Marley Boy, I had to put my beloved cat of 17 years down yesterday Options

[luvmarleyforever]

I'm not sure how to go on without him.
I realized today that he really was the head of the household, now Max and Little Miss and I are just flailing about. He truly was Number One.
He was still 15 lbs. and eating till the day he died, but he just couldn't walk anymore. He would take a few steps, and just lay down again. Getting in and out of the kitty box was getting tough for him, and he had a few accidents, which he valiantly tried to take care of himself. He really didn't like me helping him with those.
When he toppled off the bed onto his side the other night, I began to have to face reality.
The antibiotics I was giving him for a UTI infection were making him feel somewhat better, but he just didn't have any energy or mobility anymore.
I held him as he went, he was looking outside , to where he was going, with his head on my shoulder.
I just miss him so much.
I still have his body, and was thinking of burying him, but now think cremation might be the better choice.
He meant so much to me, I want to have some of him around for a while.
Any words of comfort would be greatly appreciated.

[Bue's Mommy]

I'm not sure how to go on without him.
I realized today that he really was the head of the household, now Max and Little Miss and I are just flailing about. He truly was Number One.
He was still 15 lbs. and eating till the day he died, but he just couldn't walk anymore. He would take a few steps, and just lay down again. Getting in and out of the kitty box was getting tough for him, and he had a few accidents, which he valiantly tried to take care of himself. He really didn't like me helping him with those.
When he toppled off the bed onto his side the other night, I began to have to face reality.
The antibiotics I was giving him for a UTI infection were making him feel somewhat better, but he just didn't have any energy or mobility anymore.
I held him as he went, he was looking outside , to where he was going, with his head on my shoulder.
I just miss him so much.
I still have his body, and was thinking of burying him, but now think cremation might be the better choice.
He meant so much to me, I want to have some of him around for a while.
Any words of comfort would be greatly appreciated.

I'm so sorry for you loss of your Marley Boy. He sounds like a really kewl kitty.
Just know he is where there is no pain now. Coming here really helps, do you have pics of Marley Boy?
Post them, it really helped me with my grief.

Take Care

[ann]

I'm so sorry for your loss. You should feel extremely blessed for being companions for so many years. That is a wonderful thing. Marley Boy will forever be with you in your heart. When I lost my cat I got him cremated. Without a doubt. Burial was so final, so permanent. Just having his ashes around is a great sense of comfort for me. It also buys me time, so if I feel I want to bury him in the ground someday, I have that option. It's a rough road, but in time, it does get easier to bear..Hugs.. Ann

[goliath]

I just miss him so much.
I still have his body, and was thinking of burying him, but now think cremation might be the better choice.
He meant so much to me, I want to have some of him around for a while.

Please accept my deepest condolences on the recent loss of your precious Marley. Losing a special furlove has got to be the most heart wrenching kind of pain that exists. You showed the most ultimate kind of love by putting his needs before your own in relieving his pain and discomfort. Hopefully you, Max, and Little Miss can find some comfort in each other.

After my Goliath passed away about 16 months ago, I found it hard to make any kind of decisions. The one thing my miind was clear on though was that I wanted him cremated for a variety of reasons. Goliath hated the cold more than anything so I couldn't even think of burying him. There was only one option left and that was to cremate him. I'm glad I went that way because I have his urn close to my bed and also wear a gold heart mini urn on a gold chain of my Mother's around my neck. I feel his closeness wherever I am. For sure it's a personal decision for anyone who loses a furchild.

May you find comfort and peace during this ever so sad time of your life. Know that the love you and Marley shared didn't end when he left this world for another. His loving spirit and yours are bound forever and can never be broken neither in this world nor the next.

Sending you hugs of comfort and love from my heart to yours,
Beth

[Ken Albin]

As I am dealing with my own furkid's impending death I can't say too much to you without breaking down. I am so sorry for your loss and hope that time will heal your grief.

Ken Albin

[luvmarleyforever]

[quote name='Bue's Mommy' date='Mar 25 2009, 12:33 PM' post='49568']
I'm so sorry for you loss of your Marley Boy. He sounds like a really kewl kitty.
Just know he is where there is no pain now. Coming here really helps, do you have pics of Marley Boy?
Post them, it really helped me with my grief.

Take Care


Dear Bue's Mommy:
I don't know if you got my other reply, but I want to thank you for your kind words.
He was the kewlest of kitties by far, to me!
I do take some comfort in knowing his suffering is gone now, but miss his presence so much, its hard coming to this site, the tears start flowing freshly again.
Thank you so much,
Adrienne

[luvmarleyforever]

[quote name='Ken Albin' date='Mar 28 2009, 12:29 PM' post='49620']
As I am dealing with my own furkid's impending death I can't say too much to you without breaking down. I am so sorry for your loss and hope that time will heal your grief.

Ken Albin

Dear Ken,
I know what you mean. It's hard for me to visit this site because the pain is still so fresh, the tears start up again easily. I thought I couldn't possibly cry any more than I did.... I guess after 17 years, the grieving is going to take quite some time, and many more tears will have to be shed.
I am so sorry for your impending(?) loss too. From one broken heart to another, I truly wish you comfort and peace at this difficult time.
With sorrow and love,
Adrienne

[Bue's Mommy]

You're most welcome Adrrienne.
There's something so special about a boy kitty, and his female human companion, yes?
I think cats are alot like people, some you connect with, and some you don't.
I have been so blessed with my little crew.

Do you have pics of Marley? I know how painful it is to come here, but there are some things that may
put a little smile on your face, I promise.

http://lightning-strike.com/forum/index.php?showtopic=4402

Talk to you soon Adrienne

[Ernie]

Dear Marley Boy,

It's nice to see such cat lovers on this board. After losing Ernie 19 years later, I am heartbroken and know its going to take some time. I've had 4 dogs now during his life, two that passed 10 years ago and two that are still here now but losing him has been so painful even though it's only been 10 day's since he passed away. Leaving the house and returning becomes a task in itself. I hesitate everytime I walk through the door, my heartaches just as I open the door and not see or hear him. He was always there. I heard him meowing over the barking of my two labs everytime.

When I say it's nice to see cat lovers, what I mean is I don't get that from my friends/family, I hear he was just a cat and all I can think he was so much more then that.

I also realized after his passing last Saturday that Bailey my 8 year old lab misses him so much. There is my neighbors cat behind me that sun bathes everyday on the deck and she sits and watches him, I took a picture of her yesterday doing so because everytime I told my husband he looked at me like I was crazy, so I captured her sitting at the fence looking at the cat laying in the grass and she sat there for an hour at least being very still and once in awhile I would see her tail wagging like crazy as the cat tossed and turned in the grass. I sometimes think she thinks it's him. Now my husband doesn't think I'm crazy.

I read once during the loss of my first two dogs that "animals are the closest thing to god on this earth that we will ever know" I believe that know matter what they are.

I understand your hesitation on what to do. I still have the ashes of my first two dogs but Ernie was buried at my friends house. My husband had him put in a box and we were over there within the hour. They have a beautiful garden with an angel that stands three feet tall with their three dogs and their cat of 25 years there. They decided to have a special place after losing all four within the last three years and the garden is full of flowers now, as we buried Ernie I could see the flowers starting to come up.

Regardless of what you decide to do remember Marley Boy will always be buried in your heart no matter what.



Thank you for your post.

Ernie's mom