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[TrishB68]

Hello,

I would like to thank the couple people that wrote me wonderful notes and seemed to truely care. I have been coming here everyday and either writing a post or just reading others and lending a comforting word to others in need. The first time I posted 2 subjects some very nice people responded to me and lended me a shoulder to lean on. Every post I have written since then has not been replied to once. Every other post that has been added here has been read many times and replied to countless. Maybe I wrote too much, maybe I put to many pictures of my sweetheart maybe I offended someone, I don't know. If I did offend someone then I am very sorry I surely didn't mean to. I wish the very best to everyone here and I hope that your hearts will heal and you can go on and be happy once again. Remember the Rainbow Bridge and know that your furbabies will always be waiting there for you when it is your time to cross the bridge. God Bless. Bye
Trish

" Morning came and you were not there...
Night came and you were not there...
And then for me there was never a happy day..."

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[MAXIESMOMMY]

Trish!
You come back here right now! People are responding to you. Or even if you don't get a formal reply, people are reading what you are writing. It helps all of us and we are all in this together. I respond to new threads. Maybe you are writing replies and not posting new threads. I think you are very depressed and cannot see that there are caring people out here. You must stay here! Keep writing your feelings down. We all care about you.

Thinking of you
Carol

[zoeysdad]

Dear Trish,

Please forgive us if we didn' respond in a timely manner to your post. We really do care about you and the terrible pain you're feeling over the loss of your beloved Sparky. Most of us do try to respond to all new post as quickly as possible and I think what happened is there have really been many new posts over the last few days (more than normal) and some of your posts ended up on page 2 really fast. Once your post ends up on page 2, it's less likely to be responded to because many of us assume it's already had quite a few replys. That certainly doesn't mean you have worn out your welcome---you could NEVER do that.

Please come back, Trish. We grieve with you over your loss and we always want to hear how you doing. If you need a super-fast response, you can email any of us through this site. We are concerned with how you're coping with your loss and we do understand and care about you.

You're in my thoughts,
__JIM

[LS Support]

message boards are like that trish, sometimes people respond sometimes they dont. we've had lots of
traffic here as of late, it is hard to respond to each post made. hang around hon, its not you

[Wanda]

Trish-You get right back here! It helps to be here even if your post doesn't get answered at times. It helps to be here reading and writing! Some of my posts doesn't get answered either but I still come here reading and writing because I NEED to be here. There has been many new posters here lately that are grieving for their beloved pets and they to need to be comforted. I know how traunmatic it is for you losing your beloved pet but please don't feel that your're being ignored. We're all here for you! You seem to be really depressed, so, please stay here with us. I was depressed to and it helped me to be here. As the days come and go you will realize that this is the place to be and it's good therapy to be here. I'm worried about you! PLEASE STAY HERE!


Hugs
{{{{{{{{{{Trish}}}}}}}}}


love
Wanda

[Steph]

Trish, don't go!

I'm out of town a lot these days, with no net access, so I don't respond nearly as much as I'd like to.

I think it's just the nature of message boards. Some of my posts get responses, some don't.

Stick around!

[gingerspal]

Dear Trish,
I hope that you will listen to your friends here and our ernest plea for you not to "go anywhere"..you belong here with us.
This website is really different than alot of other discussion groups--sometimes there is alot of activity and other times a post just sits there for a long time--it is not that you are being snubbed, it is just that no one is here--and when someone is here the new posters always do get first priority (the new losses)---Not that your loss isn't "new"--it is!!!. The tributes board does not get near the traffic as the death and dying board. At any rate I can tell you feel slighted and I know we did not mean that at all! There really are only a handful of folks who consistently respond and sometimes they only check in once a day.
I know how much sparkys loss is hurting you and I am betting that it is also a factor in how you feel like we are intentionally ignoring you--but I can tell you that no one ever has ever been snubbed here--not ever. We are totally on your side, Trish...we are hurting right along with you and I hope with all my heart you won't disappear on us.
Love,
Patti

[Muffins]

Dear Trish:

I hope you will listen to everyone here, and realize that "your posts are NEEDED HERE"....
And, that you are loved, very much!!!!

I have read ALL OF YOUR POSTS, and I have been with LS since 2/8/2004......
I have always said that "sooooo many people are being helped --- whether or not they answer a post"...

And, as well, it is very incredibly healing just to be on here and write & write & write, until you can't write
anymore........ No matter what....
Especially in the very, very early days...........
I know that, for myself, I just needed to write, to ramble.....It made ME FEEL BETTER!!!!!
I was sooooooo very brokenhearted over the loss of my special sweet Ernestine!!!!

(You can tell by looking at the #of times your post has been replied to, and the # of posts it has been viewed).
Some people just don't feel READY to post, even tho they are going through an extremely hard loss themselves.

As for me, I am sorry, very sorry that I haven't responded to your post, or the posts of several new people here.
I AM VERY, VERY SORRY!!!!!

I have just written a post which is on the 2nd page called, (something like), "To my friends, Old and New"....
Basically, this board is the busiest I have ever seen it, for sure....

In a span of two days, 48 hours, there were 101 posts, and, I felt a bit overwhelmed, and
said, "I just can't answer them all".....(and, I cannot express to you my heartbreak!!!)
That's soooooooooo true; people who know me, know that that is true!!!!!!

It is in my nature to want to help people who are suffering, who are hurting..... And, it makes me
very sad that I'm not able to answer every single post on here...
God only knows how sorry I feel!!

People who are suffering, and in pain, deserve to be answered to....to feel comforted and love.
Basically, TO FEEL UNDERSTOOD, that they are not alone in their loss!!!!!

And, I can assure you Trish, that you are not alone....

My own experience with this board is that "the weekends are extremely quiet", but not lately....
And, that makes me sad.
It means that so many people have lost a special family member, and are hurting and in pain!!!

I have read all of your posts, and the posts of all the other newcomers, and I FEEL BADLY THAT I HAVEN'T
ANSWERED THEM!!!

Your precious, beloved Sparky was a beautiful furbaby......
And your Corky was, as well!!!!!

They were loved a lot.....and, they both did love!!
Their photos are more than precious!!!!!
We all "grieve" with our friends -- whether old or new..... You can count on that....

And, I just want you to know that I really have "grieved right along with you", and I am very, very sorry that
I haven't found the time to tell you how sorry I am over your loss!!!

Please, don't leave this site............
I cannot tell you the care and healing I have received by all of the people here.

Lots have answered my posts, (even if it was just one or two people), but some posts have definitely remained unanswered....

I know that "the posts that I have written and have remained unanswered, have at least helped some people, because the posts have been viewed several times"....

You have many, many friends here, I can assure you of that!!!

I hope and pray that you will stay here with all of us, who really do share in your pain..

Goodnight and God Bless you & yours,

Denise

[BabyHannahsMom]

Dear Trish,
I am sorry that I have not replied lately to so many of the posts, including yours. Believe me, I understand the feeling that you might be "wearing out your welcome." I felt that way too a couple of times but, like you, I was reassured that wasn't the case.

Right now, there's so much I want to say to everyone here. I haven't been on the site much at all this week. I have had a TERRIBLE time this week and last. There's a lot going on in my life. It's just been sort of crazy, but I'm trying to get myself together. For one thing, I just finished moving the other day. I have so much that I have to do -- I haven't had two consecutive days off in two weeks now, and the rest of my time has been taken up with moving.

I will come back as soon as I get a few things straightened out. Things did not go well this week at work and I really am concerned I might get fired when I go back in Wednesday. My concentration has just been off ever since Hannah started feeling bad last winter. I can only believe everything has happened the way it has to get me to the place I need to be. I do believe things happen for a reason, a part of a "big plan." I just have to believe that; otherwise I don't know sometimes how I'd make it through.

Also, we are sitting down here (I am 1/2 block from the beach) wondering if this hurricane will be coming here this week! Not fun. I've been through several in my lifetime. Everyone's worried everywhere in the Gulf Coast states. We don't want it to come here, but we can't wish it on anyone -- just wish it would dissipate on its own, but it probably won't, so just hoping it weakens.

Anyway, keep coming to the site. You will understand that sometimes we take turns because each of us still goes back into major grief periodically or some of us just feel the need to temporarily escape all the sadness and maybe aren't able to help for awhile. When I get that way, I KNOW there are others here who are just about ALWAYS here for everyone. The people on this site are beautiful, caring people as I'm sure you do know. Please keep coming to the site -- it's a miracle for all of us who found our way here.

Bless you,
Love,
Marcia

[Stymy's Mom]

Trish,

I am so sorry. Sorry for the loss of you beautiful Sparky and sorry for not responding. Please don't leave!

I don't always respond because I feel I don't have the right thing to say. Please accept my appologies because a small response is better than none at all.

My Best Wishes to you,
Vicki (Stymy's Mom)