Devastated, my girl is gone Options

[Moyia's Mom]

Two days ago, one of my best friends was run over in our yard. I miss her so much and I just wanted to talk to others who understand. Moyia was the best dog, she truly was my sidekick for ten years.My heart aches and my body hurts. She took such good care of us.

[wescom]

Moyia's mom,

I am so sorry for your loss. I also lost my 10 year old dog, Misty, very suddenly about 1 year ago now. She had a Cancerous Vascular tumor that burst and she bled to death very quickly.

I had a very hard time dealing with her death, but with time and the support I recieved here at lightning-strike I was able to accept her death.

A few things that helped me get through Mistys death, and hopefully will help you as well was the fact that Misty was probably the most spoiled dog in the world who was loved very much, and since you are here im assuming that your love for Moyia is the same as mine for Misty.

Im not sure what breed of dog Moyia was, but Misty was a large dog, and it made me feel a little better that she had a fairly long life, and in the end she went very quickly without a very long period of pain.

After a few months I was able to replace the feelings of sadness with memories of the joy I had with Misty. I hope this helps you. Take Care.

Wes

[Moyia's Mom]

Thanks Wes
Moyia was a Border-Collie mix. She was in top-notch health and had absolutely no signs of slowing down. We live on a farm of a variety of animals, but she was the Queen-bee. Tuesday was the first night I slept in this old farm house without her. I miss her company so much. She always slept in the downstairs hallway so we said good-night every night and she was always so happy to see us first thing in the morning. I'm hoping taking the time to write this down helps me deal with my grief.

[mimismom]

I'm very sorry for your loss. We spend so much time with them we don't realize what a huge part of our lives they are till they're not there. But know that Moyia knows how much you loved her. I lost my Border Collie a week and a half ago. They are such neat dogs with such inteligence and vitality. I think it's almost harder to lose them because they are so happy and active. Molly would actualy smile at us. I hope it helps you to know your not alone. mimismom

[Moyia's Mom]

Thanks to Mimismom
So sorry about your loss as well. Molly and Moyia seem to have similiar personality (intelligent and vital and both being central figures in our lives)
Moyia's Mom

[Moyia's Mom]

Here it is, nine days later. My girl is desparately missed. I can't seem to do anything around here without thinking of her. I still can't believe that someone can drive in my yard, kill our family pet, and leave, to never return and apologise. It boggles my mind. Anyone who knows Moyia, knows she never went near vehicles. My family and friends can't figure out how she could have got run over. So the question is "How fast was this guy going?" in a yard (not a road or even a driveway)? I know the answer still won't bring back my Moyia, but I'm having a hard time understanding this whole thing. Are we not safe even in our own yards?
I guess my anger is starting to kick in. Velma (Moyia's Mom)

[topaz 64]

I was sorry & totally shocked when I read about Moyia. How could anyone be so heartless? My first dog when I was a child was a border collie called Whisky. Then along came Oscar a springer spaniel who happily shared his home with Bam a sweet natured mongrel. Being in a dogless home feels lonely even though there are 3 other humans here. It's right what mimismom said, how we don't realise what a huge part of the family pets are till they're no longer with us.

[Tootsie]

I'm so sorry for your loss.
We just moved to a new city about 4 months ago and we don't know anyone here yet so I spent a lot of time just hanging out with my baby Pushkin. We have gone from a two kitty house to a single kitty house and I totally relate to the feeling of loneliness that Topaz is talking about.

The feeling of something being missing is the most terrible part I think.

Moyia's Mom I can relate so much to being reminded of your pet by the things you are surrounded by. Everything in our house reminds me of Pushkin, it makes it hard to be home.

[Moyia's Mom]

Hello folks,

Two weeks today since my beloved Moyia was taken from us so cruelly.After the initial shock and despair, its the loneliness for her that gets me. Last night was the first night I had to do a barn check without my girl. Lonely!! How she loved her life here, she was so vibrant. so busy, so aware of everything going on. She was truly a wonderful dog and we all miss her so much, myself the most. There's a country song out there called "I Miss My Friend". Anyone know the particulars?

Will I ever have that kind of relationship again? Not now, but someday? I must say that this site has been such a help to me. The compassion of so many people is astounding.

Take care all, and give your pets a hug
Velma (Moyia's Mom)

[Tootsie]

Hi Velma,
I don't think it will be easy to open your heart to a new animal while the grief is so raw, if you're going through anything similar to the emotions I'm now having the idea of giving the type of complete love we gave to our baby kitty and dog seems an impossibility right now. How can anyone be like our dearest little buddies we just lost?

BUT

Someone on here gave me advice that love is never a competition--so loving a new furry kid will never be a betrayal or a replacement of our lost ones. Those are such true words.

I know already that eventually all of us here will have that kind of relationship with a pet again. We have to I think--there are so, so many animals that have horrible lives. There are so many people who get dogs or cats because they think it's a fun toy or an accessory and then get bored with them and get rid of them. There are heartbreaking stories I read about all the time about animals that were thrown out of a home because they were pregnant--because their owner couldn't be bothered to get them fixed. All of those little guys desperately need someone to help them have a happy life. And honestly, I can't think of a better group of people to do that. The ammount of pain we are going through right now makes it obvious how much we love animals.

I have no doubt that Moya's life must have been so full of happiness and love. One day it will just be the right time for you to meet another four legged friend, it will feel right to you and to your pet and it will be a happy ending.

I don't know when that time will be or who the new friend will be but I'm sure you will find each other. First thing you'll probably do is tell him or her all about Moya and then you'll go off on a barn check together and they will be so happy to have found a new best friend! I know this for a fact.