Is This Only Happening To Me? Options

[Solasmom]

Hi everybody,

It's been six weeks since my precious 16 year old cat, Solas, died. I have found so much healing here and for that I am so greatful. Here is my problem; I wanted to know if it has happened to anyone else.

I have not had a single dream about Solas. I haven't had any "contact" at all. I've even been looking for rainbows and nothing. I want some sign that Solas is OK. I miss him so much. We had such a connection, I really didn't expect the seperation to be so complete. I like to think I am a spiritual person, like I would be open to some kind of sign. It just makes me feel so sad. I want to feel something. I read so many posts that share beautiful experiences and I just feel left out.

Maybe I'm not looking in the right places. So if you want to post any ways you pet has communicated with you, feel free.

Thanks for listening,
Ariel

[karen424]

Yes I know what you mean Ariel! When Buster passed away (5 wks ago yesterday) over the first week, one time felt his body laying by my feet at the foot of the bed, then after that nothing. The only dreams I had were during that first week and they were about his passing, reliving the whole putting him to sleep at the vets. Since then really nothing I really thought I too would have more signs from him - and my mother too (she passed a year ago June). I try to sum it up as they are happy as could be on the other side.

But I know how you feel and I keep looking too.......

God Bless,
Karen

[LS Support]

do you typically remember your dreams? only reason i ask is because as i grow older, i remember fewer and
fewer, almost none to be honest. but i take an assortment of medications daily that probably inhibit my
ability to recall. perhaps by writing what you wrote, it will open a door for you

[BabyHannahsMom]

I have difficulty remembering my dreams too. I'm slowly even remembering some of the things Hannah and I or Hannah used to do. I think the two new dogs are helping me to remember.

Anyway, I have had one dream about Hannah, and it was right after I got the two dogs. The dream was something like this: My brother and my mother (and my mother has been dead since 1976) gave me a little dog. I walked in and the little dog was standing on the floor. She looked just like Hannah, and had Hannah's blue halter on. For a moment, I thought it was Hannah, but when I picked her up, I realized no, it wasn't Hannah, but it looked JUST LIKE HER. I was so sad . . . That's all I remember.

The day after having Hannah put to sleep, my neighbor said she saw a rainbow. I missed it. Also, that same morning, I was looking out my window. The house next door has a tin roof, and I "saw" Hannah perfectly and clearly in the shadows cast by the big oak trees. I could see her eyes, her nose, her ears, and her little body. She was standing up straight. Every morning even now, she is still there. The shadows have changed some now, and it's not as clear as it was for a few weeks, but she's still there. I have seen her in clouds.

The morning after she was gone, I woke up and was almost falling out of the bed! She used to keep scooting closer and closer to me every night, and i'd have to pick her up and move her over a bit. Well, that morning I felt as though she had actually been there with me.

Nothing else. I too feel the same way you do. I want so much to see her in a dream or something. I am still waiting, and I believe one day I will. I personally think for me the main reason I have not experienced some of the things the others have and the reason she has not "come back" is because I have not yet been able to let her go.

If you didn't read the "Poem for the Day" that I posted yesterday (I think), that will help you to understand what I mean and why I believe the way I do. I am still so sad and feel so frantic and lost. The last paragraph of that poem/story reads:

"I understand your tears, each one you shed is testament to your love for me and I am honored and humbled. But don't forget the good things we shared -- remember and smile. This is an honor for me as well. When you need me I will be here. Close your eyes, relax, take slow, deep breaths and picture me in your mind. Shut off the world and your notions of what you think death is and give me a chance. Look for the subtle signs I send you. Don't stop being proud of me. I am a friend to be proud of, I am STILL your friend and soul mate. Don't memorialize the death of my body but instead honor and celebrate my never-ending life for it is eternal and forever as is my love for you. . ."

I have more on this subject, especially of dreams that I want to post when I get a chance.

Don't give up hope. I'm not. After my daddy died, it took probably a half year, but one night he came to me in a dream, and when I woke up, I KNEW AND STILL KNOW that I REALLY, REALLY saw my daddy. It wasn't just a dream.

Bless you,
Marcia

[chuchelo]

I had the same sort of experience on my birthday, the first one since he died. I was SURE that I saw him.

I haven't had any dreams about Chuchelo. Yet. Yikes, it's sooooo sad.

[gingerspal]

solas---one night I wrote out an anguished plea--I asked Ginger to please send me a message if he still loved me because I felt so bad and guilty about his death--(BTW Ginger was a guy cat--kind of confusing I know but when I learned he was a guy I just didn't change his name)
That same night that I wrote out the query I was dreaming about saying I was sorry over and over to Ginger when I suddenly woke up and moonlight was drenching me and my bedroom like a bright blue light! All that beautiful luminous light felt like a loving embrace! I "knew" I had my answer!!
Since then though, I haven't "heard" anything from my pal. I sure can "conjure" him up easily enough in my mind's eye and when I want a visit from him I imagine picking him up (it was a wonderfully fun thing to do because he weighed 17 pounds and when I would pick him up he'd go all "limp" and hang his legs down--all relaxed) even describing it to you I smile with the memory.
My mother died on 6/23/04. I was with her when she died. I really hoped she would "contact me" but she has not. Mom told me a story about how her mother (my grandmother) called my mother's name very clearly from the kitchen a day after she died--so why didn't I get a visit like that?? On the other hand, that always sounded pretty spooky to me, so maybe I am better off without the "visit".

[DJ - Edgar, Jess...]

I haven't had any "visits" or "experiences" at all. I feel that perhaps my guys know that it wouldn't really do much to make me miss them less.

If anything - it would make my heart ache more. They have passed on - I hope they have better things to do than to hang around trying to make me feel better. Guardian kitties for those who are lost or frightened. That's how I like to think of my guys. Much too busy working to drop by.

[deedee]

I, too, watched for a sign that he was okay. I wanted a sign that he had forgiven me for taking him in to be euthanized. I haven't really gotten one. I am hoping he is stuffing his face at the Rainbow Bridge with all manner of good stuff that he couldn't have because of his restricted diet for diabetes.

[DJ - Edgar, Jess...]

I have one SMALL confession to make. Recently, a friend's kitten went missing in the morning. Two days later they still hadn't found him. They were panicked and called me to give them ANY advice on where to look, etc.

I spent an evening meditating and asking Edgar (my toughest little furball) to protect him and guide him home. I asked him to keep him safe and play guardian angel, just once, for this little one.

The next morning the little one showed up in their living room (they had left the window open in case he came back - and he DID!!!).

So maybe Edgar and Jesse ARE too busy to visit me...

[Muffins]

GUARDIAN KITTIES............. I LOVE THAT, DJ!!!!!

I am soooooooo sure that your friend's are ecstatic with the return of their little furbaby!!!!

Thanks for meditating DJ, and, it appears that your guys are extremely busy helping a little one find his way home!!!!

Love, Denise