My Danny Boy Is Gone, post about my cat Danny's death Options

[moon_beam]

Hi, DannysMom, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. What you are feeling is very normal: "And sometimes I worry about Mindy and think what if I lose another cat". I have felt the same way about my precious Noah. It has taken me 2 years to begin to breathe just a little easier that Noah and I truly do have both quantity and quality time to share together. Losing two beloved companions in a short period of time does make us anxious about the companions who continue on with us.

You are doing "double grief", DannysMom -- for your beloved Danny and Tina. It is very important that you find the time to rest and keep your body nourished - - even if it's just drinking some broth. Grieving takes a lot of energy, and it also takes a serious toll on your immune system.

I hope today is treating you and your precious Mindy kindly, and that you both will have a very peaceful evening. Please know you and your precious Mindy are in my thoughts and prayers, DannysMom, and that I look forward to knowing how you both are doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[DannysMom]

Moon_beam, thank you as always for your support. These past four months have been so difficult for me. Losing Danny was very very painful, and it was compounded by Tina's illness and death. I've been grieving for Danny as well as being a caregiver for my ailing Tina and trying to bond with Mindy. Poor Mindy has been shortchanged in all this.

Danny is still missed, but of course now Tina is in the foreground. Her death was expected, but that didn't make it any easier. Mindy has been comforting me like only the Tuxedos can. She snuggled next to me on the couch last night and rested her soft little head against me and gently touched me with her paws.

[DannysMom]

My sweet Danny boy, I haven't forgotten you. I thought of you right around 3 p.m. on April 28, and I started crying when I remembered the time of your death. Your sweet voice still echoes in my mind. You were always so cheerful, happy, and easy-going. I wish you could have been around for a few more years. Looking at your sweet face always made my heart melt. I know you welcomed Tina, and you must have been so happy to see her again. When I stood there looking out over the marsh on April 28 I felt as if you and Tina were looking down on me. You always cared about Tina, even when she was grumpy.

Oh Danny boy, you gave me so much love and joy. I always appreciated your laid-back personality. You were such a gentle boy cat, and I remember how you enjoyed being brushed. You always purred so much while I brushed you. You were always eager to try out new toys and blankets. I am so glad you came into my life. I miss you and love you.

[moon_beam]

Hi, DannysMom, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing, and your beautiful love letter to your beloved Danny. I can understand what your saying about feeling that your little Mindy has been shortchanged with needing to focus on your beloved Tina's health needs. I felt the same way about Noah - - my little caregiver and nurturer - - always ready to put himself last. I think this is one of the many reasons why I am so honored to dedicate the rest of our lives together just for him. And when the time is right - - when your heart knows you're ready - - you and Mindy will be able to embrace a new family member.

DannysMom, you are so right when you say: "Her (Tina's) death was expected, but that didn't make it any easier." There really is NO WAY you can "prepare" yourself for the physical loss of a loved one. Regardless of the circumstances there will always be the grief adjustment journey to endure. This is one of the many reasons why it is so very important for you to know you are not alone. We are here for you, with you, and beside you, DannysMom, through every step of your journey. And I know your precious Mindy is there with you to comfort you, as you are there for her.

I hope today is being kind to you and your precious Mindy, and that you both will have a very peaceful evening. Please know you and your precious Mindy are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing how you both are doing, and sharing your treasured memories of your beloved Danny and Tina.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[DannysMom]

Moon_beam, thank you as always for your kind words and support. Today it's been 4 months and two weeks since Danny passed on. In the past two weeks my grief for Tina was in the foreground, but I haven't forgotten about Danny. Yesterday, I looked at the beautiful 8X10 photos of Tina and Danny that I put up, and I didn't know who to cry for first, Tina or Danny. I miss them both so very much. They had been companions to me and to each other for so long, and we were a happy little family. No matter how much else went wrong for me, I could always count on Tina and Danny being there. And now they're both gone.

Danny was rarely if every in a bad mood. He was always cheerful, laid-back, and easy-going. He was such a handsome boy kitty, and he had such fluffy, soft cheeks. And super-long whiskers framed his beautiful face. I'll never know why someone didn't want him and put him in a pet shop, but it was such a blessing for me. I often think about how I had that sudden impulse to go inside the pet shop and look at the kittens. They had a glut of kittens there that day, all male cats. But I only had eyes for Danny, who was in a little cage with his brother. It was truly meant to be, and I am so blessed that he came into my life. My little Danny boy taught me so much, and he gave me so much love.

[moon_beam]

Hi, DannysMom, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. During my grief journeys it never ceased to amaze me how time continues on - - doesn't miss a beat - - and I feel how incredibly wrong this is for in my heart I feel the world should stop and acknowledge that a precious life is no longer a part of this earthly world. So I know how it is for you, DannysMom, as you and your little Mindy endure through each of the angel-versaries of your beloved Danny and Tina.

Thank you so very much for sharing your beloved Danny with us. I hope today is treating you and your little Mindy kindly, and that you and your precious little girl will have a very peaceful and cozy evening blessed with the sweet Living Spirits of your beloved Danny and Tina to comfort you. Please know you and your precious little Mindy are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I always look forward to knowing how you and your little Mindy are doing, and your treasured memories of your beloved Danny and Tina.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[DannysMom]

Moon_beam, as always you know just the right words to say: "and I feel how incredibly wrong this is for in my heart I feel the world should stop and acknowledge that a precious life is no longer a part of this earthly world." That is how I feel too. It's been almost 5 months now since Danny passed on, and I still miss him. Last night I cried so much when I thought of him and Tina. I was always so happy with them. They were my babies.

I remember Danny's soft fur, his long whiskers, and those gentle green eyes, and I want to reach out and touch his fur again. He sometimes tried to meow when he yawned, and it made me laugh. I enjoyed taking short naps with him on the bed. In the last few months of his life I was even more drawn to him than usual as if my spirit sensed that the time we had left together was running out. I would sometimes get anxious when he wasn't nearby, and when I found him sweetly napping in the bedroom I would relax. He was there. It was okay.

[moon_beam]

Hi, DannysMom, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. I know how you feel "I would sometimes get anxious when he wasn't nearby, and when I found him sweetly napping in the bedroom I would relax. He was there. It was okay." Everything is right with our world when our companions are physically with us. It is a long road in our adjustment journey when they precede us to the angels.

I hope today is treating you, your precious Mindy and baby girl Shelley kindly, and that you and your precious girls will have a very peaceful and cozy evening blessed with the sweet Living Spirits of your beloved Danny and Tina to comfort you. I thank you for the blessing of your friendship, DannysMom, and of your precious Mindy and baby Shelley. Please know you and your precious girls are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I always look forward to knowing how you and your precious furkids are doing, and your treasured memories of your beloved Danny and Tina.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[DannysMom]

Today marks 5 months since my Danny passed on. I still miss this sweet, big, lovable Tuxedo boy. The pain is still there, even though it has gotten easier to live without his presence. I never thought I would make it this far. The day that Danny died I just wanted to die right along with him. And I had no idea that I would lose my sweet Tina 4 months later. Danny was truly special. He was a very gentle cat, and he brought me so much joy just by being here. My heart aches to much today as I remember him and his last few days on earth. His illness came unexpected and his death hit me very hard. I miss his sweet little face greeting me in the morning. He would just sit on the bed and look at me and wait for me to open my eyes.

[moon_beam]

Hi, DannysMom, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing, and your and your beloved Danny's 5 month angel-versary. As the deep grief eases we do find ourselves wondering however on earth we have "survived" the agonizingly painful reality that our beloved companion(s) are no longer physically with us. When our companions come into our lives we don't think about the many dangers and different circumstances that may physically separate us from them. And rightfully so, for if our hearts were focused on these thoughts we would miss the joy of the precious wonder they share with us every moment of their earthly journey with us.

It is the joy of this precious wonder that sustains us through the seering pain of deep grief, and which embraces our hearts and memories with the eternal love bond we share with them. It is what brings hope to our lives once again and enables us to try to live our earthly journey in a way that will honor them.

You have done this, DannysMom, by embracing the new joy of your precious Mindy - - a gift to you from your beloved Danny who knew the heartache you were feeling when he could not longer be physically with you, as well the heartache that would once again envelope you with as your beloved Tina transitioned home to the angels. I know this Memorial Day is a challenge for you, as it is the first major holiday that both your beloved Danny and Tina are not physically with you. The good news is that they are forever in your heart and your memories, DannysMom - - they are always and forever a heartbeat close to you. I hope this brings some comfort to you on this day of mixed blessings.

Thank you so much for sharing your beloved Danny with us, DannysMom. I hope today is treating you, your precious Mindy and baby girl Shelley kindly, and that you and your precious girls will have a very peaceful, blissful, and cozy evening. Please know you and your precious girls are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I always look forward to sharing your news and your treasured memories of your beloved Danny and Tina.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[xxForeverxx]

Hi DannysMom

I am sorry I missed your 5 month heartache. I hope you are feeling a little better. Its crazy to think how quick time goes. I find myself thinking how is it possible that it has been 5 months already......even more how is it possible I have coped this long. But I think our babies would want us to remember them all the time, still love them, but also be able to carry on with our lives. It must be especially hard for you after losing Tina as well. And I really am so sorry for your losses. I cannot imagine the pain you must be feeling in your heart.

Your Danny was a special boy who was lucky to have you......I am sure you were also lucky to have him too. Now the only thing that can make us happy is to remember all those funny moments we shared with them like when they fall asleep laying in a funny way......the worry moments when they got a tummy ache or hurt their foot........the loving moments when they cuddled up on the sofa or bed next to us purring, happy. Those moments put a smile on my face now and also make me want to give my other cats that life as well.

I hope you are being treated kindly today.

xxForeverxx

[DannysMom]

xxForeverxx, thank you so much for stopping by and for your kind words. Tomorrow it will be six weeks since Tina passed on, and I'm still having a hard time with it. I've had a few crying spells this week, and last night as I drove home from an errand I said to myself:"I'm sure Tina and Danny will be waiting for me." It just slipped out, because I said it to myself so many times while they were alive. It is just so hard to adjust. Mindy and Shelley are little sweeties, but they haven't been with me that long.

My Danny boy was very special indeed. It was on June 6, 2001 that I took him home with me. He was three months old, and he fell asleep in my arm while I was lying in bed. I look at his kitten pictures and I just want to go back in time and hold him again. And you're so right about remembering the funny moments with them. Danny made me laugh so hard one night when he frantically pawed at the teaser that we were playing with. He worked his little paws into such a frenzy when all of a sudden he seemed to be embarrassed and he stopped and hid behind the couch. I remember his sweet voice, and the happy little greetings he used to give me. He was my own first boy kitty, and he'll always have a very special place in my heart.

[moon_beam]

Hi, DannysMom, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. During this grief adjustment journey, particularly during the first year, it seems that every day is an "angel-versary" of something that reminds us of our companions who are now with the angels. Even though we have other precious companions in our hearts and lives this does not diminish the love we continue to share with our beloved companions or the ache in our hearts to have them physically with us. It doesn't mean that we love our precious companions less -- it simply means that our hearts and lives are enduring through one of the hardest experiences we will know on this side of eternity - - adjusting to the physical absence of our beloved companions and establishing a "new normal" that is also a reminder that our lives are now changed.

I am so smiling at your memories of your beloved Danny - - his becoming embarrassed by his "extreme" playfulness. I can just hear him say, "Oh no - - look at me - - this is sooooo "unmanly". Boys don't get silly like this!!!" And I can just hear you say to him, "come back out, my Danny love. It's okay - - don't be embarrassed - - it's okay to play, my love." Please know that when you recall a memory of your beloved Danny your beloved Danny is also sharing the same memory in his heavenly home, and is sending you purrs of eternal love for you as his Forever Mom.

I hope today is treating you, your precious Mindy and baby girl Shelley kindly, my friend, and that you and your precious girls will have a very peaceful and pleasant weekend. I thank you, DannysMom, for your friendship, and of your precious girls. Please know you and your precious furkids are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I always look forward to sharing how you're doing and your treasured memories fo your beloved Danny.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[DannysMom]

Moon_beam, thank you for your kind words. As always, you put it so well. I can't believe it has been 5 1/2 months since my Danny passed on. Grieving for Tina has overshadowed my grief for Danny. Looking at his photos helps. He had such beautiful green eyes, and I always enjoyed looking at his sweet face when he was still alive. I still something think that any minute he'll walk into the room to greet me with one of his cheerful sounds. Just a few days ago I was thinking how I miss that sound of the kitchen cabinet door slamming shut. Danny used to open the cabinet door where the cat food was stored and let it bang shut. He did that to let me know he was hungry. Yesterday, I heard the cabinet door slam shut. It was Shelley. She has never done this before.

[xxForeverxx]

Hi DannysMom

wow what a clever boy your Danny was opening the door and slamming it shut to tell you he wants food!! Ellie sits by her bowl and just stays and looks up at us when its dinner time. Fudge nudges the door with his head but is not as clever as your Danny at actually opening it! I was thinking the other day I wish my cats would meow! I think from being in doors they do not meow much at all......Chewy being an outside cat meowed constantly and sometimes it feels kind of quiet. But I try and look at these things as good things now as we are missing their presence but it is an extra way of showing how special they were in our lives. Danny is probably at the rainbow bridge opening cupboard after cupboard so all the other fur babies up there can get some food!

xxForeverxx

[DannysMom]

xxForeverxx, thanks so much for stopping by and making me smile! I can just imagine Danny opening all the cupboards at the rainbrow bridge! Your Ellie behaves just like my Tina. She would sit quietly by her bowl and just look at me, always being so patient. Your little Fudge sounds like such a clever guy! Maybe in time he will figure out how to "paw" open the door.

One way to get your cats to meow more is to speak "cat" to them, in other words make meow sounds. I do that with Shelley and she responds, but she is a talker anyway. I was trying to get her to say "Ech" the other day, but she can't quite get it right. Tina used to say it all the time, and none of my other cats have ever said it. I have no idea what it means, but it always sounded so funny.

[moon_beam]

Hi, DannysMom, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing, and this wonderful memory of your beloved Danny with the cupboard. This is sooooo clever. And how special that your baby girl Shelley is doing it now - - I am sure beyond all shadow of a doubt that your beloved Danny is coaching her on how to do this!!! I firmly believe that our companions who are now with the angels let us know they are still very much a part of our earthly journey through the behaviors of the precious companions who are sharing their earthly journey with us.

When we lose two, or more, companions so closely together this does enhance and prolong our grief journey. It can feel sometimes that we are grieving one more than the other, and sometimes like we don't really know which one we're grieving for. The bottom line is that our hearts hurt deeply and our lives seem espeically changed and an acute realization that nothing will ever be the same again, even when we have other precious companions in our hearts and lives. Please know that what you are feeling is very normal, DannysMom, and that we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.

I hope today is treating you, your precious Mindy and baby girl Shelley kindly, my friend, and that you and your precious girls will have a very peaceful, blissful, and cozy evening. I thank you, DannysMom, for the blessing of your friendship, and of your precious girls. Please know you and your precious furkids are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I always look forward to sharing how you're doing and your treasured memories fo your beloved Danny.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[DannysMom]

Dear moon_beam, thank you for your comforting words. As always you put it so well and are able to grasp the heart of the matter by saying "can feel sometimes that we are grieving one more than the other, and sometimes like we don't really know which one we're grieving for. The bottom line is that our hearts hurt deeply and our lives seem espeically changed and an acute realization that nothing will ever be the same again, even when we have other precious companions in our hearts and lives. "

That is exactly how I feel! Sometimes I really don't know which one I'm grieving for, although most of the time I see to be grieving more for Tina, yet still I miss my Danny boy. They both gave me so much in their own way, and I loved both of them for what they gave me. Danny was more of a gentle cat, so when I needed some sweet loving and gentleness I would spend time with Danny. I adored his sweet little face with the beautiful green eyes and long whiskers. He was my little prince, and his gentleness and sensitivity made me more sensitive. Danny was always so laid back and easygoing.

[Gretta's Mom]

Dear Danny's mom

For some reason (it is Danny and Tina for sure) my heart told me to read you post from the beginnning. What a wonderful cat is Mr Danny! His beautiful eyes say it all: Mom, I love you. His eyes are still saying the same thing to you. You just can't see them - or hear him opening the cupboard - or cudlle with his tuxedo fur. And that's what hurts us humans SOOOOO much!

Through this site - and wonderful Mother Moon Beam and other people who love and care for me and my Gretta (the kindest chocolate lab who ever lived on earth) - I' come to realize, no, truly BELIEVE that our precious babies live on after they leave this earth. These special animals are are true soul-mates - we each carry a part of each other's souls - sort of like a puzzle piece. They come from the Perfect World (some call it heaven) and search throughout the universe for their one-and-only - the one person on this earth whose soul they hold a piece of. Incredible! They search through all the billions of people on earth and FIND their soul-mate. Then they put themselves in our paths so we meet them and the instant mutual love tells both of us that "this is the one."

Then they live with us, love us, teach us some very important lessons, open up our hearts. And then, Whoever made this universe decided that their life spans would be much shorter than ours. I think this is the "refining fire" that gold has to be put through to be refined into purity. We are put to the supreme test of our love for them - we have to let them go back home. No, we have to SEND them back home - give them the eternal peace and health and youth and everything else perfect - in exchange for, with open eyes and knowing minds, voluntarily and actively take on the worst pain this side of heaven. But, know what? We passed the test - just barely it seems, but we passed. A book I saw reviewed on the net, written by the husband of a vet at the time of the "sending over" of their spirit-animal. He said that at that moment, something deep inside his heart and soul shifted. I think that is a perfect way to describe what happens.

Everyone here understands this because they have experienced it. That's why you never hear "It's only a ____". NO< IT"S NOT! Its a part of MY being. Something inside has shifted. And that's why you'll never hear here "Get over it." Who expects a human amputee to "forget" about the fact the s/he has a limb missing?

As spirits, our spirit-animals CAN be in two places at once - having a "perfect time" in the Perfect World, AND right by our sides as they always were on earth. No, we can't sense them, but that doesn't mean they're not there - on their jobs - watching over us, guiding our steps, teaching us lofe lessons - and, most importantly of all, loving and being loved by us - the "one-and-only".

We'll never be the same - smething has shifted - we'll be the BETTER for it!

Thank you for sharing Danny and Tina with us. Give Mindy and the new kitty some extra love today. And take some special care of yourself, OK?

Blessings and peace,

Gretta's mom

[DannysMom]

Gretta's mom, thank you very much for stopping by and taking the time to read about my sweet Danny boy. Mr. Danny, as I used to call him sometimes, was truly special and taught me so much with his sweet, gentle spirit. He was so gentle that he never even "chattered" at the birds, and he hardly ever hissed.

Thank you so much for your kind words. I too believe I will see my Danny and Tina again one day when my time comes. It is very hard for me having to learn to live without them, even though I have two sweet kitty girls with me, but they're not Tina and Danny.

It is still hard for me to think about the day when I had to let go of my beautiful Danny boy. A part of my heart died with him that day. It was extremely traumatic for me to see him dead, with his eyes still open. I could not get that image out of my mind for weeks, and it still makes me cry today when I think about it. I don't think I shall ever forget it. To this day I cannot even bear to be in that examining room at my vet's office. Thankfully, they have other rooms available. You are so right about something "shifting". Each bond with one of our fur kids is unique and it can't be duplicated. They only pass this way once, leaving unique influences and impressions.

Thanks again for stopping by. Please give Rufus a pat on the head for me!