My Loss, Dasher Options

[moon_beam]

Hi, Judith, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Just want to add my support to the very comforting words our forum friend Monique has shared with you. With some of my companions who joined the angels years ago I still have some of their toys, collars, etc., in places where I can see and touch them which helps me to keep the physical connection with their sweet Living Spirits, while other things I have put away in a memory box which is kept privately in my closet. Just recently this summer I was able to go through some things that I have been keeping many, many, many years and now felt comfortable donating several articles to a local no kill shelter. At my age I would rather make the decisions on where these items go rather than depend on someone else to do it for me. Only YOU need to decide what to do when you want to do it however long time transpires for you to feel comfortable doing it.

I hope today is treating you kindly, Judith, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Dasher's and Dancer's sweet Living Spirits to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[dancer]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I found this site after losing MacKenzie 11 July 2014. Unfortunately, loss is a very big part of my life due to my participation in animal rescue. I feel empathically your loneliness. Losing Mackenzie really accentuated how very few true friends I have. I still have a house full of peeps, yet human companionship and interacting with my own kind just seems intuitive and natural. So, to find that so many just do not understand or are not available or don't want to hear about it anymore is heart shattering. Finding a way to go on...

Directly after a loss is so terribly painful. To find the will to go on is a monumental task. Like you, I want to be home and then I don't. Reminders everywhere.

There is no timeline to demarcate when grief, or a stage thereof, is finished. I find myself going back and forth between the different stages. Sometimes, I just get stuck. I do know how important it is to not ignore your feelings. Suppressing only makes the grief last longer. I personally have never gotten to the point where I can just think of the happy times. The last moment of a beloved companion's life is always a part of my thoughts. It does get easier over time and I have experienced that love never dies. When the time is right, you will allow the door to new love to open. Until then, don't worry. Give honor to the life and passing of your loved one through your tears.

I hope that in time your journey to healing will involved peace and harmony in your heart and soul.

Thank you for your words, yes I'm going back and fourth continually its driving me nuts, when my Mom passed I didn't do what I'm doing now. Its difficult too compare the two losses but then it isn't. I had a little creature depending on me and I loved every moment of it, Even when she had her behavioral issues like peeing on men's clothing and in my hair at 4 o'clock in the mornings. Something I'll never forget and how mad I got at her, when all it was, was a territorial issue, I found this out after Dancer passed and all the peeing stopped. The tears have slowed but the pain inside is at a peak that I don't see dwindling at all. This site has brought comfort and understanding others into my world . Hugs too each and every one of you With heartfelt Thanks for your words. Judith PS Its so hard to have days all about me and not including my little Dasher in on these days

[dancer]

To you all, Thank you for all your kindness, too update you my home is very slowly changing regarding Dashers toys dishes beds and all that reminds me of her.. My home is empty, its vacant of the little one I love and miss. I can visit her burial site and say a little prayer. I still walk in circles and look for her. Her pain is gone but mine will be with me forever, I feel selfish not wanting to ever feel this pain again, with all the little ones out there needing love and care. I have no one to come home too no one too love and share kitty bonding time. Time goes by so slow, so painful. Things are changing but not for the better

[moon_beam]

Hi, Judith, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. During the deep grief every minute of every hour of every day seems to emphasize the excruciating reality that our beloved companion is no longer physically with us. Please let me try to reassure you that what you are feeling is very normal deep grief, and I promise you it will not always be this way. But until you feel the weight of your deepest sorrow lifting please know each of us are here for you for as long and as often as you need us to share the not so bad days, the not so good days, and the days when you feel like the burden of your sorrow is more than what you can bear. By ourselves none of us would be able to survive the deepest sorrow of loss. Together we can find strength, encouragement, and hope.

I hope today is treating you kindly, Judith, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Dasher's and Dancer's sweet Living Spirits to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam