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[LoveThem]

I'm sorry to hear about her breathing. What does the vet think the problem is? You know your baby best. It is heartbreaking to let them go but when we remember exactly what the reason was..we know it is not something we ever do lightly but if there is truly no cure or having a quality of life...it really hurts when we have no choice. That's why we do try everything possible to help them.

Discuss all these reactions of Marie with your vet..what does your vet see for the future?
Is she getting oxygen? (Mine was put in an oxygen tent to help him breathe). What is happening to her?

What we learn from each other may help someone else's baby at another time so I always question everything I can. Not knowing why something is happening is so awful...I hate it everytime it happens, and I have had it happen to me more than one time over the years.

I just pray she is better next time you see her and that your vet can give you some answers as to the future and how she is doing..and is there a way to help her breathing? Is she on an IV for food and water?

Hugs to you both. Our prayers are with Marie and you everyday. (We have read sometimes things have turned around for the good for others here and hope that will happen to you and Marie).

(I guess I am always looking for any glimmer of hope..so I just naturally have lots of questions.. maybe I think if we ask enough questions, one may turn on a light bulb for the doctor..and an answer with hope happens. I worry when I have no questions left.)

[ashtonrebecca]

Theres no hope left here.
I had to put her down this morning. She had gotten even worse.

[Muffins]

Dear (((((((((((AshtonRebecca))))))))))

As I was reading through your whole post this morning, my heart would fill with hope when I heard that your precious girl, Marie was doing well, and would break in half when I heard that your girl was suffering again......

It is clear to see that you did everything conceivable to give Marie the best in veterinary care. Please know in your heart, AshtonRebecca, that your Marie KNOWS you did all that you could for her.

Her sweet, beautiful & tiny body was worn out, and it was HER TIME to go -- to be at peace - to be at rest.

In making the decision to have her put to sleep, you did one of the very hardest things in the world.
I know that everyone here at Lightning-Strike would agree with me that, you also did one of the most loving things that you could ever do!
In having your precious girl, Marie put to sleep, you put her needs first ---

YOU TOOK ON HER PAIN so that she could finally be without pain. In my mind, there is NO greater gift in this world.
God Bless you, for having the strength to make this difficult decision.

Always know that she will always be with you, right inside your heart. Her spirit is with you . I know that Marie will ALWAYS LOVE YOU. As her mom, you gave her a wonderful life.
Where she is now, there is no more pain, she is breathing perfectly fine, and I know that she is playing with all of our furbabies who have gone on to Rainbow's Bridge before.
I'll say a prayer to my sweet girl, Ernestine that she meet up with your beautiful girl, Marie to "show her the ropes" up at the Bridge.

Please know that my thoughts and my prayers are with you at this time. Please come here as often as you want to, and just write your thoughts down - what you're feeling, etc....
I know that this place helped me immensely -- we are all here for you, to see you through this.

Sending you lots of hugs,

Peace & Love,

Denise xo

[LoveThem]

I totally agree with everything said by Muffins. She said it so well...I can't think of anything to add except my personal thoughts to you of:

I am so very very sorry about Marie. I know how hard that is. I cry everytime I remember making that decision myself.
You tried your best and so did she. But I saw what difficulty breathing did to my Little Guy in his emergency last year.
That is one symptom that is so very scary. And it can't be comfortable.

You gave her peace when she needed it. It was her time and I have learned that I have never won that battle with any of my special ones.

A tight cyber-hug to you (as I type this through tears)

Post when you feel you want to, about your thoughts, your feelings...if it helps to write them down. A note to Marie ( I do that with my Little Guy).....whatever makes you feel better to do, it is the right thing.

Just remember...you are not alone when you are here. We all have the same pain and will have it everyday..time dulls it somewhat..but it is never truly gone.

You did the right thing for her. I know the thought doesn't make anything any easier (it didn't with me either) but somehow having that assurance in the back of your mind...I think will help.

My boy's x-rays were clear of any chest fluid a week before it exploded filling his chest so he could not breathe. Quality of life disappearing in an instance. No cure except painful draining with the expectation of coming back any hour, anytime. I know that's why I had to make the decision but even that doesn't help relieve any of the pain that decision left me with.

But we have to just do the best we can. It does help knowing there is no more suffering. But even that doesn't make the emptiness feel less empty, the loneliness feel any less lonelier.

Now my tears are blurring these words so I'll just stop with with a hug again

Judy

[moon_beam]

Hi, ashtonrebecca, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the loss of your beloved Marie. I do understand how devastated you are feeling; how inconsolable your heart is. You did everything you possibly could to help your precious Marie. I do know what it is like to have hope that everything will work out okay to only in the end having to let my furkid go home to the angels. You both fought a good fight, and your Marie knows that you love her with all your heart and soul and mind and body - - that you would have moved heaven and earth to provide her a happy, healthy, and safe life with you on this side of eternity. Having to decide to euthanize a beloved companion ins never easy, and it is a decision that is made at great sacrifice to us so that they can go home to the angels with their dignity still intact. And now you are faced with having to adjust your life without the physical presence of your precious Marie, and this journey is going to take time - - lots of time. But you are not alone in your journey, ashtonrebecca. Each of us here do know the heartbreak of losing a beloved fur and feathered companoni, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us. Plesae know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[ashtonrebecca]

Thank you for all the kind words.
I'm missing my girl in a big way today. Saturday and Sunday I was actually alright. I thought I'd be more upset which sounds so wierd. I guess I was just trying to ignore it. But, today I've just been miserable. I want to hear her purr and kiss her nose so badly that it just hurts.

[LoveThem]

Everything is just part of the normal grieving process. It does sound as though on the weekend you might have remembered more clearly what it was about her that last day that led to the decision and you knew it was so right...with her having breathing problems.

Maybe Monday was far enough away that the reason faded somewhat as you remembered the good healthy memories and just wanted THEM back....wanted HER back.

Nothing wrong with that thinking..still normal. It is a pain that the hurt can't really be described to another who has not experienced it. But to we who have experienced it...time and time again...we know it can't be described but we understand how it feels.

I know I did a lot of crying after my Little Guy had to go. My misery went on for months until I decided I just had to hold another furbaby and starting looking for another friend. I did connect with one at my local SPCA and he has helped me so very much over this past year. He is the distraction I needed.

I couldn't have my boy back but I feel better watching cat-like actions again. As my favorite Mom saying is: The pain of losing her will never ever be greater that the joy of knowing her.

Having my new healthy boy helps me smile at the joy of having my Little Guy over 16 years, as well as his siblings.

But there still can be days when it all comes back overwhelmingly and we cry again, and again.
...still normal.

For me, forcing myself to remember the reason for that decision eases the pain somewhat by knowing it was something that HAD to be done...for them. But nothing will ever take the pain away completely because the pain is due to our missing them and since we will love them and miss them always....the pain will never truly disappear..but in time..it is bearable.

I know you miss her so very very much. I'm sorry it was her time but am glad you had the time with her that you did. And I know, like me, you would never have given up that time and knowing our special one, to avoid the pain and sadness we know comes in its own time. We only pray that is a long way away.

But even with my new boy...I can just tell myself..here is one who has a home, who is loved, and who will never be abused or starved or be alone waiting to love and be loved. So, no matter how long his time is...I know it will be quality time. And that is the best thing we can give them in return for that special love we receive.

Hugs to you and your new Angel ...Marie


(Sometimes when I feel extra sad..I go to New Beginnings and look at the kitten pictures and I can't help but smile....knowing these members, have the same pain as I do, but they are helped by opening their heart and home to a new "brother" or "sister" to the one lost.)

Again...I am so sorry about your baby. We can only try to help by listening, by hoping something in our words helps, and by sending a cyber-hug so you know if there in person, we would be crying together.

Write anytime. We are always listening. Write your baby a special note (we do that often ourselves). Post some favorite pictures of that special girl. In time, when you feel like it,
tell us some special memories that make you smile.

She will never leave you because she is part of your heart and it is a bond that can never be broken by anyone or any power.

Judy

[ashtonrebecca]

Thank you so much <3 Your kind words have really helped me.
I'm off to take my mother to the emergency room. It's just one thing after another.

[LoveThem]

I know what you mean about one thing after another (only in my case..I am the one who goes to the ER).

I hope everything with your mom is okay.

And, post back here when things settle down or anytime you just need to talk.

Hugs

Judy

I'm glad you feel helped by something I said. That means a lot to me.

[moon_beam]

Hi, ashtonrebecca, I hope that everything works out okay with your mom. Having this concern can intensify the loss of Marie for you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you and your mom are doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[AngelCareOne]

{{{{{{{AshtonRebecca}}}}}}} I'm so sorry that I was gone so long and very sorry to hear about your sad news and loss. Please know that you and your Angel Fur Kid are in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep coming back to talk as often as you wish and any time night or day.

Big Comforting Hugs and Winging Many Loving Angels to You and Yours!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox