very, very happy for you.

Those little things mean the world to us when we lose our babies. I placed everything that Inky loved inside his urn (which is really a beautiful box). Even though I have three other cats, those belonged to him and nobody else will ever have them. I know you said Scooter really didn't like his collar, but what cat actually does?!? The fact that it was on him is why you wanted/needed to have it back and I'm just absolutely thrilled that you do!!

Big hugs to you,

Pat

I'm crying at the office because Scooter's collar was returned to his mommy!!

Have a wonderful weekend away with your husband... you both deserve some fun and peace (especially without the kids!! LOL)

I'm glad that Scooter's collar is bringing you a calmness. You're probably right in your thought of him helping to bring you peace because that's most likely just what he intended.

Thank you for complimenting Inky. NOT that I'm bias, but he was a real stud muffin!!