It's Hitting Hard, ONE MONTH Options

[Pamela]

I JUST TOOK A DRIVE OUT INTO THE COUNTRY, TO VISIT A FRIEND, I USED TO TAKE MOOSE THERE TOO, I COULD ONLY STAY A SHORT TIME BECAUSE I COULD TELL I WAS GOING TO BREAK DOWN. I DID'NT EVEN MAKE IT TO THE CAR, I CRIED ALL THE WAY HOME, I'M STILL CRYING,I MISS HIM SO MUCH, I JUST HAVE THAT SO ALONE FEELING, THAT ALONE FEELING THAT HE CAN ONLY FILL. I JUST KNOW THAT RIGHT NOW MY FEELINGS ARE OVERWHELMING ME, I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH MYSELF, I AM STRUGGLING WITH ACCEPTANCE. I HURT SO FAR DOWN IN MY SOUL. I NEEDED TO COME HERE AND TYPE DOWN MY FEELINGS. THANKS

[SJ J & S]

Take your time, grief is one part of our lives that just will not be rushed no matter what we do to try and hurry it along.

1 month is such a short time, I think that maybe it was nearer 6 before I could breath without thinking about it again.

Just take your time release the pain slowly but surely the tears will help to heal and you will come out the other end smiling about the memories you hold dear.

Be kind to yourself
Love Sue

[LS Support]

Take your time, grief is one part of our lives that just will not be rushed no matter what we do to try and hurry it along.

truly, grief is as individual as snowflakes.

[Steph]

One month is not long at all.

Everyone grieves at their own pace. There is no right or wrong period of time.

We are here for you.

[zoeysdad]

Hi Pamela,

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. I fully understand your pain and sense of being completely alone without your buddy by your side. It seems we didn't have a clue as to just how important our buddies were to us until we had to deal with the reality of losing them. Sure, we knew we'd miss them, but this knife-like pain that just won't go away was something that came out of left field.

I'm almost at the three month anniversay of my little buddies death and the pain has eased somewhat, but I think it's going to be a long time before I can think of him without getting all torn up inside. I believe it's that way for most of us here at LS. I think we here at LS had a much stronger bond with our pets than other people who have pets and this is why we are having such a difficult time accepting their passing. They gave us so much and when we lose that, we feel incomplete and I suppose in reality, we are. We must all deal with it in our own way and hope that there will come a day when we are at peace with ourselves.

It does help so much to just come here and talk with people who truly understand what we are going through. Once again, I'm sorry for your loss. Please continue to come here and talk with us as much as you need to.

You're in my thoughts,
__Jim

[Muffins]

Dear Pamela:

Hi!

I NEEDED TO COME HERE AND TYPE OUT MY FEELINGS. THANKS. 

That's what I did, too, Pamela.......... When we had to put our sweet girl, Ernestine to sleep on 2/7/2004..........I typed and typed..............I just kept rambling on & on......
That's all I could do, my friend.....

As you said, "I don't know what to do with myself"..................Well, I didn't either..... So, I'm one of the LS people that just had to ramble on & on, in hopes that someone, somewhere, would UNDERSTAND......

And, YES, THEY DID!!!! Thank you Dearest God!!!!

I was going crazy and out of my mind.....

I used to pick someone's name here at LS..............and follow "THEIR JOURNEY".........AS FAR AS THEY THEMSELVES HAD
GONE...............
And to me...........it was the best thing that I could've done.......

I needed to see HOW PEOPLE PICKED UP THE PIECES............OR EVEN, "PICKED UP A PIECE!!!!!!"

That's my suggestion to everyone here..................Pick someone's name, and read their story..... and, go on from
there.............read other stories..........
There's a lot of hope..... Honestly.....

One month after our sweet Ernie was put to sleep, we adopted two "teen kitties".....Ms. Lucy (age 7), and Mr. Yoster
(or, Yo-Yo Ma) age 8............

Ms. Lucy is ill with diabetes and asthma........... It is very, very difficult treating the latter....... (if we keep her on a Prednisone type drug -- her blood sugar will automatically go up)..........
So, we are trying to do inhalation treatments......
But, once she sees the "apparatus".......she's running off to the hills.......... (well, under the bed)....

I wish you MUCH MUCH PEACE AND LOVE, PAMELA!!!
YOU ARE AMONG TONS OF FRIENDS HERE WHO TRULY UNDERSTAND.....AND KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH!!!!!!!

One month, my friend, is not very long at all, to have been grieving............
I know, it was once said to me..............that........."FOR EVERY YEAR YOU HAVE HAD YOUR FURBABY.......IT TAKES ONE FULL MONTH OF "HEALING" PER YEAR............TO GET OVER YOUR GRIEVING.....

Well, that was what was said to me a couple of times.........but, I truly believe that WE DO NOT EVER GET OVER OUR
GRIEF................ IT JUST CANNOT BE DONE............

BUT, YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE A PLACE TO COME TO, PAMELA..........TO TALK TO US....TO SHARE YOUR FEELINGS....
JUST AS I WILL, AND EVERYONE WHO RESPONDED TO YOU WILL.............

Please.......always KNOW THAT, MY FRIEND.........

LOVE,
DENISE

[Ann H]

Dear Pamela,
I am so sorry for your pain all I can do is send hugs your way and let you know that my heart is with you. I know that lost feeling now too and I hate it. I have not cried so hard since I lost my mother and with Chili Bean gone and my Snookie girl being so sick it's like I relive that terrible time too. Keep telling us more about Moose. I thought I would not be able to reach out to anyone for a few days but something drives me on.
Love, Ann