Sudden Death Of My Little Girl Options

[moon_beam]

"I still see the image of her after she was hit by the car and when the doctor brought her to us in a blanket to say our good byes to her."

Hi, Joanne, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing, and your and Zoe's 8 month angel-versary. I can so relate to the trauma of your last visual memory of your beloved Zoe, for different traumatic reasons. I promise you that in time the seering pain of this memory will decrease. With my particular situation I did not believe that horror of my experience would ever ease, but through the years it has. The memory is still there - - but the pain associated with it has eased. I hope in time you will be able to say the same thing.

I hope today is treating you kindly, Joanne, and thank you so much for sharing your beloved Zoe with us. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[JoanneL]

Today is Zack's 4th birthday and would have been Zoe's 4th also. I have been singing to him and actually was able to look at the little box where Zoe's cremains are. I wished her a Happy Birthday too. I so wish she was still here with me. It is so different with the dynamics between Zack and Kasper. Life had gotten so much easier since we had been well past the puppy stage with them. They were very comfortable with each other.

I know that "If wishes were horses then beggers would ride" but I wish I could turn back the clock. So many other members here wish the same thing. "If only.,.." Well I am grateful for Kasper and Zack. One day they will learn to live in harmony. Kasper is back in school. He started an intermediate class today but I could not get there. My husband took him. I will be working the next 2 Sat and we will both miss class the week after that. Kasper is fine around the house but skittish with other dogs. He needs to be around dogs other than Zack.

Going to the cemetary tomorrow to wish my father a Happy 100th birthday. He has been gone for 10 years and would have turned 100 last Wed. The weather has been cold and gloomy and I could really use some warm sun. Maybe it won't rain tomorrow.

Anyway, have a peaceful rest of the weekend. Hope you are doing well.

[moon_beam]

Hi, Joanne, thank you for sharing with us how you, Zack, and Kasper are donig, and for sharing your beloved Zoe's birthday with us. I'm so glad you have Zack with you, for in a way your precious Zack is still a physical connection to your beloved Zoe.

I hope the weather is being kind to you as you visit your dad's resting place today. It has turned cold and gloomy here in Virginia this weekend - - a preview to the upcoming events of autumn and winter. I'm already looking forward to spring.

Thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing, Joanne. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and always look forward to knowing how you're doing whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[JoanneL]

What a crazy weather day! We have had an earthquake, hurricane and now snow storm before Halloween. Very strange weather.

I wanted to post an update. I retired from work yesterday. I have been working for over 35 years with very little time for me. I am looking forward to taking care of me, dogs and the house. Husband doesn't need caretaking, thankfully. Things are getting better with time. I still miss Zoe and get teary every now and then but not as often. Kasper still has so many of the same qualities she had and Zack is nothing like her even though he was her brother.

Maybe now I can stop by and see how everyone else here is doing.

Take care and stay warm if you are in a cold place tonight.

Joanne

[moon_beam]

Hi, Joanne, thank you so very much for sharing with us how you're doing. Congratulations on your retirement from employment!!! I specify that because you are not retiring from life - - just reappropriating your time from what you were doing working. I wish you the very best, Joanne.

Watching Kasper grow and seeing his personality develop similar to your beloved Zoe is one of Zoe's ways of letting you know she is still with you -- forever with you - - and I hope you are finding comfort in this. It is not uncommon for siblings to be opposites of one another - - as they compliment one another's personality. Niether Kasper nor Zack will ever replace the part of your heart that belongs only to your beloved Zoe. They each have their own special place in your heart, and your beloved Zoe is so glad they are with you to offer you comfort and joy.

Thank you again so much for sharing your good news with us, Joanne. I hope today is treating you and your precious Zack and Kasper kindly. Please know you and your precious furkids are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing how things are going for you and sharing your treasured memories of your beloved Zoe whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[JoanneL]

Thanks for your good wishes on my retirement. So much of the stress has gone from my days. Still having back pain but at least now I can take care of myself.

We have just passed the 10 month date of Zoe's tragic death. I still cry when I see her picture but don't cry as often as I used to. Trying to train Kasper-he is so nervous and fearful when out of the house or when other people come in to visit. We are taking him to classes to socialize him and he is a little better. He and Zack can now curl up together on the couch without Zack giving him a fit. He still follows Zack and looks up to him-so cute.

Hope everyone is well. Thinking of all of you and wishing you peace.

Joanne

[moon_beam]

Hi, Joanne, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. I'm so glad retirement is giving you some benefit to your health in reducing the stress levels. This by itself is a soo oo good.

I'm glad Kasper is doing well with his classes, and that Zack is becoming more tolerant of his little brother. This, too, will help reducing the stress levels for you.

I know how difficult the angel-versaries are, Joanne. I hope you feel your beloved Zoe reaching across the veil of physical separation continuing to fill your heart with her eternal love.

Thank you again for sharing with us how you're doing, Joanne. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how things are going for you whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[Juturna]

Hi Joanne,

Congratulations on your retirement! That is a huge transition after working for so many years. I hope your back pain improves.

My thoughts are with you on the 10 month angel-versary of your precious little girl. Though time helps to ease the pain, it does not take it away.

Glad to learn that Kasper and Zack have become friends. Hope the classes continue to help.

Wishing you a peaceful Thanksgiving.
With gratitude,
Lynne

[CarissaP]

so sorry for your pain. its awful people telling you not just get another one. she was a person and to grieve her like the person she was to you might help give her death some meaning and dignity but i can't image how you must feel. i hope your partner too was as attached and can help each other with pain

[JoanneL]

11 months today since we lost Zoe.

I cried for her again last night when I remembered the date. We had been out celebrating several family birthdays and I was up late. Once I realized it was after midnight I started thinking about Zoe again. Of course I think about her every day but it is true that the special dates still make it harder to deal with her loss. She will always be in my heart and I will always wish she had been with us longer.

Wanted to stop by and share with any of you here who might read this post. Things do get easier. I am never sorry that we got Kasper so soon after Zoe's death. He is so funny and sweet but also a challenge trying to socialize. Things are just different. Zack does not treat him the way he treated Zoe and Kasper, of course, has his own personality and will try to stir things up with Zack almost every evening. He is still only a puppy and wants to play with Zack.
Hope every one here is doing as well as possible. The holidays are a hard time for people in grief so the next few weeks will probably be a challenge.

Wishing everyone a blessed holiday season.

[moon_beam]

Hi, Joanne, thank you so very much for sharing with us how you're doing. Yes, the angel-versaries are a challenge particularly when our heart is still so ever mindful of special events.

I'm glad to know Kasper is finding his own special place in your heart. Your beloved Zoe is very proud of you for giving him a loving home. If it's any consolation to you, when I was taking care of my mom, we found ourselves adopting a feral kitten who kept my mom company while I was at work during the day, and they bonded very closely together. A couple of years later my mom proceeded to convince me that we needed a dog, too, which at first I was not thrilled because I felt I didn't have time between a job and taking care of my mom to give the dog adequate attention, nor did we have the finances. But I relented and never regretted it as we were blessed with our mixed Lab / Border Collie puppy whom we named Samson. Holly, my mom's cat, was thoroughly disgusted that a "dog" had come into her domain and proceeded to heckle the dickens out of him for two years - - which is the length of time it took her to realize that "the dog" was in her home to stay. They eventually became very good friends. I'm hoping that this will be the case with your Zack and Kasper, too.

Thank you again so very much for sharing with us how you are doing, Joanne. I hope you and your family will have a very blessed holiday season. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I always look forward to sharing your news and your treasured memories of your beloved Zoe.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam