Support:i Know How You Feel, Grief is so hard Options

[KimL]

Hi all,

Haven't been here in a while.
Quick recap, I lost my Himalayan kitty Little Girl in Nov 2006, then lost my black and white kitty companion of 15 years, Smoosh, four months later in March 2007. (That's both of my angels in my avatar pic.)

As the anniversary of Little Girl's death just past, I've been thinking about the two of them alot lately.

I read some of the posts here and began crying, rembering my staggering pain. Losing my girls has been so difficult. I remember the grief I felt in those first weeks -- so intense, so painful, unbearable. I remember feeling angry at everyone who either had never lost a pet or wasn't an "animal person." How could these folks expect me to go on, to go to work, to smile when my pain was so intense, my loss so huge?

But mostly, I just wanted to drop by and offer hugs and support to everyone here who has lost a loved pet. To let you know I've been there and I think I know how you feel. It does get better, the grief -- I remember not wanting to stop crying, not wanting to "get over it" as my grief was all I had left of my girls. Now I know it's okay to let that go because I'll never, ever forget them -- and if I feel I need to cry and feel that pain again, I can do that anytime, even now.

After losing them, I filled my house with fur again -- I now have 2 Himalayan fluffy kit*ity sisters who just turned a year old -- and a German Shepherd puppy. My new girls have really helped with my loss: while they can never replace Smoosh and Little Girl, when I start missing them so badly, it really helps to have a purring, soft, thunky kitty to run to -- and the puppy is wonderful when I need sloppy kisses!

My heart goes out to everyone here.
I know how hard it is to loose a fur baby.
I am so sorry for your loss but please know you wil heal even as you will never forget your precious friend.

[toonie]

Beautifully expressed and many here who are going through what you and I have gone through last year will find courage in your words.

[LoveThem]

I agree with Toonie. Thanks for bringing some light into the darkness.

[Muffins]

Thank you. What you wrote is so true & very well said. Your beloved furkid Angels (in your avatar) are beautiful .

Many blessings to you and yours,

Denise

[radgirl]

Thanks for the message, such encouraging words for everyone. Your message reflects my feelings as well. We lost our Misty one year ago Tuesday. I went through the same pain, especially the pain of whose who didn't have pets or had never lost one and didn't understand the intense pain.

I too have found new happiness, with a new daughter and a new cat Magic who showed up this summer on our porch, it has eased the pain over time. I too miss Misty sometimes when enjoying Magic, especially when I see Magic tring to get to my daughter, or telling me that my daughter needs something, I still wish it could have been misty. But we beleive Misty sent us magic...she's 3, very loyal and loves our daughter. We couldn't hae asked for anything more.

Thanks again for the inspiration. I am sorry for your losses over the last year, your new pets sure found a great home.

Hugs, Misty's Mama

[kittymomma]

Your kind words fill my heart with hope...
susan