Chada, Where are you? Options

[Saki & Freyj...]

Hi, everyone,
Sorry I have been bad about posting lately. I am trying to keep up with reading, but have just been so busy...

But I am panicked today. I haven't actually lost an animal recently... not in the traditional sense... maybe it is bc all of the grief is till just so new (can it be new, after 10 mos?)

So Freyja died May 28, 2003, and we still miss her so.

We rescued Hathor from the pound in Jul 2003. She's a wonderful dog, and couldn't be more different than Freyja if she tried...

So Hathor met a neighbor dog named Chada. (or maybe Chata -- I've never known for sure...) They are BEST friends. Hathor loves Chada at LEAST as much as she loves me and Tim. And since we are neighbors, Chada often comes over to play. A few times a week at least. Chada's mom doesn't keep her fenced or on a leash, and Chada will actually KNOCK on our door for Hathor to play. So we will put them in the (fenced) back yard and they will play for hours on end....

I love Chada too. I guess she reminds me of Frey. She is good like Frey was. Calm, well behaved, wants to please... Hathor is NOT like that. Hathor is wonderfully exuberant, but more of a fireball...

For months Tim and I have talked about "taking" Chada. Paying her mom, or... whatever... we have wanted Chada to be a member of our family... But our attitude is that... it's kinda like offering to buy a human child. If someone seriously offered us money for any of our pets, we'd be insulted. ... so we never did....

So NOW Chada's mom has taken off cross country. AND SHE LEFT CHADA WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!!!!!! I am freaking out. I've been crying all afternoon. I've been trying to hunt down this person who Brooke left Chada with. She knew Chada was always over here and I cannot believe she didn't ask us if we'd keep her. The only thing I can figure is that she wants Chada back at some point (and if we got Chada, we would never give her back... a pet is a lifelong commitment).

I am beside myself. I do not know what to do.... and it is probably true that I am more upset about this than I would've been before... As people who've been on here awhile know, we lost not only Frey but Saki and Electra too in 2003. And even though Chada was not really mine, I feel like I have lost her, now, as well. And I don't know what to do... I put a sign up at this place he might go to. Should I take out an ad in the paper??? I feel like I can't bear to lose Chada. Like -- if I find him and he won't give her to me... I don't know what I'd do!!! (And I don't even know who really has Chada.... just rumor and hearsay)...

I feel really betrayed by Chada's mom, as well. Like if Tim gave away one of my furbabies. I don't understand why she took off and let Chada go with somebody else...

So I am freaking out and anxious and sad and I don't know what to do.

[cdboogie]

You know an add in the newspaper might not be such a bad idea. Did Chada's mom move away for good or is this just a vacation? Is there any way that you can get in touch with Chada's mom to ask her who she left Chada with? If you can find this person and they already love Chada maybe they'll share custody with you, or let you babysit sometimes. It's not inconceivable that they might only be doing Chada's mom a favor and maybe having her there is possibly a burden on them and it would be a relief for you to offer to take her. I hope that it work's out for you. Keep us posted!
With Kind Regards;
Cheryl

[shadded dreams]

That is such a sad story!! I think a newspaper ad would be acceptable! I know that if I took in somebody elses pet, just to be a friend to someone who is moving, and I saw an ad about them, I'd call. If the person running the ad truly showed me they cared about my friends former animal, then I'd give the animal up!! Definately!! It's nice to hear about people who love animals so much!! Keep your head up, and GO FIND CHADA!!!! Let us know what happens!!


Zippers Mom
"Give to another like me and then I will live forever. For love never really dies." Ken Conover

[Saki & Freyj...]

Chada's HERE!!!!!

I got ahold of the guy. He sounded like he wasn't sure, he said he'd have to think about it. But then he brought Chada by today.


So she is here and inside with me right now. She's eating what used to be Hathor's food, and is now THEIR food. Hathor doesn't mind -- she's always been amazing about sharing. She happily shares her toys, her bed, her food, her water...

I never ever ever dreamed I'd have TWO BIG dogs. But...

I am so happy.

[Muffins]

WHAT GREAT FANTASTIC NEWS!!!!!!

THANK YOU GOD!!!!!!

It is so wonderful to hear such happy news

GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR TWO BIG FURBABY DOGS!!!!!

Peace, Love, Health & Happiness,

Denise

[shadded dreams]

I am so happy for you all!!!! I am glad that you went after Chada!!! I hope that everyone there is happy now!! I'll bet Chada has never had it this good!! I love to see happy endings on here, I check every day!! Things like this help those of us who are grieving. On the other hand, thanks for the post on how to help other pets who are grieving! I do also feel guilty for loving one more than the other, but I still feel that what we give to the remaining dog will always be better than he had in the past. He was abused, and left a the shelter. He is a good dog, just not MY dog. He's not the type of dog to be a lover. He won't come when he is called, and is not a cuddler. Thanks again, and congratulations on Chada!!!------------------Zippers mom