Today She Would Have Been 1, and it's just getting harder Options

[Starry]

Just wanting to say happy birthday to my starry who would have been 1 today.
She had a short life but seemed like we had a lifetime together.
(This seems more painful than when I lost my collie April of 12 yrs).
I am waiting for her ashes to come back after having to put her to sleep 10 days ago.
Each day seems harder than before and I thought I would get better.
I read this sight and am so sorry for all those suffering the losses.
Today I began digging a place to put her favorite things.
My family thinks I'm a basket case and even think I may need a shrink.
I don't know how people think you can move on with your life after a week of mourning something that was loving,sweet,forgiving and never judged anything.
Well there are some people out there that do understand and I recieved the nicest card and beautiful poem. I will love to share it but it is late and I must get to sleep as to function tomorrow. I will type it for all to read then.
Thanks to those who read and I am thinking of all your pets as I say a prayer tonite.

[bubbawny]

Hang in there, my friend!

Your Starry still love's you and misses you. She's p^^ed on to a much better place and is in peace.

It does take time to cope. We each have to find our own way of coping. For me, particpating here is helping me immensely. I come here every day, multiple times a day. it helps me to share my experience with others, and to have them share their experience with me.

I've also found that keeping a beautiful picture of my boy Jackson on my computer (where he's smiling at me!) is helping immensely. Everytime my computer desktop shows, he's there, smiling at me, and I say, "Hello Jackson, my boy! I love you!" and it helps.

peace be with you.

[Krissyo]

It has only been six days since we had to have Dugan put to sleep and I can't stop crying either. My eyes are so swollen but I told my husband and daughter that they have to let me grieve without a timetable. My daughter told me to put Dugan's pictures away until it didn't hurt so much but I found that it was much MORE difficult without them. Like bubbawny I have pictures on my computer and it is bittersweet. I have tried to be gentle with myself and hope you do the same. I have come to realize that I don't want to "get over this" I want to "get thru this" so someday I can have sweet cherished memories of Dugan but their will always be the pain of missing my sweet Duggie.

For me it comes in waves sometimes. I think I am doing better and then yesterday I got a lovely card from the vet (who was crying when we put Dugan to sleep) and I just lost it again.

This place has really help me to focus.

You are in my prayers.

Krissyo

[heisser33]

My prayers are with you and Starry. She touched you very much in this world and don't worry about crying or needing a shrink. You loved her with everything you had and that is why you are still so sad. She is with you now and always and you will be with her in Heaven one day. That is a guarantee. You and Starry or in my prayers tonight. KEvin

[RIT & Cleo]

Sometimes the shortest lifes are the hardest to get over....oh how you loved little Starry. I am sorry for your pain. Please try to take one day at a time and think of one happy memory of her...it slowly will get better.

[beecherbabe]

I am sorry for your great loss. Always remember there is no frame for grief. <y Charlie has been gone 17 dats and I still cry myself to sleep at night. The pain and loss we feel is natural for people who love animals. I will continue to grieve regardless of what anyone has to say. Take care.

Michelle

[CatWoman]

I am so sorry for your loss, if you saw my earlier post, I lost my kitty that was only a year old. I understand how unfair it feels.

I am doing better every day, but I still have not gotten through a day without crying. It will be a month tomorrow.

Take all of the time you need to grieve. And know that there are a lot of people here that understand. My thoughts are with you.