Feeling Guilty Options

[smokey/lady/max]

Hello To Everyone
I am feeling sooo guilty that I put my max to sleep last week. I cant eat cant sleep and I just want to go back in time to change my decission. I went through this 3 1/2 years ago with my smokey but he did live to be 14 and this time my max was only 7 and I feel I didnt give him a chance to fight for life. Max was diagnosed with a mass on his spleen and he was bleeding from his rectum. The vet was 95 percent sure it was cancer and said that she could take a needle and asperate to make sure but either way his slpeen would have to be removed and that it was a magor surgery and he could maybe not make it. He was in alot of pain 2 days prior to taking him to the vet. He could barely walk . She said she could give him steriods to give me some quilty time with him for the holidays. My husband ask would the out come be the same she said yes it would just buy me some more time with him. At that momement I just didnt want him to suffer. Now I feel like I didn't give him that oppritunity to still be here. I guess in my mind he still was eating and he was so healthy aweek before we noticed he wasnt feeling good. He was always so chipper and love to play and the last 5 days of his life he was in pain. It just breakes my heart that he is gone now. I lay in bed and just sob out loud asking him to forgive me for killing him. I know in my heart he is freed from pain but I wish I could free mine. The only day I felt good was the day I went back to get him. I was going to have him cremated but then couldnt bring myself to do that so I went and brought his body home and burried him with my Smokey and lady. I got max for my smokey because he greived our lady when we had to put her down so I got max for him. I swore when this day would come I would not let myself get like this again and here I am. I visited this site quite a bit the first year my smokey passed but could never bring myself to reach out. For some reason this time it has really been effecting me. I want to thank all of you who care this much for others suffering to be on this site to express thier love for our pets and our pain. The loss of a pet to me is worse then the loss of a family memebr. They are the most loyal and loving thing in our lives. More so then our spouse or anyone. I know in my heart that there is a heaven for them I experineced something so special when my smokey died this is a true story. When he passed I started searching different web sites and came across the rainbow bridge the day that I found it when I went out back and looked up at the graves of my lady and smokey there was a double rainbow right above where they are burried. I have pictures of it. I had in my 51 years never seen a double rainbow. I felt at that momement it was my smokey telling me he was at the rainbow bridge with his lady waiting for me. It was literaly right after I had read the rainbow poem I went out to talk to him and seen the rainbows. If anyone could tell me how to post the rainbows pictures since I am new at this and I am not even sure I am doing this post right. Well I am going to try to post this and hope that it works because I sure could use a friend who understands my loss.

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[janika]

Hi Smokey/Lady/Max

So glad that you have posted on this topic board. I got your posting as a personal message and so I have replied to your message. It Should be in your inbox.

I feel so sad for you, but understand the heartache that you are going through. It seems unbearable I know. There are so many caring people on here who understand our loss. I am sure they will comfort you as they have me.
Like me, and many friends on here, you believe that our darlings are still with us, but in a place where they will not suffer. They would not want us to suffer, it would make them sad.
Thinking of you

Love and hugs
Jan xx

[madi]

Hi smokey/lady/max

There is not many people here who don't suffer from the guilts, it seems to be a whole big part of the grieving process, I thought it was just me at first. When I read what you say about Max's condition, it leaves little doubt in my mind that you had absolutely no choice. Cancer at that stage, with his symptoms of pain is usually fatal and to have put him through surgery with a small survival rate would only have prolonged his suffering. You know in your head you made the right desicion, but it's your heart you're having trouble with, it's broken and it has to heal and boy, that takes time. I know that terrible devasting feeling of loss when you lose a beloved pet baby and my heart goes out to you. I don't know what it is with pets, it's the unconditional love and devotion they give I would think. I have lost family members and been grief stricken and felt all the normal symptoms of loss, the depression, the crying etc, but I'm a bit ashamed to say, I coped without having to take medication, whereas when my baby Ulriich was killed I had severe depression and had to go on medication because I could not sleep or eat at all and I'm still on them six months later. Go figure. You will get heaps of help here, but I'm not the one to help you with posting photos, I haven't mastered it myself yet, but Jan and Dottie with help I'm sure. Hugs and love to you.

madi xx

[smokey/lady/max]

Thank you for your kind words you are absolutly right in my mind I did what I thought was best but in my heart it was wrong.

[AngelCareOne]

Hello To Everyone

I am feeling sooo guilty that I put my Max to sleep last week. I can't eat can't sleep and I just want to go back in time to change my decision. I went through this 3 1/2 years ago with my Smokey but he did live to be 14 and this time my Max was only 7 and I feel I didn't give him a chance to fight for life. Max was diagnosed with a mass on his spleen and he was bleeding from his rectum. The vet was 95 percent sure it was cancer and said that she could take a needle and aspirate to make sure but either way his spleen would have to be removed and that it was a major surgery and he could maybe not make it.

He was in a lot of pain 2 days prior to taking him to the vet. He could barely walk . She said she could give him steroids to give me some quality time with him for the holidays. My husband asked would the out come be the same. She said yes it would just buy me some more time with him. At that moment I just didn't want him to suffer. Now I feel like I didn't give him that opportunity to still be here. I guess in my mind he still was eating and he was so healthy a week before we noticed he wasn't feeling good. He was always so chipper and loved to play and the last 5 days of his life he was in pain.

It just breaks my heart that he is gone now. I lay in bed and just sob out loud asking him to forgive me for killing him. I know in my heart he is freed from pain but I wish I could free mine. The only day I felt good was the day I went back to get him. I was going to have him cremated but then couldn't bring myself to do that so I went and brought his body home and buried him with my Smokey and Lady. I got Max for my Smokey because he grieved our Lady when we had to put her down so I got Max for him. I swore when this day would come I would not let myself get like this again and here I am.

I visited this site quite a bit the first year my Smokey passed but could never bring myself to reach out. For some reason this time it has really been affecting me. I want to thank all of you who care this much for others suffering to be on this site to express their love for our pets and our pain. The loss of a pet to me is worse then the loss of a family member. They are the most loyal and loving thing in our lives. More so then our spouse or anyone. I know in my heart that there is a heaven for them. I experienced something so special when my Smokey died. This is a true story. When he passed I started searching different web sites and came across the Rainbow Bridge. The day that I found it when I went out back and looked up at the graves of my Lady and Smokey there was a double rainbow right above where they are buried I have pictures of it. I had in my 51 years never seen a double rainbow. I felt at that moment it was my Smokey telling me he was at the Rainbow Bridge waiting for me. It was literally right after I had read the rainbow poem that I went out to talk to him and seen the rainbows. If anyone could tell me how to post the rainbows pictures since I am new at this and I am not even sure I am doing this post right. Well I am going to try to post this and hope that it works because I sure could use a friend who understands my loss.

Dearest Smokey/Lady/Max, please accept my deepest condolences.

This will be my first post to you and I promise to come back and offer you more help. Of course, I'll be honored to find a double rainbow for you and post it here so you'll see your precious Fur Kid Angels each time you come to visit. Let's take this slowly. You said you had just read about The Rainbow Bridge poem when you saw that double rainbow for the first time in your 51 years. Yes, that was a sign, Dear One. A wonderful sign from Max and your other Angel Fur Kids. Please believe that. What I'd like you to do now is to turn up the volume on your computer and click on the link below the photo of all the beloved pets at The Rainbow Bridge. A new window will pop up for you. Please wait for the short loading time, then click where it says, "Click to Begin." Here you go ...

Smokey/Lady/Max: Please Click Here

My apologies for needing to post to you slowly and in stages since my PC is very overworked at this time so I need to reboot, perform maintenance and will come back. When I return then I'll offer you more information that validates how you're feeling, that you're not alone and where I lead you will also help you to cope with those gosh awful feelings of guilt, the "what ifs" and so on. I assure you that you did do exactly the right thing at the right time for your cherished Angel Fur Kid Max. Do you know how to check people's profiles? If so, please check mine and you'll know I speak from a wealth of experience.

Please know that you, Max and all your Angel Fur Kids are in my thoughts and prayers.

Many Comforting Rainbow Bridge Hugs!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

PS. I will be back to offer more help and solace. Please hang in there. Hugs!!!

[smokey/lady/max]

Thank you soooo much Dottie I did take pictures of the double rainbow that day over the tree where my smokey and lady where burried but I do not know how to post it here. Maybe you can help teach me how to post a photo. Thank god for giving us our fur babies and thank them for having this site created for us. Without us having them in our lives there would be no such site as this. The pain and guilt this time seems to be so much stronger this time.

Lots of love for everyones support
Anna

[Brutus]

oh Anna...I so understand...when we euathanized Brutus 3 weeks and 2 days ago I was sure that my decision was right...but as they were doing it I cried in agony begging Brutus to forgive me...I so understand...even now I have those moments of feeling that the timing of my decision was not right...he still ate good, and would try to play alittle at times. My vet hugged me and said, why are you sorry, Brutus is thanking you right now. No one can tell you if the time was right and only you know...and you DID KNOW, that's exactly why you made the choice to help Max to the bridge...it is the most unselfish decision one can make and when you made it you were right...it is human nature to question yourself now. I know this because Dottie helped me through the same thing...and like I said I still question myself at times, but I keep telling myself that Brutus would not want to suffer and neither would Max.

We are all here for you,
Hugs,
Brutus' Mom

[AngelCareOne]

Hi again Ann,

I received your PM and did respond. Bless you! Here's what I perceive as what's going on with you at this particular point in time because what happened with Max is all still so fresh and raw in your heart. And, so many times our hearts speak a lot louder than our heads. Right now, your world is shattered and you can't eat or sleep. You're feeling terrible grief, guilt and devastation. You've got really bad case of the "what ifs" and "if only's" and ...

Those will eat you up and spit you out. You will be affected emotionally and physically as well. Let me give you the direct links to some posts here at LS in Pet Loss Support Resources and Articles area. All will validate what you're feeling, experiencing, plus help you to cope. And, they are authored by Veterinarians and Doctors who specialize in the emotions of Pet Loss. Do take your time since these posts are permanent so not going anywhere.

Here are the links ...

Your Fur Child Loss Devastation - You Are Not Going "Insane" Emotions and Behavior Caused By Pet Loss

Grief & the Loss of a Pet

This Web site gives phone numbers and times of day to call and speak with live professionals. The names of the states are up at the top. Click on them to get the information I just mentioned ...

Pet Bereavement Support Groups

You may want to try this. It works and helps millions of people ...

How To Heal When You Have Lost A Pet: Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Healing Sessions

Light A Candle Online. It Is Free. Please Read.

A Different Way To View Suffering from George Anderson

NOTE: Click on "A Place For Us" in the following Link ...

A Place For Us - Why They're Not Really Gone by Terri Onorato

Take your time. Okay? Please know that you and your Angel Fur Kids are in my thoughts and prayers as I wing many loving Angels to soothe and gently guide you through this most difficult time in your life. Please come back and talk as often as you're able to speak with like minded people such as all of us here at LS. Talk about your feelings, about your Angel Fur Kids or talk directly to them. Anytime day or night. It's by sharing and caring that we help each other to find that Healing Path. You are a Wonderful Fur Kid Mommy! Please never forget that. Remember what I told you about taking baby steps and being kind to you.

I Wish You Peace!

Many Comforting Hugs to You and Your Angel Fur Kid Max!!!



Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

[sweetmissy]

Hi smokey/lady/max,

I haven't been on this site since my beloved Missy passed away unexpectedly from bloat a year ago. I have a friend who visits the site once in a while and she passed your post on to me since I was in a similar situation as yours just a couple of months ago. I just had to respond to your post and tell you first, that I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your Max. The pain we feel from losing a furry companion is far too overwhelming and something that others do not understand. Secondly, I want to tell you that you did the right thing by putting Max to sleep. It is not a selfish act and something that you should not feel guilty about. Max is free from his pain now and will be with you in spirit until you meet again.

Here is my story. I hope that it helps at least a bit.

Back in the beginning of September, my 13 year old Aussie/Border Collie Mix Buddy had a little diarrhea and I noticed there was blood in it. I figured it was a case of colitis so I called my vet and was hoping to get in for some meds. Little did I think that it was going to turn into something major. My vet gave him an exam and told me that there was a mass on his colon about 1-2 inches. He suspected cancer right away and was 98% sure. He immediately told me that it was inoperable and if we did go in b/c of the area where it was located, there was a chance that we would lose Buddy on the table. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. This was Buddy, okay so he had arthritis, but he was the healthiest dog I had ever owned. I was in shock. The vet gave me some meds for the diarrhea and then said I could come back in five days to see if the mass had grown or stayed the same size, and if it had, it was a bad sign. I left. About four days later, Buddy was still bleeding from his rectum so I took him back in. The mass was still the same. My vet said that we would have to make the decision to euthanize..that there was nothing else we could do. I wasn't ready and he didn't think Buddy was in any pain so he told me that when I time came, I would know. He wanted me to be ready so that there were no regrets.

I went home and took care of Buddy. He was acting totally normal with the exception of the little bit of blood coming from his rectum. He was eating fine, drinking, playing, barking, nothing was out of the ordinary. I didn't believe he was sick. He was still bleeding so I made the decision to take him to a Specialist. I needed a second opinion before any drastic measures were taken. I was referred to one of the best clinics in IL which was about two hours away. I made the appointment and went in. The vet that I saw was very nice and caring. She examed Buddy and told me that the mass was very unusual and she also suspected that it was cancer. She did say that they could go in and remove it, but she also said that Buddy would be incontinent and that he still would bleed when going to the bathroom. She didn't think the outcome would help any of us. She said I could put diapers on him in the meantime and that I should consider putting him to sleep if I wasn't going to go ahead with the surgery. She was very honest with me. She said that Buddy wasn't in any pain other than when he tried to go to the bathroom so she told me to wait. I decided that I would not go ahead with the surgery since Buddy was 13, had arthritis and I just didn't want to put him throught that. I was going to wait it out and enjoy the time with him, and that's what I did. The Specialist had said it would probably be a few weeks before I saw anything else like lack of appetite or being distant. I had a trip planned to NY for a wedding during that time so I went and the day I came back was the day Buddy went to the Rainbow Bridge. My husband kept telling me that he was fine while I was gone and when I returned, he was very thin, he had stopped eating, was bleeding a bit more and just didn't look good. We said goodbye and it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do, but I know it was the right thing. Buddy had lived a good life with us and was ready to move on. We adopted him eight years ago from a shelter in Cali and he was 5 and we gave him the best life. He really was a very happy dog. I think about him every day and wish he was still with us. He is in spirit and I have his ashes in a beautiful box with a picture of him staring right at us. I will love him forever as I will my Missy who I lost last November.

I hope this story makes you feel better. Max is in a good place and appreciates all that you have done for him. He knows that he will never be forgotten and will visit you from time to time. I'm sure that rainbox that you described will show itself again again and again. Please take care of yourself, Kristin

[smokey/lady/max]

Hi smokey/lady/max,

I haven't been on this site since my beloved Missy passed away unexpectedly from bloat a year ago. I have a friend who visits the site once in a while and she passed your post on to me since I was in a similar situation as yours just a couple of months ago. I just had to respond to your post and tell you first, that I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your Max. The pain we feel from losing a furry companion is far too overwhelming and something that others do not understand. Secondly, I want to tell you that you did the right thing by putting Max to sleep. It is not a selfish act and something that you should not feel guilty about. Max is free from his pain now and will be with you in spirit until you meet again.

Here is my story. I hope that it helps at least a bit.

Back in the beginning of September, my 13 year old Aussie/Border Collie Mix Buddy had a little diarrhea and I noticed there was blood in it. I figured it was a case of colitis so I called my vet and was hoping to get in for some meds. Little did I think that it was going to turn into something major. My vet gave him an exam and told me that there was a mass on his colon about 1-2 inches. He suspected cancer right away and was 98% sure. He immediately told me that it was inoperable and if we did go in b/c of the area where it was located, there was a chance that we would lose Buddy on the table. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. This was Buddy, okay so he had arthritis, but he was the healthiest dog I had ever owned. I was in shock. The vet gave me some meds for the diarrhea and then said I could come back in five days to see if the mass had grown or stayed the same size, and if it had, it was a bad sign. I left. About four days later, Buddy was still bleeding from his rectum so I took him back in. The mass was still the same. My vet said that we would have to make the decision to euthanize..that there was nothing else we could do. I wasn't ready and he didn't think Buddy was in any pain so he told me that when I time came, I would know. He wanted me to be ready so that there were no regrets.

I went home and took care of Buddy. He was acting totally normal with the exception of the little bit of blood coming from his rectum. He was eating fine, drinking, playing, barking, nothing was out of the ordinary. I didn't believe he was sick. He was still bleeding so I made the decision to take him to a Specialist. I needed a second opinion before any drastic measures were taken. I was referred to one of the best clinics in IL which was about two hours away. I made the appointment and went in. The vet that I saw was very nice and caring. She examed Buddy and told me that the mass was very unusual and she also suspected that it was cancer. She did say that they could go in and remove it, but she also said that Buddy would be incontinent and that he still would bleed when going to the bathroom. She didn't think the outcome would help any of us. She said I could put diapers on him in the meantime and that I should consider putting him to sleep if I wasn't going to go ahead with the surgery. She was very honest with me. She said that Buddy wasn't in any pain other than when he tried to go to the bathroom so she told me to wait. I decided that I would not go ahead with the surgery since Buddy was 13, had arthritis and I just didn't want to put him throught that. I was going to wait it out and enjoy the time with him, and that's what I did. The Specialist had said it would probably be a few weeks before I saw anything else like lack of appetite or being distant. I had a trip planned to NY for a wedding during that time so I went and the day I came back was the day Buddy went to the Rainbow Bridge. My husband kept telling me that he was fine while I was gone and when I returned, he was very thin, he had stopped eating, was bleeding a bit more and just didn't look good. We said goodbye and it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do, but I know it was the right thing. Buddy had lived a good life with us and was ready to move on. We adopted him eight years ago from a shelter in Cali and he was 5 and we gave him the best life. He really was a very happy dog. I think about him every day and wish he was still with us. He is in spirit and I have his ashes in a beautiful box with a picture of him staring right at us. I will love him forever as I will my Missy who I lost last November.

I hope this story makes you feel better. Max is in a good place and appreciates all that you have done for him. He knows that he will never be forgotten and will visit you from time to time. I'm sure that rainbox that you described will show itself again again and again. Please take care of yourself, Kristin

[smokey/lady/max]

Thank you Kristin for your kind words. I appreciate every single post that I recieve and I know my max thanks everyone for careing so much about me. I know he has a paw in all the careing words comming my way.

Lots Of Love
Anna

[smokey/lady/max]

another sad and lonely day without my boy. This quilt just wont stop its eating at me like his cancer was him. I prey every night for answers and try to find some peace in ending his life so young.

Just very depressed of my decission

[janika]

Anna
Please know that I am thinking of you and your precious Max.
We all love our darlings so much that at the crucial time we have to do what we think is best for them. The cruellest thing is to let them suffer. The guilt and the questioning come to us all after, we will never feel that we did the right thing.They can't tell us what they want us to do so we have to take on that responsibilty. Letting them go before they suffer is the most loving thing to do, Living without them is the hardest.
Sending Love and hugs
Jan x

[Brutus]

Hugs Anna..please do not feel guilty..you did the right thing..I know how hard it is..hang in there.

Brutus' Mom

[smokey/lady/max]

Thank you Jan and Sonya. I am trying to cope I spend most of time in my room in bed. I did call the vet today and talked to her for awhile but nothing seems to ease this pain. This all just doesn't seem real but I know it is. I appreciate your thoughts of my loss.

Anna

[Brutus]

Anna...be easy on yourself, it hasn't been that long..you need time and take as much as you need. I know what you mean about not seeming real...it's been almost a month and sometimes I still am in denial. They are with us so much that it doesn't seem real when they are not...it's like they should be in the other room or something. I've actually called for Brutus outside about a week ago when I was calling for my other two dogs. A couple weeks ago I actually laughed for the first time since that dreadful day...I actually felt guilty for laughing, how could I possibly laugh, I felt like I didn't have the right. But we do have a right and Max would want you to be happy and laughing.

On a different note...I see you are from Pittsburgh...me too...moved to MI about 12 years ago. I was from Moon Twp by the airport and my husband was from Etna. His parents still live there. Its a beautiful city. I miss the hills sometimes. Do yinz...lol...follow the Steelers? We are die-hard steeler fans but pretty disappointed with them lately...we may need to start rooting for the Detroit Lions. I could really go for a steak salad from Eat-n-Park at times or a sandwich from primanti brothers.

Sending Hugs for you and your angel Max,
Brutus' Mom

[smokey/lady/max]

Thanks Sonya I forced myself to go shopping with my son for his boys and it was just awful nothing seems to help I feelnlike I just want to be by myself. Christmas has always been my favorite holiday but this year I am not even going to pu t up a tree. Just cant find it in my heart to do anything. I live in washington pa oringinaly from Baltimore been here 17 years now. It was hard adjusting moving here from such a big city. Yes the steelers are a big disapointment but really not depressing since I already have that. Well thank you for your kindness

Anna

[AngelCareOne]

No I am not upbeat at all. I can hardly function. The reason I can write on here is because I know everyone is experiencing the same pain which makes it easier to express our feelings. Others don't understand. I have totally isolated myself. I had to call the vet yesterday and I was a total wreck. She was kind to talk to me but I felt no better. I just want my baby back even if it was just going to be for the holidays.

I really am hating myself more as the days go. There will be no tree and there will be no happiness at this home. That's for sure. Everyone keeps telling me that I need to do something. Well, I tried today to go with my son shopping and my heart wasn't in it. My son is 33 and all he did the whole time was, "Mom cheer up." And, all I did was cry.

I am not looking forward to when the weather gets nice since my boy just loved to go out and lay and sun bath by the pool. I can't get past the moment and I am dreading the future. I am so glad you brought your sheppie home. That was the only day I truly felt good. I was going to have him cremated but then couldn't so I went back 2 days later and brought him home. I held him and felt at peace knowing he was home.

Everyday since it just gets worse. I talk to an empty spot on the floor at night and tell him I know you're laying there and how much I love him. I guess Max was my little rock for me when I put my Smokey down 3 years ago and, believe me, I suffered with him after having spent 14 years with him. Max filled that void and became my crutch. I guess I miss all the love he provided me with. I poured all my heart and sorrow out to him and now he is gone. Well, having another tough moment so I will talk to you later. Hang in there and I will try to do the same. I guess we don't have any other choice.

Hugs from one broken heart to another
Anna

Dearest Ann,

You are not alone. It helps so much to know you are not alone. Hugs!!!

By the way, my "loss" took place October 16, 2007. Please begin with my post #34 at Sheppie's thread. You'll find the post numbered in the very upper right of each post. Please click on what I sent to her. Here's the direct link to Sheppie's thread so you don't have to hunt it down ...

http://lightning-strike.com/forum/index.ph...c=5589&st=0

Next, please go to my Alex thread, post #10 in the Pet Memorials, Tributes, and Eulogies area. Here's the direct link so you won't have to hunt it down ...

http://lightning-strike.com/forum/index.ph...t=0&start=0

Next, please see my posts numbered 247, 251 and 252 at Bubba's Shooting Star thread. It's here in the Pet Loss Support Death and Dying Pet Support area at LS and the direct link is ...

http://lightning-strike.com/forum/index.ph...c=4877&st=0

Last one for now, that is if you're still with me because I sure wouldn't blame you for taking a break or simply not wishing to go any further. Bless You!!! It's post #354 at my Alex thread in this Pet Loss Support Death and Dying Pet Support area. The direct link to the thread is ...

http://lightning-strike.com/forum/index.ph...t=0&start=0

Sweet Ann, my heart aches so badly for you and now you know why I feel your pain so acutely. It's because I'm still pretty much where you are. Please, Ann. Will you allow me help you by letting you know those things you can do to honor Max's memory in loving tribute? Not one of them will cost you a penny and doing something constructive like that may help you a whole lot. Of course, it's still so raw and fresh in your mind, heart and soul. You do need time to grieve and never let anyone tell you when it's "time to get over it." If I heard that one more time I think I'd spit. Pardon my mouth, but you know what I mean ...

You'll know when it's time to get over it. For some, it's day, others, weeks, months and even years. Please take baby steps and, above all, be kind to you. Always remember you are a wonderful person and a wonderful Fur Kid Mommy!!! Now, the reason I took the approach I did by directing you to my most intimate posts is that, like yourself, it was very, very, very difficult for me to open up and say anything other than ... Lovely things. Well, if you read the links in Sheppie's thread, you'll see that I just got sicker and sicker. After a long while, I opened up and shared. The only way to find the Healing Path is by caring and sharing our experiences no matter how painful. You read the advice I gave to Sheppie to allow herself to feel and express her feelings as long as she doesn't injure herself or another. The same goes for you, Dear One.

Ann, I Wish You Peace!!!

Many Comforting Hugs to you and your Fur Angel Max and Smokey, too!!!



Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

[AngelCareOne]

Hi Sweet Anna. I figured out how to attach a photo to LS Support message board by practicing on my own thread. Since I only did it that one time, please forgive me for using your thread to do it just once more so I can make sure I have it down to a fine science before I walk you through it. Thank you for your kind understanding, Dear One. Hugs!!! Okay, I attached the "Alex Thanks For The Add" graphic that I made and did that on my thread so want to try another photo or image. Let me see if I can locate the Vale Fairy image that I enhanced with flashing lights. It's beautiful and you'll love it! Wish me luck and here goes ... Ut Oh. I'm being prompted that the Maximum Single Upload Size is 400K and that image, even though small, is pretty graphic intensive. Let me see what other beautiful photo I can attempt to attach. Here goes again ...

I think it worked! Let me do a "Preview Post" to be sure.

And Voila!

OK, I need to turn off my PC for about 1/2 hour cuz it's prehistoric.

Then I'll come back and walk you through every step.

It's surprisingly easy, Anna. More Hugs!!!

See you in about an hour or so, Hon.

Many Comforting Hugs to you and your Angel Fur Kid Max!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

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Thanks Dotti
You are an angle yourself.

Anna