Emotional Breakdown, I TOUCHED MY BABY'S ASHES TODAY Options

[Kim R.]

I RECEIVED MY KEEPSAKE NECKLACE TODAY, THE TEARDROP I ORDERED THAT HOLDS THE ASHES OF MY SASHA SO I CAN KEEP HER WITH ME ALWAYS. THE CREMATORY WOULD HAVE FILLED IT FOR ME, BUT AGAINST MY HUSBAND'S ADVICE, I WAS DETERMINED TO DO IT MYSELF. IT WAS OVERWHELMING. IN THE YEAR AND 5 MONTHS SHE HAS BEEN GONE, I HAVE ONLY EVEN LOOKED AT THEM ONCE. I JUST FELT, OUT OF RESPECT FOR HER, THAT I SHOULD DO IT. IN MY MIND, THIS IS MY BABY'S BODY REGARDLESS WHAT FORM IT IS IN. IT IS JUST SUCH A BOLD REMINDER THAT SHE IS GONE.....FOREVER.

I MISS HER SO MUCH................

[bearbear]

kim- your sasha looks so much like my suzie puppy that i lost a few years ago. i had her for 17 years and she is buried in our flower bed out front. my wife and i are getting ready to move and i guess i'll take a shovel full of "her "dirt and her monument with us to where we move to. she died in a very cold, harsh point in winter and i built her an igloo out of snow and kept her preserved on our back deck for about a month until i could dig in the ground. her protegee, baby bear has been gone from me for about 6 weeks now(i have lost all sense of time)! and i still can't bring myself to pick up his ashes from the vets. your husband was probably right in his advice to you, but i can see myself doing the same thing and refreshing the already dehabilitating pain and grief that we feel. you are in my prayers and keep in mind how happy our babies are, running together in perfect health awaiting our arrival at the "rainbow bridge"!!! love. ron in pa

[bearbear]

p.s.- everyone who reads kim's post should visit the "animated rainbow bridge video"(EVEN IF YOU'VE SEEN IT BEFORE!!!). you will most definately cry (tears of joy) as you visit the place where your babies' are waiting for you. ron in pa

[parker]

I just ordered a necklace that sounds very similiar except for it is a cross to keep my babies ashes in. I think I will heed your advice and have the pet memorial service do it for me. I think the tears I cry everyday would pale in comparison to the ones I would shed if I did it myself. I know how you feel about trying not to look at the ashes much. I think I have only looked a couple of times since Parker passed, I do however kiss his paw print all the time, but that is different.

Parker's Mom,
Kerry