The Pain And Ache Is Back, Abby's passing Options

[Abby's Mommy]

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[Gort]

Hi Abby's Mom

I'm so sorry to hear about Abby. It's probably the toughest experience in life, losing such a close and devoted companion. It does get better slowly but surely. Only time and the crying of healing tears will ease the pain. It will never go away 100%, it just gets a little easier to deal with as the days turn into weeks and the weeks turn into months.

I know I was a wreck for the first week after Ava died. I didn't notice alot of improvement emotionally until a couple weeks after the fact. It's been over 3 months now and I still have moments that are devastating. The tears come back and I cry for Ava. It doesn't happen everyday and I wish I could say that it only happens once a week or so but that isn't the case at all. I have gone a week so far where I haven't shed a tear at some point. The anniversaries (week, month etc) are hard. Other little things will trigger me like finding hair under the couch or even just looking out into the backyard sometimes (that was her kingdom for the most part). I still look for her dispite knowing oh too well that she isn't there.

Take it easy and take care of yourself. It's pretty easy to forget about eating and sleeping with the grief. Come and talk as much as you like. We here have all gone through or are going through what you are experiencing.

[Pamela]

When Moose had to go, it felt like someone was ripping my skin open and there was no way to close it up. It touched the depth of my soul like it has never been touched before. He was my constant.
He loved me and was more devoted than any human friend I have encounted this life.
I cant imagine how long that night was for you, and the last moments, I can visualize her looking into your eyes with such love. It is a pain tht we feel phycially in ever part of our being...tht part we protect from pain, it is brought to the surface and there is nothing we can do except try and love ourselves too.
I could really relate to Gort about finding the hair.....a sad moment when that happens, I have basically been nofunctional, isloated, since I lost my boy, it has been only 7wks I have sat in my home for 60 plus days grieving. It is a hard road to travel my friend, I and others extend a hand to help you through it. Grasp tight...that's how I have made it this far. Pamela

[Kathleen032]

Abby was such a cutie. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I lost Shiloh 3 months ago and I still miss her so very badly. Please know my thoughts are with you.

Take care,
Kathleen

[deedee]

I am so sorry for your loss. It will be a tough holiday for you, missing her. It is such a tough decision to make, but you kept your promise of a good life and a good ending. My thoughts are with you.

[Ann H]

I am thinking of you and praying for you keep coming and talking to us. It sure helps to have others who understand the pain.
Ann

[SJ J & S]

Christmas is such a hard time to go through especially as you say the first one.

Sadie died the day after my birthday 06/12/02 and we had family and friends coming for Christmas day.

I held up ok all except for one occasion when my husband had written from Jude and Sadie on a pressie so i went to the toilet and had a good cry then came back with a smile on my face.

Im the first to say the we shouldnt hold back the tears but sometimes we have to put the living before those that have passed.

Good luck to all of you on this first Christmas without your precious ones

[Bronte's Mom]

Holidays are not the best time for going through grief. I lost Bronte 6 weeks ago and I still cry at night sometimes when I think about the days that led up to her passing. I got Bronte December of '92 so this will be the first x-mas in 12 years without her. Maybe you can let your daughter know that you don't really feel comfortable with her bringing her dogs with. I know it may seem kind of harsh, but your right that is Sadie's house and yours. I'm very pleased to hear that your open to counseling as some people think that are pets are just that and that you can't possibley grieve an animal like you grieve a human. There wrong and you are doing a very healthy thing. I'll be thinking you this holiday season, knowing your missing Sadie as much as I'm missing Bronte. Big hugs, April.