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 Miss Mew, The pain of losing a 21 year old cat |
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 Oct 3 2004, 08:34 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 38 Joined: 2-October 04 Member No.: 495  |
Reading your many messages of love and support made me realize that I was not alone in my feelings of deep grief. I said goodbye to Miss Mew October 1st 10.15 AM. It was a peaceful passing for her as she was already semi-conscious. Despite her long life I wondered if I could have done something else for her. On Thursday September 29th she went outside at 7.30am and did not return till 4pm. My husband who works from home spent hours looking for her and I was overjoyed when he called me at work to tell me that she had returned. However when I got home that night I realized that this was not just a healing crisis, she was not getting better. That evening , 2 of my other cats, Zoe and Emma got on the bed with The Mew and seemed to be saying goodbye to her and giving her permission to let go. Her appearance and demeanor that last night were kitten like. I put her on our bed that last night but at 6am on Friday morning she had disappeared. I searched the entire house and finally found her asleep , well hidden , curled up in an old planter in the basement. When I picked her up she felt cold and emitted a slight mew. I thought of letting her pass naturally at home but was unsure that she was not in pain so I called Marie Claude the Vet. During the half hour drive to her clinic I watched Miss Mew for any signs of rallying, there were none. In the waiting room I opened the carrier door and stroked her but she pulled away from my hand as if to say "it is time". She weighed just over 4 pounds then but her bravery was astounding. Even though a pet has lived a good long life the leave taking is not any easier . After all this time I started to beleive that Miss Mew was immortal! Then tonight I realized that she was immortal as she lives on in my heart and in the abbreviated story I have shared with you. As well as other cats we also have a beautiful 14 year old German Sheppard named Mik, whom we have been treating for Degenerative Myelopathy for the last year and a half. I dread the day we have to say goodbye to Mik but I hope that Miss Mew is there to guide him and ourselves. Writing this is the first time this weekend that I have not cried, maybe tonight I will rest a little easier. Thank you all for listening.
Nicole |
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Oct 3 2004, 09:40 PM
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Group: Moderators Posts: 776 Joined: 26-February 04 From: Massachusetts, USA Member No.: 245 |
Dear Nicole:
Bless you............Having a beautiful & precious furkitty for 21 years.............  When you said that your two other furbabies, Zoe & Emma, got on the bed with The Mew and seemed to be saying goodbye to her and giving her permission to let go........... I believe that our furbabies have "that ability to 'speak to one another in a language that we don't comprehend'".... And, that's okay. You are right Nicole..............your sweet Miss Mew lives on in your heart and in your mind.........And, there she will remain ALWAYS!!!!! Whether we have a furkitty in our lives for a day or 21 years...............we love them soooooooooo very much............. It really has nothing to do with the amount of time.... I believe that. My girl Ernestine was born in April, 1984 and we had to have her put to sleep in February 7, 2004.... Two months shy of her 20th birthday................. She was my best friend...... Ben and I..........we don't have any "human children"..... But, I couldn't be happier that our sweet Ernestine is over Rainbow's Bridge with sooooooooo many friends.....,,, and that she is living a life without pain..... Nothing at all could make me happier............ I will ask my beautiful Ernestine that she please introduce herself to your beloved Miss Mew, so that they can become friends.............. You surely cannot have too many...... They were both "geriatric kitties", so I'm sure they have lots of stories to tell!!  With regard to your beautiful Mik...................Love Him with everything that you have...... Kisses, hugs, loves, special treats.......... Spoil him rotten!!!!!  You do not "yet" have to say "Goodbye" to him............so please, give him all the LOVE THAT YOU CAN....BECAUSE HE IS STILL HERE...............HE IS STILL WITH YOU..... You will not hear it here...................BUT, DO NOT LISTEN TO ANYONE WHO MIGHT SAY, "WELL, YOU HAD MISS MEW FOR 21 YEARS......................WHAT MORE DO YOU WANT??????" My reply would be, "I wanted another 21 years, thank you!!!"..... But, please Nicole, know that you are in my heart and in my thoughts, for I know the pain you are going through..... Please, write as much as you want to Lightning Strike............ You will meet so many wonderful people on this journey....... Your sweet Miss Mew................she hasn't really GONE ANYWHERE.............she is still with you, though in a different form.............Just close your eyes and, as you meditate, talk to her............. She'll hear you.... And, forever, she'll be right on your shoulder..... God Bless!! Love, Denise -------------------- Our Beloved Girl, Ernestine (AKA) "Ernie-Bird"
April, 1984 - February 7, 2004 ***AFFA*** Forever, you will ALWAYS live on in our hearts! DEPARTED FROM EARTH, NEVER FORGOTTEN.... Love, Mom & Dad xoxoxoxoxo ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* "He who is cruel to animals becomes hard also in his dealings with men. We can judge the heart of a man by his treatment of animals." Immanuel Kant "Think occasionally of the suffering of which you spare yourself the sight" Albert Schweitzer |
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Oct 3 2004, 10:02 PM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 366 Joined: 18-May 04 Member No.: 340 |
Dear Nicole,
What a wonderful post. I agree Miss Mew knew it was "time". You made it so much better by taking Mew to the vet for the end. What a lovely time Mew is now having at the rainbow bridge with all our pets! I am so sorry that you lost Mew--but glad that you were there to ease the way for your wonderful companion of so many years! {{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}} Love, Patti -------------------- Ginger was part Norwegian Forest Cat. When I first took him in he was a meanie, so his full name was "Gingersnap", and I did not change his name after I learned she was a he.
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Oct 3 2004, 11:20 PM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 281 Joined: 24-August 04 Member No.: 448 |
I so sorry to hear of your loss of Miss Mew. I'm glad you had 21 long, happy years together. The time we have with our pets is never long enough and somehow most of us do seem to think they are immortal.
When we lose them there is a huge void left in our hearts. Learning to cope with the loss is a long hard road. I fully understand and share your pain and I hope you will continue to come here on talk about your loss as much as you need to. You're in my thoughts, __Jim -------------------- "Daddies Little Man"
September 22, 1992 -- August 18, 2004 |
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Oct 4 2004, 04:00 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 234 Joined: 23-June 04 Member No.: 379 |
I am sorry for your loss. You were blessed to have had her for such a lovely long time. You are right that Miss Mew is immortal. You have a pawprint-sized hole in your heart now. She was loved for a long time and she loved back - that is what truly matters.
Dee Dee |
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Oct 6 2004, 05:03 PM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 47 Joined: 29-September 04 Member No.: 492 |
Hi Nicole,
I'm sorry for your loss. 21 years may be a good, long life for a cat, but it's still far too short a time when we have to say goodbye to them. -- Daryl |
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Oct 6 2004, 07:13 PM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 353 Joined: 3-October 04 Member No.: 496 |
I'm so sorry for your loss Nicole. I'm sure Miss Mew hung in there as long as she could. You gave her such a good life, and you gave her a dignified peaceful end. Her memories will always be yours to cherish. As you share your stories of her life, you'll share her wonderful memory with others too.
God Bless You! Cheri -------------------- Rachael Ann
November 18, 1992 - October 2, 2004 My best friend, my daughter, my life |
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Oct 7 2004, 06:41 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 59 Joined: 7-October 04 Member No.: 504 |
Im so sorry for your loss, it sounds like you did everything right, everything you could
How lucky your cat was to have you |
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Oct 9 2004, 06:34 AM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 107 Joined: 21-August 04 Member No.: 445 |
Im so sorry to hear about youre loss of missmew when i read youre post it made me cry you sayin about her sayin goddbye and moving away from the bed and everythign it made me upset to, You loved her for 21 years and that love well still carry on even though she isnt here in her body she is here everywhere else, i know how much youre hurting and how upset you are.
I hope missmew and victor and every other pet our friends togther. Love jaymie x |
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Oct 13 2004, 11:11 PM
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 Group: Moderators Posts: 845 Joined: 24-March 04 From: Maine Member No.: 274 |
Nicole,
I'm so sorry for your loss! You and your husband did all the right things, and Miss Mew knows how very much you loved and love her. She's without any physical or emotional pain, in total bliss. And you'll be reunited!Keep writing. You're in my thoughts and prayers! Love, Kathy P.S. Mama Cat, you're in my thoughts and prayers too. I just send you an email. -------------------- Compassion for all animals. www.earthlings.com
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