Still Having Moments, Abby's passing Options

[Abby's Mommy]

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[DJ - Edgar, Jess...]

You asked how we can have a Happy Christmas now that our furry loved ones are gone... Well - it's not easy the first Christmas.

But remember something - Christmas is special because it is a time when we reach out to those around us in a spirit of "humanity" and "brotherhood". Our families, our friends, or even - a perfect stranger (human or otherwise). You can still do that. You can still look out and realize that although your furry one is no longer with you, there are thousands of lost souls out there who are crying out for someone to care.

Yesterday I made a donation online to the Animal Rescue Network. They are a no-kill shelter here in Montreal - I made the donation in the names of Edgar, Jesse and Tom. Even if money is tight for some of us, perhaps volunteering at a soup kitchen or senior's home at some point in the holidays would help us through the holiday.

I know the holidays are lonely with our furry ones gone... Those of us with new furbabies are going to have a much easier time of it. But on Christmas day we will think of our friends who are new to their loss and you won't be alone.

Our hearts will be with you.

p.s. I am glad your father is with you on the holidays...

[Ann H]

Abby's Mommy It sure is tough when you just think they are there and then it hits full force when you remember that they are gone. I thought I felt Chili Bean and a few times I went to call out to her and then I remembered and I cried. You and I both dread the New Year I hate it because my mom died on a New Years Day.

The day she passed away I remember tearing that Christmas tree down like it was the devil standing there and with each thing I took off the tears flowed. The folling year I did not want to put one up but my husband said mom would want us to put it up for the grand kids so we did.

As hard as it is to move on we have to try to pick up the pieces of our broken hearts and bring happiness to others in our lives. Just keep hanging in there post your feeling and cry those tears, talk about the good and the bad times, whatever you have to do to let it out. We all understand.
Ann

[Pamela]

I know how you are feeling, sometimes I just reach my hand down where ever I am sitting and just remeber, but not for very long cause I will loose it. I still think the hardest part of losing them is...........getting used to them not being here with us. Your dad being ill at the same time only compounds it because Abby is not there for you to focus on. I have Moose's favorite bear and it still smells of him, I dont go there cause I cant flush those feelings up to the surface, the time will come when I will find comfort in it, and his favorite ball the one he picked out at petsmart he had his choice and he nudged the ball he wanted and barked, he was like a child getting a new toy, that is put away to. It looks like I will live here another month, I put my bed back in my bedroom, was gonna sleep there last night, but when it came right down to it i could'nt just had a cry and went back to the livingroom. But I dont have that awful feeling like a "CAT ON A HOT TIN ROOF" that is the best way I can discribe it, it will get better for you to, one step at a time. Pamela

[jillybromley]

Dear Abby's Mommy
It is so painful when you "forget", for a moment. You go to do a familiar thing and expect your beloved pet to be there in the way they always have been. When you remember it tears at your heart strings.

Today I brought in the shopping and carried it on to the kitchen counter. Ellie would always jump onto the counter and investigate all the shopping as I put it away. I felt so lonely unpacking the shopping on my own. My heart was so heavy. I longed for her to be their "helping me".

Now I do everything on my own instead of having my "little helper" who had her nose into everything I did..

Everything has been such a mad hectic rush these last few weeks and that has been a therapy for me, but I am dreading Christmas being over and those long January nights without her. This is the first night I have been at home alone since Ellie died, and I am in a terrible state. The whole thing has come flooding back in on me.
The silence and emptyness is unbearable.

So dear Abby's mom, please know that you are not alone. I will be thinking of you and your precious Abby.
With love
jilly