No Chance To Say Goodbye Options

[Steph]

I'm so sorry that you lost your adorable little buddy so unexpectedly. I've now gone through both sudden death and long drawn out illness of a pet. I think that the sudden deaths add an extra dimension of the whole grieving process. It's like your whole body and psyche have to first come to terms with what happened before any healing can take place. I know I stayed in a state of shock much longer with Luba's sudden death.
Now, with Falkor's euthanisia it seems I'm hanging in the despondent/desolate stage more, plus a bit of anger. The shock bit went by much quicker because I knew it was coming for months already.

Again, my condolences. He certainly was a cutie!

[LoveThem]

Marc

Your post about animals having a mission was very interesting to read. I can understand how it can make sense about their having a time to accomplish a mission. And maybe being the soul of one we once knew. I don't know if the book you read touched on their endings when the mission is done because my question is why do they have to suffer. Maybe the answer to that is we would never let them go otherwise? But then many go anyway without our making the decision.

I do believe they are here to teach us something besides what unconditional love is. And if there are special ones meant just for us....I can smile at that thought. I love every one who was a part of my life, some a short part and others...longer. They do seem to fill a hole that cannot be filled otherwise and maybe make us feel complete again.

Love, hugs and prayers to all the sweethearts who ever were, who are now, and who will be in the future.

[SJ J & S]

I love that and do believe its true.

we lost our ability to talk to other animals a long time ago, i have been to a couple of workshops where they show you how to be really present, and by sight, smell or touch (the three senses i use) you get a link with the animal and ask it questions which it answeres.

i was really suprised how easy it was, i did a friends cat and asked how it felt about the new baby, i got a picture of a black cat with its tail straight up in the air spraying, i said this to my friend and she said that as they walked in the door with the baby Tom did spray the living room

the hard part about it is being present in this moment, not two seconds ago and not tonight of 5 minutes time NOW.

[geese]

my cat Funky died at the vet yesterday while coming out of anathesia from a very routine procedure, he was just over a year old. i didnt want to take him to the vet, but his inner ear had been infected for a while (a polyp, we were to find out yesterday) and the therapy needed to be done. knowing this was a common procedure, i didnt think much about it. when i heard the vet (my ex-wife) crying on the other end, my first thoughts were that one of my kids was in trouble. then she said the words no owner wants to hear: your pet died.

i lost it pretty hard yesterday, who says men dont cry? i did for hours in bed while listening to the rain and thunder outside. he was a sturdy cat, healthy in every other way besides that damn ear. he and i had a good play session the night prior to the procedure, but in the morning i unceremoniously picked him up and stuffed him into the carrier for his final ride. if i would have known i would not see him again, i would have squeezed him til he squeaked. but that was not the case, and i didnt have a chance to say goodbye. thats what hurts the most.

i finally dragged myself out of bed to half eat some dinner. then turned on the tv to block out the sadness when, wouldnt you know, the national ASPCA commercial with sara mclaughlin singing 'in the arms of an angel' came on. well dear friend, i lost it again.

today, i am cried out. the shock has subsided but the pain still remains. i would love to stay in bed with the covers pulled over my head again today, but work and the world has different plans for me. the house already feels empty, tho the kitty was small he was part of my every day routines. i missed him chasing me down the stairs to my office to get fed this morrning. so sad. worst part yet to come, i have to face telling my daughter on friday evening when i pick her up from a week at camp. she loved the little guy, its not going to be pretty.

so though i may not respond to very many posts anymore, seeing the pain day after day has wore me thin, i do understand how you feel. i have been through the pain, and now go through the pain again.

RIP Funkyman, your time came much too soon.

[geese]

Hi,
Sorry to hear of your sad story. I don't know what to say, except, hold on to the thought that everything happens for a reason. Unfortunately, too soon for your baby.

I just lost my little man, who I had for 10 years, it happened very unexpectedly. Never thought the day I took him to the vet, would end a week later in a goodbye.

Please hang on, and cry if you have to, I think part of being a man is the ability to show your emotions!!!! In my eyes you're more of a man than alot of them I know.

Hang in there, we're all here for you if you need to talk.

With love, Geese