Real Sad Tonght, Simple's ashes are ready Options

[cindi]

I guess I should have known that I would fall apart when I finally got the call that I could pick up my Baby's ashes. I was beginning to worry that they had lost her, and I really couldn"t take losing her again. But now I don't think I can go get that llittle bag with the little box inside. I'm sorry I'm being depressive, just sad and had to vent.
Thanks:
Cindi

[tracy2765]

Dear Cindy
I have tried hard to think what to write in response to your posting but there are no words just tears. Ask your guardian Angel to give you the strength you will need and I along with all your new friends will send you angel hugs.
My thoughts are with you

God bless
Tracy

[Wanda]

I know how you are feeling about picking up your baby's cremains as I had to do that twice. I felt a lot better knowing my baby is finally back home but I still had all the sadness etc. I felt complete once I had the cremains home even though my baby wasn't there in the flesh, I could feel them there. I memorialized them and it made me feel better BUT of course I still had all the sadness and the terrible hurts. I hope you will feel somewhat better once you have your baby home. I know it's hard. My thoughts are with you!


Wanda

[Kim R.]

Cindi,
I remember going to get my babies ashes,too. I thought it would be unbearable, but strangely enough, it gave me a very unexpected feeling of closeness to her and it was a nice feeling to know she was 'back home', if that makes any sense. You might surprise yourself. Once I was able to wrap my mind around the fact that my girl was actually in that box, it was actually a feeling of peace above all else. I also had her urn custom made. They laser etched her picture into the wood and I just love it. It is hard to capture how detailed it is in a picture, but it came really nice. I'm not sure how to attach more than one photo, so I will post a pic of her urn here and the actual pic they used below it....

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[Kim R.]

Here is the actual photo..does anyone know how to fix it from being so big?

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[Phinny1]

I'm with all of you on this. I didn't think I could get my boy cat's ashes either. My partner definately would not come with me. She just didn't want to go back there.
When I picked up my boy's ashes I just sat in my car and cried. It's like I was relieving the nightmare all over again. I drove home with him on my lap, I didn't want to let go.
But when I got home and put him in his basket that he would sleep in, I did feel a bit better. It's still so difficult as it's only been 5 weeks, but I'm happy I have him with me.

[kmom]

I know how you feel. It was just 2 short weeks ago - although it seems so much longer - that we put our 7 1/2 old down. My husband picked him up on Wednesday and I thought I couldn't wait to hold him again. But when I did, all I could do was sob. I couldn't believe my Roo Roo was now just ashes and in a plastic container. He was such a big boy and now reality has really set in that I will never touch him again. However, this morning I talked to him like I use to when I was getting ready to leave for work and it was (kind of) like he was there and that made me feel better. I put him in a central location, so I can always see him.
I thought I was doing better until then. Now I've started to cry when I think of him again. I'm hoping that once I can get him up the the lake and bury him, have some kind of ceramony for him, then I can finally put some closure to it all. It is getting easier, day by day, but some days are just like it was yesterday. I know 2 weeks is not a long time, but it sure seems like it.

[AJESMOM]

I ALSO KNOW HOW YOU FEEL, EXCEPT HE JUST PASSED ON YESTERDAY. IVE HAD MY DOG SINCE I WAS 13 AND I HAD TO LEAVE HIM BEHIND WHEN I MOVED OUT AT 18. I STILL SAW HIM EVERY CHANCE I GOT, EXCEPT THE PAST TWO WEEKS, THE WORST TIME TO CHOOSE NOT TO TAKE MY DAUGHTER TO VISIT HER GRANDPA. LAST NIGHT, I RECEIVED A CALL FROM MY SISTER TELLING ME HE HAD DIED. I STILL CANT BELIEVE IT, HE WAS 2 MONTHS SHORT OF BEING 11. AND I DIDNT GET TO SAY GOODBYE AT ALL. MY DAD IS GOING TO CREAMATE
HIM THOUGH SO WE WILL STILL HAVE HIM BY OUR SIDE. I JUST CANT HANDLE IT I CANT BELIEVE HE'S GONE. I KNOW HE HAD A GOOD LIFE WITH LOTS OF LOVE AND ATTENTION AND HES NOT SUFFERING ANYMORE. HE HAD CANCER THAT SPREAD WAY TOO QUICKLY AND ALL HE WAS DOING THE PAST 3 WEEKS WAS LAYING AROUND, NOT HIS NORMAL SELF. BUT, HES WAITING FOR US AT RAINBOW BRIDGE AND THAT IS SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO, THE DAY YOU WILL SEE YOUR BABIES AGAIN WAITING TO PLAY WITH YOU AGAIN IN THE AFTERLIFE.

[cindi]

Thank you all for your support. I did pick up Simple's cremains today, and even though I cried, it did make me feel better to have her back home.

Kim,
Sasha's urn is beautiful, it looks so much like the picture you always have on your posts. It is a beautiful memorial to your Baby, thank you for sharing it with me.

Love to all who gather in grief,

Cindi

[brandyandsoshi]

I'm glad you were able to go get your baby and bring her home.
I felt so much better after bringing my Soshi home. I made my husband hold her box so she could be in the sunshine all the way home. Now she sits on my dresser, and I talk to her sometimes. I also rub the top of the box to say hello, and my husband joked that I'll wear the finish off the box...
Take care,
Brandy, Soshi, George, and Ringo

[Kurbysma]

Cindi,

I'm very sorry for your loss. I lost my Kurby a month ago and his ashes came back on Valentine's day. My husband and I decided to wait until the next day to pick him up because we didn't want Valentine's day to be a day we'd be depressed on the rest of our lives. When I picked up his ashes, I put the tin in my lap, just like Phinny, and rode home with him there.

I have made him a memorial wall in my den and we are making him a waterfall garden in our yard as well. I'm attaching 2 pics....one is the memorial wall and the other is his ashes in a little pawprint tin. We have his ashes in a little shadowbox on the wall under his big picture. We burn that candle each night in memorial of Kurby.

I know what you're going thru right now......I kept his ashes on my computer desk for a week beside his pic when I first got them back. He would always sit under my feet at this desk and it just felt right to have his ashes right here with me. I eventually put him in his shadowbox. I take his tin out (of the shadowbox) and kiss the top every night and tell him I love him.

I will say a prayer for you and Simple tonight.....

Tanya
"kurbysma"

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[Kurbysma]

Here's his tin.....

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[cindi]

Tanya,
Thank you for your prayer, it will be 2 weeks tomorrow morning that I last held my Baby. It helps so much to know that I can always come here and just scream out the grief if I have to. Your display memorial to your sweet Kurby is beautiful, I think I'll do something like that by my bed, as that was Simple's favorite place to be.
Thank you again, my prayers are with you and your Baby also.
Cindi

[Kurbysma]

Cindi,

I also purchased a "memorial garden stone" for Kurby's garden when we get started on that. It's below.....

I've found that planning his garden and his memorial wall has helped me keep my mind busy and it helps me to just sit and look at his pics on the wall and think of the times we had. He was rotten.......of course. He loved to go camping and swimming with us. If you can imagine a yorkie that did that! Most people think of yorkie's as lapdogs that don't leave the front door. Not my Kurby. He went wherever his mama went. He loved to dig in the sand on the beach. But, he was always kept groomed and purrrty!

Thanks for your prayers. I said a prayer for your baby last night when I prayed for Kurby.

Tanya

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[Kim R.]

Tanya,
Kurby's stone is GORGEOUS! Where did you get it? I would love to get something like that. It is so obvious how much you loved your Kurby, and although your time with him was cut short, you should feel good that he was made to feel so loved and happy while he was here. Ya know, there are some poor unfortunate furbabies that spend an entire lifetime on the end of a chain, lucky to even get food or water, so the way I see it, even though his life was cut short, he is still one of the lucky ones !

Cindi,
I am thinking of you today. I know how much your Simple meant to you, and I also know how bad it hurts when they leave. Lord knows I am the last person that can tell you it will get better in time because I myself am still a basket case, but when I look back at those first few months, I know that I am getting better, it's just a very slow process in my case...we are all different, and I think the guilt I carry is a HUGE roadblock on my journey to healing. I may be fooling myself, but I truly think that if she would have died peacefully in her sleep, on her own terms and in her own time, I wouldn't have so much pain. I would still miss her all the same, but the pain of what I did to her wouldn't be there. Sorry, I didn't mean to turn this into a 'me story'...I just want you to know that I am glad that you found us here at LS. It is obvious what a caring and giving person you are, and I feel priviledged to have 'met' you !
your friend in grief,
Kim

[Kurbysma]

Thanks Kim. You're right. I try not to think of the poor animals who dont get the chance to be loved like our babies were. Kurby never met anyone that he didn't love or that they didn't love him. The days after he died, I received so many phone calls from friends that I cant remember who all called me! I used to be a travel nurse and when I was in MA, the director of the ER (MD) and another doctor fell in love with him and made me bring him to see them once a week at the ER!

I'm attaching a link to the site I purchased Kurby's memorial stone from. It came from Canada. It's much prettier in person and it's very heavy!

http://www.pet-memorial.net/?

Tanya

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