My Cat Got Killed By Dogs, RIP Mungie Jan 1999-October 14th 2014 Options

[mungie68]

Hey there,

This is so painful to write but I need to write this. Im crying as I write this because I miss my beautiful Mungie so much.

Firstly I met this little angel in 1999 January. I had just come home from holidays in Thailand and I open the back door to my garden and there is the sweetest little cat who was quite timid. She looked at me and ran. My Dad told me she had been making this backyard her own. She was the neighbours cat but Mungie chose to be with us and she was here till October 14th 2014.

She was my baby. She sat by me everywhere I sat in the house. We would always hang out in the back yard together on beautiful sunny days, her sweet furry little body leaning against my legs. She always had to be sure I was near when I was at home. We played silly games together. She simply loved to chase after little stones I threw. My favourite game with Mungie was I would sit at one end of the hallway and she would be up the other end. I would pat my legs and she would come running up to me to sit in my lap. Before she was killed she was a skinny old dear but she had all of her faculties. She could still hear, see and she was very bright and alert. We played the hallway game only 2 weeks ago. Only 2 weeks ago I took her to the vets for a health check and they told me she was so healthy for her age.

Anyway here comes the terrible part. The part that I replay in my head over and over again. Last week on a tues oct 14th I let Mungie out the back to be in the sun. I saw her sitting out there looking relaxed. I went and had a bath. Whilst in bath I could hear next doors huskies growling and whimpering. They always do that because they have nowhere to run. The neighbours don't walk them and they live in this cooped up space. So I just thought nothing unusual about that but a little voice in my head kept saying ""they sound more menacing then usual"" Anyway my Dad called out to me that the little dog from next door was in our back yard so I asked where Mungie was and Dad said shes asleep in the grass. I thought that unusual. But then 10 seconds later Dad yelled out ""Mungies dead"" At first I could not believe it . I kept yelling out NO NO NO NO!! YOU MUST BE WRONG but my Dad said the dreaded words gain. I jumpted out the bath tub and didn't dry myself off. Just put my clothes on and ran out to the back. There was my Mungie dead. Her eyes still open. I picked her up in my arms and howled and howled and screamed at the little dog. I ran inside and sat with my Munige in my arms in a state of shock and cried so loudly. My Dad came in and said ""the 2 huskes are also in the back yard, they just come from bhind our shed"" It was then I knew the huskies had killed her. Her fur was all matted and wet. We took Mungie to the vets to get verification that was indeed a dog that killed her.

Ever since that day last week I haven't been the same and neither has my Dad. Every day I cry for my baby. Every day I regret I didn't protect her. Every day I want to stare into her sweet eyes again and kiss her little head. I want to hold her on my lap again. I even desperately wish for a sign from her but I don't feel her presense anywhere.

Im very angry at the neighbours because in the past the huskys had got in and every time they fixed the fence and said it wouldn't happen again. But this time its too late. I cant bring her back. I look at the blanket beside me in the lounge room and wish she was asleep on it. I never knew I could grieve so intensely but I am. I want this pain to go away but at the same time I want to hang on to it so Mungie knows I never forget her. She was and always will be in my heart.

Thank you for letting me tell my Mungies story. She was so very special to me and always will be. RIP Mungie my sweet heart, my little girl, my little baby xx

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[moon_beam]

Hi, mungie68, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Mungie. Losing a companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company. Losing a companion so tragically intensifies the grief.

Mungie68, this grief journey is one of the most painful experiences you will know on this side of eternity. It is a journey that is filled with many different emotions that can overwhelm us all at one time which is why it is frequently referred to as a horror roller coaster ride. It is a journey that can only be traveled one day at a time, sometimes one moment at a time - - for you are now on a journey that is filled with all the first withouts and the memories that can be all too painful right now that include this time yesterday, last week, last month, last year to endure.

I can certainly understand your anger toward your neighbors for not keeping their dogs confined to their property. For whatever worth this may be for you: you may want to look into your local laws about holding your neighbors financially responsible for the attack on your beloved Mungie who was in her own yard. This may require filing a complaint against them through the police department or through your local humane society, and getting a written statement from your veterinary care provider that the cause of your beloved Mungie's fatal injuries were caused by a dog attack. I know this will not bring back your beloved Mungie but it may offer you some form of "justice" for your beloved Mungie and what happened to her. Also, now that your neighbor's dogs have attacked and fatally wounded another companion your neighbor might need to have a permit to continue to keep the dogs. This is something you and your dad may want to discuss and look into the options.

It is obvious from what you share with us that you and your dad did everything in your power to give your beloved Mungie a safe, happy, healthy earthly journey. Unfortunately we do not possess the wisdom of foreknowledge, so you had no idea that October 14 would be the day that your beloved Mungie's physical life would end so tragically. I hope in time you will be able to find a peace in your heart that YOU, and your dad, did NOTHING wrong in allowing your beloved Mungie to be outside in HER yard to enjoy HER property. And I hope in time you will be able to find peace in your heart that your beloved Mungie knows that you love her with your heart and soul, and that you would move heaven and earth to keep her safe and healthy.

As painful as this grief adjustment journey is, mungie68, there is one thing that will never change: the love bond you and your beloved Mungie share. Love is eternal, mungie68 - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. Your beloved Mungie's sweet Living Spirit continues to share your earthly journey as she always has and always will - - for she is always and forever a part of your heart and memories - - she is always and forever a heartbeat close to you.

I know all too well from first hand experience that when our hearts are entrenched in deep grief there are no adequate words in any language that can soothe the searing pain of sorrow. Still I hope the words I share with you will offer you some measure of comfort, support, encouragement, and hope as you travel your grief adjustment journey.

Thank you so much for honoring us in sharing your beloved Mungie with us, and this wonderful picture of your sweet girl. Please know you, and your dad, are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you both are doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[mungie68]

Thank you for your kind words Moonbeam.

We actually went next door and asked the owners of the 2 huskies how they would feel about rehoming the dogs. We gave them some numbers of husky rescues in Melbourne and they seemed like they may contact the rescues, but I have a funny feeling they wont. We haven't reported them to the council because over the years we have had a good relationship with the neighbours. However, I am thinking of ringing up our council anonymously and asking their advice on what to do.

Atm im waiting on my Mungies ashes. I have had her cremated and I am waiting for her to come back so we can have a little memorial for her. Sadly, this has caused a few issues within my relationship as well. My partner is besotted my dogs, a real dog person. They told me that I have no right to ask next door if they can rehome the dogs and we have had a huge argument over this. My partner has seen how Mungies death has effected me and my Father but sadly my partner has been quite insensitive about this whole topic. So this whole sad situation has had an impact on my interpersonal relationships. I just want to grieve my Mungie but this horrible situation with my partner is just adding pain on top of pain.

I haven't been eating properly since all this happened, I started up chain smoking again and stopped my exercises. Its just effected me so badly. I know I have to get on with my life and I will. But I just want to grieve Mungie and not have these other issues.

[moon_beam]

Hi, mungie68, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Unfortunately our society in general, and sadly sometimes the people who are closest to us geographically and emotionally, do not understand - - and some refuse to understand - - that the grief journey for the physical loss of a beloved companion - - whoever the life form - - is the same as for a human family member or friend. I am so sorry your partner is not being able to offer you the comfort, support, and encouragement you need as you travel your grief adjustment journey. This is one of the many reasons why this wonderful forum is here as a safe place where we can come to share what is in our hearts. Here there are no "expiration dates" so please know we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.

I am glad you are considering contacting the local council in your area to find out what your options are. I know very well from first hand experiences in my life that sometimes there are situations that occur when there are no "satisfactory" answers - - or resolutions. The only "advice" I can offer you is to follow your heart, mungie68, so that YOU will be able to know you have done what YOU need to do on behalf of your beloved Mungie.

Indeed, receiving your beloved Mungie's ashes is a two sided coin: the one side it can be a relief to have her back home where she belongs yet the other side will be yet another painful reminder that she is no longer with you in the physical form your heart and arms long for. This, too, is another part of this grief adjustment journey. This journey is not about "getting on" or "moving forward" with our lives but rather adjusting to the physical absence of someone deeply loved - - whoever the life form.

Please let me try to reassure you that what you are feeling and experiencing is very normal deep grief when you share with us: "I haven't been eating properly since all this happened, I started up chain smoking again and stopped my exercises. Its just effected me so badly." This grief journey is both physically and emotionally painful, mungie68, with experiencing many symptoms of grieving which include lack of interest in doing things that normally come second nature to us, not being able to sleep, lack of appetite, etc.. Particularly during the deep grief we find ourselves functioning on what I call "automatic pilot" - - chores get done, jobs are done, meals prepared, bills paid, etc., but it is more like we are functioning without being an active participant. What used to bring joy into our lives no longer exists - - we are faced with the extraordinarily painful task of re-inventing our lives that no longer includes the physical presence of our beloved companion. The only way to navigate this grief journey is one day at a time, sometimes one moment at a time - - and it is vitally important for your health that you allow yourself the opportunities you need to openly grieve for your beloved Mungie - - even if you must find a private place away from other people to do so.

I hope today is treating you kindly, mungie68, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Mungie's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you, and your dad, are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[mungie68]

I got Mungies ashes back today. I felt like she had come home to me. But I sit alone by my computer right now very sad and lost. I have the box sitting beside me with her remains and it has hit me. This is all I have left of Mungie now. A little box to pat. I really feel so lonely right now. Whenever I was down Mungie was always there for me to give a cuddle to. I would just get lost in the moment of patting Mungie and staring into her eyes. I don't have that comfort anymore and its a terrible feeling. I miss her so much and cant believe she not here anymore. I wish she was sitting beside me , her physical body with her amazing spirt. Geez I miss her, I really do.

[moon_beam]

Hi, mungie68, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Please let me try to reassure you that what you are feeling is very normal deep grief - - very painful yes, still very normal. We live in a physical oriented world governed by the five senses of sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell. Scientific studies prove that every time our companions touch / rub us, lick / kiss us, they are literally chemically imprinting themselves onto us so that they can identify us from all the millions of other people on this planet. When they precede us to the angels, we literally experience a physical withdrawal from this chemical imprint, and this is one of the many reasons why this grief adjustment journey is so very painful - - both emotionally and physically.

Some people, including me, find it helpful to hold a blanket, toy, collar - - something - - that belongs only to our beloved companion when the pain of not being able to hold their sweet physical body is more than what our hearts and arms can bear. No, it isn't the same, but it does help to ease the painful loss of not being able to hold them in our arms.

Mungie68, I truly wish there were an easier way to navigate this grief adjustment journey, but unfortunately there are no fast forward or delete buttons we can press to speed up the process or make it automatically disappear. One of the many things you need to remember is that you are not alone - - we are here for you, with you, and beside you through every step of your grief journey for as often and as long as you need us.

I hope today is treating you kindly, mungie68, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Mungie's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you, and your dad, are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam